“My dad is my hero.”
Harry Connick, Jr.
Thanks, Spidey!
It is Father’s Day here in the UK today, and though I appreciate my darling Pops every day, what a great way to just remind myself, and everybody else, just how wonderful he is!
Here are some words I posted before, but they ring true now and every day…
It’s true, you know, a girl’s first love will inevitably be her father. He will be the benchmark for pretty much every male in her life.
Some aren’t lucky, they don’t get the most perfect example of man to look up to, and yes, that may colour their choices in the future, but no matter what, their father is still, very often, to them at that time, the BEST!
I’ve said it many times, and I’m not afraid to say it again, but I really have had the BEST father a girl could hope for! A beautiful, kind, generous soul, who has given his all to make the best life for his family.
Growing up, he didn’t have the influence of his own father, as my grandfather passed away when he was very young. His male influences were his elder brother and brother-in-laws, and once he was married, he had my other grandfather as a great pillar of strength behind him, until his untimely demise.
He felt a gap in his own childhood, and though he wasn’t one to ask for anything, grateful for all the love and affection he was given, it wasn’t really until he became a father himself that he realised what he had missed and what he wanted to make sure he gave us, his own children.
If you ask Pops, he would tell you that my brother and I were the first things in his life that were really his, and he gave his all, alongside my mum, to give us the life he felt we should have, and the attention that possibly, he didn’t have.
Love has always been there in abundance, from the cuddles, and hugs, to the affection, filled smiles, the ever smiling eyes that just overflow with feeling. The concerned lectures and odd tellings off were even filled with love. The taxi service taking us to various extra-curricular activities on the weekends, especially my brother, with his sport!
Taking us to, and bringing us back from school and university, he did it all, and when I got married and had my own babies he would happily drive a 6 hour round trip, to pick me and baby up, to take us home for a few days, then drop us back. Not easy for a 60-year-old heart patient, but he did it because that is the person he is.
I could never be upset, or mad at my Pops. If he was ever to have to have a go at us, it hurt him as much as it hurt us, as he hated being negative, or strict. And, that mellowness has grown over the years to show an amazing peace within him, and spirituality, which just emanates from him.
And now I’m nearing 40, and he will be a sprightly septuagenarian next year, I still feel like his little girl, and I know that that is what I will be to him forever. I know if I feel down, I can count on Pops to say something to ‘turn my frown upside down’, and give me advice that is near enough always right!
When I was going to get married, I dreaded telling Pops about Hubby Dearest… Would anyone ever be good enough for his daughter? But he was so happy! He met his prospective son-in-law and welcomed him with open arms! Apparently my choice was good! It took us a while to set a date for the wedding, and when it finally happened, we started planning to the max, only to be requested, by my in-laws, to delay the wedding by a couple of weeks, on the advice of an astrologer who my mum-in-law consulted. I was distraught! The venue we had booked for the reception was not available on the new date, and it was just too much!
I sat with Pops and said I didn’t care, we should just leave everything as it was, after all it had taken so long to get this far. But Pops talked me round, and his biggest argument, the game-changer, “So what if you get married 2 weeks later, beta (dear), at least I’ll get you with me for another 2 weeks.” Well! It was a done deal then… It hit home that I would no longer be under his shelter, in the same way, once I got married…
Going forward, we married and became parents ourselves.
I watch Hubby Dearest with our own Lil Princess and see that love between them. I see the special place each holds for the other. I can see her wrapping her daddy around her little finger, and I can see him swallowing the bait whole, and her getting away with murder all the time, because he couldn’t believe that ‘his little girl’ could do anything wrong. I see her idolising her Daddy, and when he is away on business, I know the effect it has on both our kids, they miss him so much, and it fills my heart with joy, that they share such a special bond, father and children.
His previous job meant that he was there early morning, then home to say good night. This new job of his means he is at home more and I love to see their relationship go from strength to strength. As a father, he is more in tune with the needs of his children, and able to take an active part in their life.
In a nutshell, he has all the qualities of my first love, my Pops. They may be there in different quantities, in a different mix, but the end result is the same, a fantastic husband, and loving father, who gives his all for his family!
So, may I take this opportunity to thank my Pops for being the most amazing father to me, and to my Hubby Dearest, for being such an amazing dad to our two monkeys too!
Happy Father’s Day to them both, and to all the fathers, and those like father’s out the rest!
Know you are loved, respected and appreciated…and especially to, those fathers of daughters…yes, you will always be our first loves! ❤
Post first published on The Champa Tree in 2015 as a guest post.
Wishing my Pops, my father in law, my Hubby and Brother the best Father’s day! You are all special to us ❤
Happy Sunday!
But I Smile Anyway... 
Aug 09, 2018 @ 16:25:33
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I will enjoy in this
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I’m so excited
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Aug 09, 2018 @ 16:35:26
Glad you liked 😊
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Jun 25, 2018 @ 01:11:52
Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet and commented:
Come take a trip with our friend, Ritu down memory lane (plus photos) with a reprise of – FATHER’S DAY
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Jun 23, 2018 @ 03:17:08
What a super post, My Dear Ritu!! You had me on the verge of tears remembering my days with my girls! It flies by so fast! Bellissimo, Ritu, Bellissimo!
xoxoxo
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Jun 23, 2018 @ 07:35:40
Thank you so much 😍 my Pops is my inspiration 💜
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Jun 25, 2018 @ 19:04:50
So happy you have such great memories! You have been blessed with a great relationship with you Dad! Seems we learn to appreciate them even more the older we get and after we have kids and go through what we put them through! Ok, maybe it was just me! Ha!
xoxo
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Jun 25, 2018 @ 19:17:51
No I think you’re right. With age comes a certain wisdom.and appreciation 😍
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Jun 25, 2018 @ 20:00:58
Funny how we find out how much we didn’t know as we age. LOL!
xoxo
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Jun 25, 2018 @ 20:11:23
True dat!!!
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 21:52:57
Wonderful post Ritu! Those of us with great dads and husbands are very very lucky! 🙂
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Jun 19, 2018 @ 05:55:50
We are Indeed Linda!
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 17:19:50
This is an amazing post, Ritu. You are very lucky with all the men/boys in your life.
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 17:50:51
I have been blessed Robbie and don’t take them for granted either xxx
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 13:52:08
So sweet! The bond between a Father & Daughter is the best 🙂 ❤
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 15:38:42
I have to agree xxx
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 12:03:47
Loved the post. Enjoy your Dad.
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 12:12:35
Thank you ♥️
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 10:00:12
‘Allo Spidey!! Say hi to Dad!
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 11:47:01
Will do!
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 00:35:14
Thank you for this wonderful story! I am happy with you all! Hope in future you will put all this into a great book. Have a good week ahead. Michael 😉
Ahhh: Whats up with the birds? Hope Sonu Singh got enough to eat. Lol
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 05:30:55
Hi Michael! Thank you!
Yes the animals are all great lol!!!
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 07:29:57
Thank you too Ritu! Thats good! Michael
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 20:28:43
Your dad can rock a head covering (not sure if you call it a turban or not) like no one else. Happy Father’s Day to your pops.
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 21:18:08
I have to agree with you there Tony! Yes it is a turban.
Thank you and have a wonderful day yourself 😁
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 18:33:58
“And now I’m nearing 40” – how long you will be stuck in 39😁
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 19:15:10
I did say this was from an older post! 😁
I’m a proud 42… Soon enough to be 43!
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 02:27:56
I am getting old😁
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Jun 18, 2018 @ 05:29:26
😁😁😁
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 15:35:47
Happy Father’s Day to my “step-dad”. Have a wonderful day, all of you!💖
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 15:36:26
Thank you sis 💜
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 15:40:52
💖 💖 💖
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 14:52:49
I love those pictures. I can feel how close you two are.
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 15:12:14
Thank you Jacqui. He is my inspiration and my guide. Xx
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 14:39:13
Very sweet! You always write of him with great affection and respect — He did a great job starting you off ❤
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 15:13:17
Aw thank you Joey. He’s so special I can only write about him in this way xxx
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 12:21:58
ohh.. I wouldn’t want a girl that behaves like my dad… believe me
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 13:00:28
Lol!
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 10:02:22
I adore your relationship with your Pops. And those photos of the two of you are just oh-my-gosh ADORABLE. I can only wish my daughter has the same relationship with her Dad when she gets older as you do with yours 😍 (I think she will).
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 10:05:33
Thank you Hayley. He is such a precious soul. I wish all little girls have a father figure like him 😍
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 07:41:05
Your dad sounds amazing. Wishing your hubby and pops a very happy Father’s Day!
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 07:45:13
Thank you Rachael. I’m blessed! 💜
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 07:29:07
I wish mine was still here to share a day he deserved too. But we hsd many a giggle a cuddle and made memories to last a lifetime. Nice post Ritu.
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 07:30:46
Thanks Ellen. Memories are so precious 💜
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 07:53:06
They are. X
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 05:52:01
God bless your Dad and Dads everywhere!
Have a great Sunday Sis 💜💜💜💜
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 06:09:35
God bless them indeed 💜💜💜
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 06:12:55
💜💜💜🌹🌹🌹
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 03:20:26
Awww! Ritu! An amazing tribute to hubby dearest and your dad! ❤
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 06:09:14
Thank you 💜💜💜
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 03:08:50
So sweet dedication to the first love
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Jun 17, 2018 @ 06:08:27
And the most pure love too 😍
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