Romantic Tuesday – Passion

 

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I breathe
I exist
Only for you
The passion
I feel
Runs through and through
Your touch
Your lips
Excitement does brew
Pure heat
A release
For our love is true

Ritu 2017

#RomanticTuesday

RonovanWrites #Weekly #Haiku #Poetry Prompt #Challenge #155 Ember&Flame

Apologies for my later than usual entry Peeps, I had a banging headache and I’m afraid I was unable to create last night, but fear now, my brain was awake and pain free this morning!

Lovely Ron’s Weekly Haiku Prompt is upon us again!

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Ember & Flame

The burning embers
Reignited to light a flame
Of a passion lost

Ritu 2017

Behold the beauty
From the embers of the night
Rises a new flame

Ritu 2017

 

Inter-Faith Marriages #MondayBlogs 

On Saturday morning I received a message from a friend.

She had forwarded a screenshot to a few of us friends, of an Instagram post from a Sikh Youth group here, supposedly educating against the use of alcohol or drugs, and ‘grooming’.

This shot showed, in clear view, a photo of a wedding card, for a couple due to get married today in my local Gurdwara.

The bride is Sikh, the groom, of African/Gujrati descent.

The message accompanying the photo was to basically phone up the temple and cause a ruckus about a marriage being held there between a Sikh and a non-Sikh.

Let me clarify here, she had sent the photo as a discussion item in a group chat a few of us partake in. She was not in agreement with the message, just horrified that someone out there was instigating people to go and ruin another person’s special day.

This morning, apparently a crowd of militants had arrived at the gurdwara, and there was heavy police presence. Despite this, the groom did arrive, and the wedding did take place.

However, my thoughts went the following way…

Who are these people to disrupt another person’s special day?

If the Gurdwara accepted the booking, surely they have no problem with a mixed faith wedding?

How dare they?

I was so glad to hear that the ceremony took place, as it should have done.

It takes months, if not years, to arrange a wedding day, and if there is an issue with a mixed faith wedding happening in a particular place of worship, then that should be addressed at the time of enquiry and booking, not using a lynch mob on the day!

We have heard of this actually happening here a few times, where weddings have had to be cancelled on the day, not due to the couple having problems, but because groups have congregated to protest.

Yes, ideally, a marriage should be of two Sikh individuals in a Gurdwara.

Most Sikh people would say that.

But, in my eyes, if two individuals wish to marry in the Gurdwara, that should be embraced too.

For a Sikh girl, she will have grown up seeing Sikh weddings taking place, and no matter who she falls for, that ideal of a perfect Gurdwara wedding is the same as for Christian brides and their white weddings.

I have seen several mixed faith weddings in gurdwaras over the years, and to be honest, I find that the non-Sikh partner in the couple, is often more knowledgeable about the ceremony, and fully respectful of all the temple asks than the Sikh partner!

Mixed faith partnerships can be hard, but they can also be a beautiful union. We have one in our family with my brother and his Finnish bride, culminating in my Finndian nephew. Both the faiths are upheld and my nephew will be educated in both so he can decide for himself what to follow when he grows up

When they got married, it was a civil ceremony, followed by a Christian blessing, as my sis in law’s cousin is a priest, and a Sikh blessing, conducted by my Pops.

When they came back to England after the wedding, we had special prayers to give them that official blessing in the Gurdwara.

Here, where I live, there have been, in the past, a few mixed faith weddings, before they were ‘banned’ as instructed by the Akal Takht (the powers that be for the Sikh religion in Amritsar, India) in Gurdwaras.

But recently many temples have decided to allow these marriages, as there is a feeling that if they reject the youngsters who want to follow their faith, but marry whoever they love, then our religion will die too.

Our local Gurdwara also decided to allow these weddings to take place. In fact, last year I went to a family wedding there where the bride was Sikh and the groom of mixed race, not Sikh.

Some say that the gurdwaras are just in it for the money, not upholding our faith, after all, they do charge for these functions, and you do pay, quite hansomely, for the pleasure of using the facilities for a wedding.

Honestly, I don’t know what is right or wrong.

But my gut says “Live and Let Live”. It’s not hurting us if someone wishes to marry their love in the gurdwara. If we were being truthful, most of the Sikh couples who do marry in the temples aren’t baptised or true Sikhs either.

They may hold the banner of being Sikh because they were born into a Sikh family, but they may drink, smoke, eat meat, not pray, cut their hair… all things which a true Sikh would not do.

If it were only ‘true’ Sikhs who were allowed to marry in the Gurdwara, then there would be hardly any weddings taking place there. Rather, we would need many more Registry offices to perform civil ceremonies!

Sorry for the total verbal-diarrhea style of this post… But it incenses me to hear of things like this!

So I am off to ‘Zen’ myself. Peace be with you all Peeps!

 

The Girl On The Train – Book And Movie Review

A few weeks back, I was lamenting over having started to read American Pastoral. I had seen a trailer for the film, and really wanted to read the book before watching the movie. On the same day I saw that trailer, I saw the ad for The Girl On The Train.

I’m not one for thrillers, or mysteries.. leave me with romcoms and children’s films, or good old Bollywood and I am much more comfortable! As I advance in years, I have come to realise that it is well worth stretching both my reading and movie genres, as I have been missing out on many amazing books and films, having been trapped in my own self imposed entertainment bubble!

Now, after the struggle of reading American Pastoral (you can read about my thoughts on that one here!) I have yet to watch the film… And The Girl On The Train was waiting for me on my Kindle.

Was it going to be an utter disappointment, like American Pastoral? Should I even chance it? I had plenty of fluffy light reads to switch to instead, but no, I felt I should give it a go!

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My rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐

So, what’s it about?

Well, it is the first novel of this genre by author Paula Hawkins, who was initially a Romantic Comedy writer publishing under the pen name, Amy Silver. not getting much success with the Chick Lit, she tried her had to psychological thillers and came up with this!

It’s a story told in the first person, from the view point of three different women. All connected by a thread which isn’t revealed until the end.

Rachel Watson is a divorced alcoholic who travels on trains everyday, to kill time hiding her unemployment from her flat mate. She begins to conjour up stories for certain people she sees regularly from the train, not realising that these strangers will soon become embedded in her own life.

Anna is Rachel’s ex husband Tom’s new partner. Having had an affair with Rachel’s husband, she ends up moving in with him, and they have a child, but she can’t shake the ghost of this es-wife from her life. Convinced that Rachel is deluded and a danger to her and her child, she is always on tenterhooks if she sees her.

Megan is the third woman. An outwardly beautiful person with what seems to be a perfect life. She is the one who Rachel sees from the train, with her husband Scott, regularly. Megan’s life is not so perfect, and there are many secrets she is hiding.

The twists start when Megan is missing, and then the resulting investigations, and Rachel’s thoughts that she can help Megan’s husband with what she witnessed on the train.

I don’t want to go any further with this story as I will spoil it for you!

But… what did I think?

Initially, I found it a little hard to get into, as the moving between three characters was a little confusing. But as the story progressed, I found myself second guessing everything, and needing to read on to see what happened!

But I have to say I did enjoy it, and it made me eager to watch the film too!

Image result for the girl on the train filmMy rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐

As with all book to film conversions, there were a few key elements missing, but they didn’t distract from the film at all. If, like me, you had read the book first, then you would find it a little annoying, but looking at the film as a stand alone piece it was very well done.

I was a little disappointed that the film was set in the US when it was actually written as having been in London! The principle character or Rachel was still English but the rest were Americanised!

Emily Blunt, as the main protagonist, really gets into the role of the almost permanently sozzled Rachel, and her confusions, then gradual realisations. She carries this film singlehandedly.

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There is a lot of to-ing and fro-ing, as in the book with the time frames, jumping from one characters viewpoint to another, and going back and forth in time, but it keeps you on your toes!

And I did enjoy it.

If you haven’t read the book, watch it if you like to be kept in suspense. If you have already read the book, be prepared for the changes, and if you can keep that in mind, you should enjoy the film too!

Oh, and another surprise was realising that one of the actors was from That 70’s Show!

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That was’t the only one… Phoebe from Friends Lisa Kudrow also features in the film too!

Friendsphoebe.jpg   Then and now! Lisa Kudrow Catches The Girl On The Train

Do I recommend it?

Yes as both a film, and a book!

Watch it first, then read the book!!!

Or be a wally like me and read the book first, and pick holes in the story of the film!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 123

“If you stumble, make it part of the dance.” – Anon

Perusing Google and the inspirational sayings it offered, Spidey and I came across this one.

What a great way to think!

None of us is perfect.

And in a world where ‘perfection’ is continually forced upon us, be it celebs and their (artificially enhanced) looks, or lifestyles, or even down to the perfect fruit and veg we buy in the stores, it is easy to feel as if you are imperfect.

But just a little holler out there to you all,

Perfect is Boring!!!

It’s much more of an interesting journey we travel if we make the odd mistake or wrong decision. It shouldn’t be ruled out or forgotten.

Whatever slip up is made contributes to the person you are going to become.

Embrace your mistakes.

Accept them, and move on.

Learn from them.

Make them part of your story, don’t edit them out of your life’s manuscript.

Now go on and have a perfectly imperfect Sunday my dear Peeps!

 

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