“You don’t know anything now mum: nowadays in the streets, its ‘shank or be shanked’.”
Lil Man
A worrying phrase coming from a thirteen year old ‘innocent’…
We were discussing an old mate of his who has become a nasty piece of work, and Lil Man mentioned that he was moving to his school… Me – not a happy bunny.
I was trying to get him to understand how he needs to choose his friends wisely or there are characters who will lead him astray.
The conversation was very teen angsty on his behalf, and there was no middle ground or attempting to understand that he just needs to learn to walk away…
No.
I got the above ‘quote’ flung at me.
Shank, for those you who may not know, is to be stabbed with a makeshift knife.
Scaring the living daylights out of me…
For Linda’s #1LinerWeds.
But I Smile Anyway... 
Dec 23, 2018 @ 20:57:39
:O good mercy!
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Dec 23, 2018 @ 21:27:29
I know! 😱
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Dec 23, 2018 @ 18:09:54
G
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Dec 21, 2018 @ 02:41:09
Thirteen is no joke. We have 12- and 14-year-old kids and the stuff they say…
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Dec 21, 2018 @ 08:15:01
Oh man, they really know what to say to cut to the bone, don’t they!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 23:11:23
It sounds scary, Ritu. I think he’s just trying to be cool, and perhaps a little provocative?
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Dec 20, 2018 @ 07:55:34
Yes, exactly that I think!!! But it’s so trying…
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Dec 20, 2018 @ 08:13:46
Yes. Adolescence is hard on parents and kids.
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Dec 20, 2018 @ 08:15:47
So true…
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 23:06:35
The fact that he told you this is proof enough he thinks otherwise. If he really felt that way, he would have kept it to himself. As long as he keeps talking, that’s a great sign.
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Dec 20, 2018 @ 07:55:13
We shall keep trying. He was more his sweet self today… 🙏🏼
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Dec 20, 2018 @ 23:05:24
Good to hear 🙂
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 19:35:15
That is for sure one of the biggest concerns of parents. That the children are in a healthy circle of friends. I understand your worries so very much. It is not easy how to react. But you know your son best. I hope he sees the threat and danger soon and understands. The problem is that they don’t realize what they are actually saying!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 19:42:05
I just hope it’s him trying to wind me up as he was very moody yesterday!!!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 20:01:18
Oh, they are good in that! They know exactly how to drive us nuts! I hope so too, sis. Mostly, their mouths are much bigger than their courage!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 20:07:34
I’m thinking the same, but still.. scary words!!!
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Dec 20, 2018 @ 19:22:18
Yes, that is for sure!! Hope he understands soon, what he is saying when even not meaning it!
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Dec 21, 2018 @ 08:12:51
Me to sis… me too ❤
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Dec 21, 2018 @ 20:15:15
💖 💖
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 18:06:38
Yikes! I have 3 boys. When they were in school they did all sorts of stuff that scared me. Now they have all graduated from college and are gainfully employed family men. Whew!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 18:12:23
I don’t want to wish time away but I’ll be glad when he’s a little less hot headed!!!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 16:21:03
Did you ask him where he’d heard that? It might reveal a lot about his life when you aren’t around.
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 16:34:49
There are a lot of kids in his school from inner city backgrounds… And those who watch inappropriate things. They think they’re hard, saying things like this. I just hope we’ve given him enough sense …
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 14:42:52
Wow, Sister, that’s prison talk. I hope it’s just talk and not mentality!!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 16:32:33
I was just talking to him now. It’s stuff he hears others say… And when he’s angry about something, as hormonal teens often are, he spouts these street phrases … I know deep down it’s not what he thinks, but the way he looks when he says them, I can’t help but worry!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 16:37:46
Yeah, the impressionable teen years. Hopefully it is a passing phase and he lets go of that nonsense from the streets!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 16:39:32
Fingers crossed!!!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 16:40:24
🙏🤞
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 14:12:10
Oh! Is this the “School of Life “? A litle bit scary, but otherwise your city is not in an rural environment. So sad, but we have to deal with. ;-( You are a very good mum and teacher. Think you made and make it best. Best wishes, Michael
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 16:30:01
Thanks Bro. We are not in the countryside and there is a lot of city speak that goes on… I know he’s just repeating things he hears, but it scares me!!!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 12:01:12
That’s difficult to hear, Ritu. I hope when choices have to be made, he remembers the life’s worth of lessons you have given him.
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 12:29:29
I sure hope so Dan!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 11:44:54
Oh boy, this is rough for both you and your son, Ritu. Without knowing you personally, I would guess that you raised your son well and gave him a grounded moral compass. I’ll think positive thoughts that he uses his compass to steer clear of this old friend or at least not cave in to any misdeeds. Hugs.
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 12:30:56
It’s worrying. I’d like to think he’s just repeating words rather thank thinking these thoughts…
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 11:25:46
How worrying Ritu…Know how you feel as I have three sons. They all tried Marujana (?)when younger (and told me so) but were, fortunately, against hard drugs. Still very worrying at the time. Now 50,56 and 58, I’m relieved they’ve grown up safe and sound, and hope they stay that way, They may be mature but this mother’s love never changes… Hugs xx
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 12:44:44
Thank you Joy. I know the worries are just starting… Xx
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 09:02:56
It didn’t feel right to ‘like’ this post. What a worrying time to be a parent. You have the right approach by talking about difficult issues. Teenage years are always difficult but these days there is so much more to worry about. With love, Yvonne x
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 12:41:59
Appreciated Yvonne 💜
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 08:12:44
Sadly Sis it is the way things are. Keep talking to him, keep the lines of communication open. He is a good boy with great parents 💜💜
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 12:31:16
That’s what we are trying xx
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 12:37:12
You will succeed 💜💜
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 08:00:32
Time changes… people changes… but to be parent is same… we always worry about them. Maybe more than ever because it is not as before… But there is an important point in here dear Ritu, you are a nice mother and I am sure Lil Man will be growing up with your angle light… Blessing and Happiness to you all. Thank you, Love, nia
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 08:07:22
Thank you Nia. I hope so xx
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 07:41:55
WOW! That’s terrifying. My two youngest (17/16) come out with all kinds of phrases that mean nothing to me. They also tell me the scary tales of what the kids are up to these days – fortunately my lot avoid at all costs. You’re a fabulous mum, Ritu, and little man will make the right choices when the time comes xx
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 08:08:42
The language and street speak is quite scary!!!! I do hope so!!! Xxx
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 07:24:36
Oh, how worrying, Ritu. Let’s hope the usual teen exaggeration pertains, here!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 07:26:39
I do hope so… He’s trying to be cool… I think!!!
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 05:43:36
Will it ever be over? I mean the anxiety.
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Dec 19, 2018 @ 07:01:42
I don’t think it ever ends… My parents are constantly worrying about us still…
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