Thursday Thoughts

20 Aug 2015 57 Comments

by Ritu in Thoughts Opinions & Memories Tags: , , , ,

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This really rang true when I read it.

There was a time when it really mattered to me, what everyone thought of me.  I needed to be the good girl, the respectable girl, so I would do everything that was expected, within the family. ( and I still do..)

I would need to be thought of as fun so I acted like the clown at school. Heck with the hair and glasses I had then I was never going to be cool, so funny was good!

I felt the need to be liked and admired at university, so I was there, doing all the cool stuff, dressing up, accentuating the swan-ness that had occurred, after I blossomed I guess ( no more ugly duckling!)

Then I got married, and the pressures to fit certain ideals were still there, from being the good daughter in law, to a perfect wife and fantastic mother.

You know what, I fitted all those ideals but as I got older, I tweaked them… I realised I don’t have to try so hard, I’m pretty ok the way I am! At universily, after a few months, I couldn’t be bothered to doll up, just for lectures, like a lot of people I knew. Instead I saved that rigmarole for when I actually went out, and it was a lovely thing to get compliments from friends, who saw the difference, as opposed to some people I knew who had to look ‘just so’ at all times, so when we went anywhere, they looked no different, and they would be the miffed ones, when there was no compliment!

And as I have matured, I realise that the sacrifices that may have been made by our mothers before us, aren’t really sacrifices we have to make now.  I put my family first, my own little family.  Then everyone else comes after.  Our partners, children,  parents and siblings are the important ones.  As long as they are ok, I really couldn’t give a monkey’s arse what anyone else thinks!

And, if you are religious, you should know, that whatever you do, however you act, Him up there, He sees everything.  He knows whether you are good or bad, right or wrong, and when judgement day comes, it all comes out anyway!

So me, I’m happy being me. I know I’ve made mistakes in the past.. boy have I made mistakes! But I have always tried to rectify them, and I have never intentionally gone out to hurt anyone.

And as it says above, Like it or lump it, this is the Ritu you are gonna get! (Unless you find another blogger called Ritu out there!)

Have a wonderful Thurdsay Peeps! And remember to be you!!!

57 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. dara40
    Aug 21, 2015 @ 23:01:06

    Reblogged this on Creations in Poetry & Words.

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  2. 1humbleguy
    Aug 21, 2015 @ 00:19:26

    I’ve reached a point in my life where I accept the fact that God didn’t distribute brains equally.

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  3. ladymeritaten
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 20:48:49

    Agree wholeheartedly

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  4. edwinasepisodes
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 18:44:09

    I like the Ritu that you are. Sod what anyone else thinks. is becoming my mantra just lately too! 🙂

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  5. Donna
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 17:40:56

    well said

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  6. Aby
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 15:26:50

    I believe that we can never please everyone. The only person I have to keep happy is myself. So you are right – be true to yourself. If I live by what I am , I stay happy, I stay grounded, I can spread happiness and be fair to the people around me. There are conflicts of course, but I am strong and logical while facing them. But it is one of the hardest thing to do. It is like taking a path less trodden. And I have a very long way to go 🙂

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  7. Shivangi
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 15:08:18

    Wonderful post Ritu. It is very liberating to be oneself rather than try to be what others expect you to be. 😀

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  8. vanbytheriver
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 14:53:29

    With every passing year, it gets so much easier, and people tend to appreciate the authentic “you”, so much more than the image of you. ❤️ Van

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  9. wafflemethis
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 14:31:01

    The world couldn’t cope with more than one. Love you just the way you are sis😘

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  10. The V-Pub
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 14:09:37

    I agree entirely with that quote. Being comfortable in ones skin is a frame of mind that is immeasurable. I never wonder, nor really care, about that anymore. I am who I am and I feel good saying that!

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  11. charlypriest
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 11:53:45

    If I had to bother thinking about what others might think of me I´d probably go crazy, so I find it pointless to even give it a thought. And HIM up there, well hopefully He goes easy on me when judgement day comes, although He is there for the sinners I believe, so there´s no better candidate than me then. But I too have changed as I´ve matured, the word would be to “tweak” certain aspects of me, since at the end of the day I´m who I am and at my age I doubt I´ll change much.
    By the way, what I really want to know is the nitty gritty details of your mistakes……..come on, tell meeeee!!

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  12. Erika Kind
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 09:44:37

    That is a wonderful post, Ritu. So very heartfelt and deep. I so relate to every word. How I tried to fit in, to get the expectations of everyone around met. To tear myself apart to prove how perfect I am as a mother and housewife… for what? Nobody cared and I was treated like a doormat anyway. What a liberation once we find out that when we only do what we do in order to “buy” approval and love, we will never get it. As soon as I did not care about the surface but only lived according to my insight I got this all without effort and it even made me stronger because I was me again. A long way. I so hear you, Ritu and I am happy you could let go of this need of impressing others. What a liberation.

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  13. niasunset
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 09:43:38

    I agree too dear Ritu. But should be the hardest thing to do this, I mean to find yourself, and to be you… because this is always coming up infront of us as a problem…Thank you my dear friend, wisely touching all your words. Have a nice day and weekend, love, nia

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  14. miusho
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 09:30:13

    This is very true… The closer to 30 I got, the less I cared.. now, I don’t care anymore! 😀

    Although I should get back into the habit of brushing my hair…

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  15. susieshy45
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 09:28:10

    I liked what you have written there- very honest, brutal and all there. Keep using this tone in your life and in your writing – because I think this is your true voice.

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  16. Smiling Notes
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 08:11:01

    Very well said..agree with you 100%!

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  17. betternotbroken
    Aug 20, 2015 @ 08:02:17

    I like “you.”

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