How are you at taking compliments?
Are you one of those who is able to graciously take one, smiling and not looking smug, or do you colour up and just not know what to say?
I’m not quite sure where I stand.
I don’t get outwardly embarrassed – it’s quite hard to flush as an Indian! But on the inside, I feel like a bit of a fraud taking a compliment.
The other day, my mum was so proud, telling me that one of my Hubby Dearest’s aunts had been on the phone to her, and within the conversation, she had mentioned how she thought everyone should have a perfect daughter-in-law like me.
That was so very sweet to hear, but I am good with the outward appearances. My parents have brought me up well, to understand about respecting elders, how to speak to everyone, having a smile on my face, and being happy to help.
I can do all that easily, but I’m not perfect, seriously. I still have my faults. I don’t do all the cooking and cleaning for my in-laws, I can get a bit stroppy with them, heck sometimes I don’t actually want to go there EVERY DAY, but I do. Because that is what a good daughter-in-law does.
I’m a wonderful wife and mother, apparently.
No, I am good at making sure everyone is fed, and had clean clothes. I know all homework is complete and I am a fantastic taxi service.
But I’m too tired to spend quality time with my Hubby without wanting to just fall asleep. I spend half the time yelling at my kids because I have used up all my patience on the children in my various classes.
My colleague told me she looks up to me, as a teacher.
I’m good. I’m not great. She is absolutely fantastic. I am calm and have a way with people so I can keep myself organised (Virgoan trait), and I can tell stories amazingly.
But I don’t think I am an inspiring teacher the way she is. There are days I want to walk out of the classroom. I don’t know my craft inside out – sometimes I totally wing it!
And as for being ‘Best Blogger’…
Really? I love what I do on this blog. I try my hardest. Yet I look at others, and I am in awe of them and what they achieve. I’m not the ‘best’. I just put my heart and soul into it, and I hope for the best.
But I’m not inspiring. I don’t write things that are out of this world, just my jumbled up thoughts and interpretations.
So you see, I feel like a fraud. Somehow the outward appearance belies what I really am, and how I feel inside… And when someone compliments me, I feel awful, because I know it’s a facade…
I’m not some role model – I’m just me…
Though there is one thing that is true… I will most definitely always have a smile for you!
Geetha B
Oct 02, 2017 @ 08:13:38
From what I have read from your blog you are an amazing human being and deserve to be an inspiration for others. I love the simple, humanitarian and tolerant approach of your writings.
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Ritu
Oct 02, 2017 @ 12:53:14
Oh my! Thank you so much Geetha❤❤❤❤
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Geetha B
Oct 02, 2017 @ 14:22:34
Welcome Ritu. Much love to you
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Ritu
Oct 02, 2017 @ 17:55:01
😙😙😙
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gemmaorton
Oct 01, 2017 @ 20:45:09
I am terrible at taking compliments, I never know what to say in return, other than something negative, in some way declining the compliment or stating at how I could be better.
Great post, we should all know our strengths, weaknesses and be proud of being ‘me’.
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Ritu
Oct 01, 2017 @ 20:56:25
Definitely Gemma! Only we can be the best ‘me’ !!!
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Sarah Brentyn
Oct 01, 2017 @ 15:10:08
I am awful at taking compliments. I’ve written (at least) one post about it. I’m extremely self deprecating when people say something nice.
I love your post here, admitting fault, taking some praise, and, ultimately, being yourself. ❤
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Ritu
Oct 01, 2017 @ 15:20:13
Thanks Sarah! It’s hard to know how to take them sometimes!
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Cloud Walker
Oct 01, 2017 @ 14:58:43
I’m so strange, that when people compliment me, there’s akways an underling of sarcasm.🍁
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Ritu
Oct 01, 2017 @ 14:59:23
Failsafe move for some!
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Cloud Walker
Oct 01, 2017 @ 15:04:11
❤️
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Nisthur Anadi
Oct 01, 2017 @ 11:29:57
Lol you are perfect in every role and sense.
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Ritu
Oct 01, 2017 @ 11:42:55
🙂 thank you
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Nisthur Anadi
Oct 01, 2017 @ 11:44:20
Pleasure is all mime Ritu..
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jazzfeathers
Oct 01, 2017 @ 11:25:22
I know exactly what you mean.
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Ritu
Oct 01, 2017 @ 11:27:36
😊
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NickyB.
Oct 01, 2017 @ 02:43:36
I have to admit that sometimes I do not take compliments well.
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Ritu
Oct 01, 2017 @ 08:25:13
We all have our moments!
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josypheen
Sep 30, 2017 @ 20:42:15
Those are lovely heartfelt compliments. Even if they are hard to take, I hope they made your day better.
Don’t feel like a fraud. You’re awesome.
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Ritu
Sep 30, 2017 @ 21:01:13
You are too sweet Josy! Thank you 😍
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willowdot21
Sep 30, 2017 @ 19:27:00
🌹💜😊
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Lisa Orchard
Sep 30, 2017 @ 13:28:49
It’s awesome to get such a wonderful compliment from your mother in law. They can be hard to please! So that makes the compliment that much better!
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Ritu
Sep 30, 2017 @ 13:33:24
Thanks Lisa!!
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Jennifer
Sep 30, 2017 @ 13:10:25
All we can do every day is try our best. Seeing people trying their best inspires me to try my best.
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Ritu
Sep 30, 2017 @ 13:32:47
That is very true 😊
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You Can Always Start Now
Sep 30, 2017 @ 12:49:19
You are so not a fraud. You are human. I think we are the worst at recognizing our own strengths. I think it if a human default to minimum our strengths first before someone else does. If that makes sense. I feel you, my dear, run on a different fuel than the rest of us to begin with!
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Ritu
Sep 30, 2017 @ 13:32:27
Ha ha! I just hope whatever I run on is eco friendly then!
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Jennie
Sep 30, 2017 @ 04:03:00
Ritu, this is so wonderful! I swear you were writing about me. Really. Even the part about being a terrific storyteller. The best part is all the heart. And that’s what you have: heart. That’s what makes you amazing and why you get complements. Best to you!
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Ritu
Sep 30, 2017 @ 07:37:08
Aw thank you Jennie! You know considering we haven’;t spoken in reality let alone met, I feel know you so well! We are cut from the same cloth, of that I’m sure! ❤
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Jennie
Sep 30, 2017 @ 12:10:38
We are, Ritu. My Grandmother always said ‘cut from the same cloth’. 🙂 Happy weekend!
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Ritu
Sep 30, 2017 @ 12:21:28
You too Jennie! I’m am old soul lol!
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Jennie
Sep 30, 2017 @ 19:18:44
🙂
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Erika Kind
Sep 29, 2017 @ 20:44:29
When whatever we do, we do from our hearts then it will always touch others and make them admire us…. the same way as we admire others. If we get such compliments then we have radiated something from deep inside.
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 20:51:58
I only hope they are genuine then sis xxx
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Erika Kind
Sep 29, 2017 @ 20:52:41
If it feels good to you… why questioning it?
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 20:55:01
Xxx
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Erika Kind
Sep 29, 2017 @ 21:08:55
😘😘
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Annette Rochelle Aben
Sep 29, 2017 @ 18:05:25
Peace be with you
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 18:35:35
Peace totally needed right now Annette!
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Shadows Crew
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:53:10
I offered to proofread for someone recently and they were super happy about it because, apparently, my writing is “so wonderful”. And ugh. That’s a nice thing to hear, but at the same time I don’t know what to say and I don’t like the pressure of having to find something to say. I’m just constantly tempted to respond with “Thank you, but… Please don’t.” o.o
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:55:34
The pressure is immense!!!!
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Aimer Boyz
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:10:43
We pick ourselves apart, we know all the little things we could have done better, all the things we did wrong, or didn’t do at all. We’re so busy kicking ourselves that we don’t even notice the things we do right… Take the compliments, Ritu. You deserve them 🙂
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:54:48
Thank you so much xxx
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OIKOS™-Redaktion
Sep 29, 2017 @ 15:28:59
Reblogged this on Die Erste Eslarner Zeitung – Aus und über Eslarn, sowie die bayerisch-tschechische Region! and commented:
WE ARE BACK ! MURPHY IS ELIMINATED! ,-)
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joey
Sep 29, 2017 @ 15:12:21
I used to be so awkward when given a compliment. I still struggle at times, but I’ve gotten better. As for you, just in reading you, I’d say you deserve all your compliments.
You know what helps? Acknowledging that people SEE you. You know, like really see you, trying, struggling, balancing, leading, falling, laughing, crying, winning, losing — with grace. 🙂 It’s rather inspirational to see authenticity in all its forms.
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:53:25
Well I definitely try to be me on my blog .. warts n all!!! Thank you xxx
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Lutheranliar
Sep 29, 2017 @ 14:35:46
Here’s another compliment: You are such fun to read, and besides, you are generous, gracious and kind to other bloggers.
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:52:34
Oh man! How do I take that?! Thank you lovely 😍
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Radhika Acharya
Sep 29, 2017 @ 12:19:31
Keep being who you are Ritu. 🙂 Although most of us don’t need compliments to survive, sometimes – just sometimes – it does feel nice when someone says something nice about us!!
I have this friend who takes back every compliment I’ve received from someone else by commenting that they must be saying the same things to people other than me as well!! 😦
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 12:22:00
Some friends are really not friends eh! 😊
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Radhika Acharya
Sep 29, 2017 @ 12:33:09
They are good to keep us grounded maybe!! 😉
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Aimer Boyz
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:15:01
I’ve had that happen to me to, I’m all pleased about some compliment and then someone says something like, “Oh, they were just being polite.” or “They’ve been trained to notice something about a customer and compliment then on it.” Which could be true, but couldn’t you let me enjoy my little moment in the sun? 😦
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:55:10
We all need that time to feel good
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Aimer Boyz
Sep 29, 2017 @ 19:25:04
Yep 🙂
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Radhika Acharya
Oct 01, 2017 @ 15:11:46
Absolutely my feelings too. It’s not as if we’ll go to town on one compliment right!!
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Prajakta
Sep 29, 2017 @ 11:07:05
It depends a lot on who is complimenting – I swing between the impostor syndrome and super smug I-know-I-am-the-best state… 🙂 Or just disregard it because empty compliments are the worst!
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 12:20:03
Lol there is That!
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nuwansenfilmsen
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:30:04
Interesting write-up!! But don’t fret!! Nobody is really perfect. After all, we are just human, not saints!!
But I agree, when one compliments me, I feel a tad embarrassed. It’s normal, whether you show it outwardly or not!! 🙂
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:31:49
Thank you so much!
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foodzesty
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:26:48
I think you great!! I love the stories that you write, your challenges, your everyday thoughts….when I read them I feel like I have a friend who is expressing there everyday issues and happiness and sadness to me. This is because you are good at what you do and it shows!!! my previous messages was I don’t even know what happened there. At the end your only human Ritu….:) Have a great day Sophie
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:30:50
Aw Sophie thank you so much! That is very sweet of you to say ! ❤
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foodzesty
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:34:16
But it’s true…when I first starting blogging one of the blogs I came across was yours, it made me feel like I was talking to a friend, I felt like you were expressing some of the feelings and issues I was having at the time…So, you are good and I made a new blogger friend 🙂 We are only human Ritu not robots, so there will be days when your not up to doing anything, etc. 🙂
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:35:28
I am so happy you feel I am a friend! I do love my Blogily! ❤ Have a lovely day Sophie!!!
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foodzesty
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:35:58
You too Ritu 🙂
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robbiesinspiration
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:11:15
Hi Ritu, I am also not very good with compliments. Nobody is perfect but doing the best you can, even if you don’t always feel like it, is very honourable and does make you a really good person. Happy Friday.
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:00:24
Thanks Robbie! I hope you have a wonderful Friday too! ❤
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Osyth
Sep 29, 2017 @ 05:53:09
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so if others see your mothering, daughtering, teaching, blogging or whatever else as brilliant that is theirs to behold. Hearing it can be vaguely uncomfortable but you ARE all those things because others say so. Not a fraud at all but someone cherished and valued and I, for one, am not at all surprised 🙂
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:59:54
That is very sweet of you to say! Thank you so much ❤
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Judy E Martin
Sep 29, 2017 @ 05:51:07
I am not very good at talking compliments at all, and will often put myself down,Many of us can relate to this Sis, I certainly get blog envy when I see wonderful . polished blogs that look good and always produce great content. I have had to let it go though. I don’t have the time to spend on getting my blog anywhere near that standard! Like you, I write from the heart and I think that is what people love about your blog. That, and the fact that you are always so positive.
None of us are perfect parents, wives, mothers but you love your family and are always there when they need you,. You do your best at everything you do and that counts for a lot xxx
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:59:28
Thank you sis! And you, in my eyes, are a wonderful poet/blogger/nurse/wife and mother too! xx
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Judy E Martin
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:11:33
Thanks so much Sis. xxx
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syl65
Sep 29, 2017 @ 04:06:30
We all have a pretty good sense of who we are inside. Just take the compliments graciously Sister as a sign of appreciation for who you are. You are not a fraud or pretender, you are just you…with a smile of course 🙂
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:58:12
Thank you Brother! I can’t help but feel it though… !
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syl65
Sep 29, 2017 @ 13:55:42
You’re welcome Sister and I know you’re keeping it real!
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 17:51:31
😍
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syl65
Sep 29, 2017 @ 23:49:28
❤️
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IreneDesign2011
Sep 29, 2017 @ 04:04:44
Compliments are not always easy to receive, often I find them better to give. You are doing so well, you don’t need the compliments to survive, which some people do.
Another thing is, how we compliment kids, they do need some, but even better to teach them to be satisfied with their own way of life.
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:57:32
This is true, Some kids are given compliments all the time – positive parenting – but it just ends up with them being indulged and spoilt!
Thank you !
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mihrank
Sep 29, 2017 @ 03:52:30
Ritu – you are a creative lady, talented in writing, positive and inspirational, respectful, a good sense of humor.
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:56:44
Now you’re making me blush Mihran! Thank you so much ❤
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mihrank
Sep 29, 2017 @ 07:42:52
Ritu – your sense of humor enough for me to adore you:)
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 12:17:16
💖💖💖
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susieshy45
Sep 29, 2017 @ 03:40:45
Ritu
You are refreshingly honest. As to compliments, I believe it is a cultural thing. We are taught to do all that and so much more for others, that sometimes we don’t know how to be genuinely happy that we are there for others.
Susie
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:56:19
It’s definitely upbringing Susie!
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viridianreader
Sep 29, 2017 @ 03:06:12
Compliments are a tricky line to walk because you need to keep the balance between humble yet thankful. If you ever figure that out please let me know ASAP.
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Ritu
Sep 29, 2017 @ 06:55:50
If I ever do, I’ll let you know!
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