The wonderful blogger, and someone I am so happy to call a sister, Erika, wrote a post the other day, all about things that were holding us back in life, and then she found a song that was her symbol of letting go of the situation that held her back.
She invited others to do the same, find something to show as a symbol, and letting go of something we also need to, to make life easier.
Here’s mine.
I really need to let go of one thing in my life, and that is my constant need to please everyone else. Sometimes I run myself ragged, trying to be there for everyone, volunteering to help, or even putting my own little family second, to please someone else.
Well today I am letting go of that feeling. I will always be the person I am, but I am actually going to put me, and my little family first. If someone’s nose gets out of joint, I actually don’t care! I have to do what is best for us, for me, and hey, I’ll fit the others in around us, but no longer will I move us around to make others happy… (unless I want to!)
This is actually going to be really hard for me, as I have always been the one to be there, and I really don’t want to stop totally, but I do feel that I am taken for granted by so many, that maybe this step back will make others realise too….
Thanks Erika, for giving me the inspiration to actually think of letting go… I hope I manage to do it!
But I Smile Anyway... 
Jul 21, 2015 @ 17:08:09
I think you are doing the right thing Ritu. After all, as you discovered recently, for some people what ever you do is just not enough, and when you have already made so many sacrifices for the sake of others who do not even appreciate you, it is definitely time to let go and do things for you and your little family.
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Jul 21, 2015 @ 20:27:09
Thanks for the encouragement Judy, I shall try my best now!!!
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Jul 21, 2015 @ 20:34:31
Yay! Stick to it Sis. 🙂
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Jul 21, 2015 @ 20:36:27
😊😊😊
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Jul 21, 2015 @ 00:45:47
Love this. Insightful.
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Jul 21, 2015 @ 07:06:19
Thank you 😊
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Jul 21, 2015 @ 13:41:26
You’re welcome.
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 03:35:02
Good Luck with letting go you will be pleased you did you and your family come first the rest will follow 🙂
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 07:00:13
So true, I hope I can really let go, it’s a hard ask,as I’ve been like this all my adult life!
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 07:08:38
It’s never too late and little steps at a time that’s all it takes 🙂
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 07:09:05
Baby steps, s what imma gonna take!!
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 07:15:23
Good girl that’s a good start, think back to when your kids were doing that how long was it before those baby steps became bigger 🙂
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 07:39:27
True words! I’m off to work now but will catch up after school!
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 00:19:22
What a relief, isn’t it Ritu!? It’s a profound feeling of liberation.
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 06:56:11
It really is Rob, but I need to really action it now… My brain and heart aren’t wired naturally, to not care, so this will be hard for me to do, but I will try to step back from others issues, and deal with mine first!!!! 😊
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 23:06:17
With every line I was reading my smile got bigger and brighter. I don’t have anything to add but: You are an amazing, warm hearted, powerful, lovely, compassionate, and very wise woman. You rock, Ritu!!!
(Btw. did you realize, that the song I posted was me singing it? It is my latest production.)
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 23:20:23
Wow sis! The song was beautiful!!
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 23:23:23
Thank you, Ritu 😊 Just wanted you to know in order to understand the deeper meaning of the relation between my symbol and the subject of letting go.
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 23:25:01
I kinda guessed it was something personal! Beautiful though! 😊😊
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 23:40:06
Thank you! And it did the trick. How do you fell now after posting? And how is your body doing?
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 06:54:57
It’s Monday morning… My body is slowly getting less stiff, and I’m happy! It’s the last week of term!!!
I feel much better after writing this, I just need to action it now!
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 09:16:32
Yes, that is exactly the point. Confuce says: An insight not applied wasn’t an insight.
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 17:25:00
Yup! I’ll do it sis, promise!!
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 19:29:06
Love ya, looney Luna 1
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 20:22:47
Love ya too!!! 😘😘😘
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 20:32:27
😘😘😘
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 20:35:40
😍😍😜😜😘😘
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 20:44:51
😉
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 21:17:53
You go girl. Do it. Above everything else in life you will always have your family they have to be your top priority but for you.
You have always been a Rock make its just your priorities you need to adjust but whatever you do. Do it because it makes you happy not other people☺☺
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 22:24:01
Thanks Rich, you’re right, my immediate family is my priority,,it’s the extended one that the problem half the time!!!!!!
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 22:25:19
Like I said do what makes you happy. If you need to chat you have my email☺
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 22:26:53
Thanks bro! 😘😘😘
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 22:27:33
Your welcome little Sis😉
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 20:33:43
Hope this worked to clear you conscious and free your thoughts!
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 20:37:51
Marissa, I really hope so! It helped to write it, and I felt almost lighter straight away.. now I just have to actually do it too!
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 02:25:05
Right, easier said than done!
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Jul 20, 2015 @ 06:59:13
Absolutely Marissa!! I know it’ll be a struggle, but I’ll try my hardest!
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 20:30:39
Ritu,
From the time I started reading your posts, I have felt this – perhaps you are doing too much ! No one person can give so much of themselves to others without something giving way. Call it my blogging instinct or my physicians or even philosopher’s.
I am so glad you have had a, forgive me- ” reality check” and are planning to give your things first place in your life.
You are a bold woman to have realised this and even bolder to have had the guts to post this.
I wish this would be how your life will be lived for all the coming days and not just for today.
Susie
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 20:36:04
Fingers crossed Susie, I will act on what I have written here… my biggest thing is that I promise myself to too many people, or they assume I am always going to be able to do things because I did them in the past, and though I am the same person, my situation has changed, and I can’t be everything to everyone… but I think its important to do what I can, well, rather than spread myself so thin that I break, in the end.
If you think I am overdoing things again in the future, make sure you pull me up on it!!! 😀
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 20:37:22
Ritu,
Thanks for accepting graciously what I wrote in a moment of passion and perhaps outrageously.
I will certainly do that, if I notice it.
Susie
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Jul 19, 2015 @ 20:39:22
No, Susie, I appreciate and respect honesty, totally! ❤
If you are a true blog pal, which you obviously are, then you are able to be open about things, and as your pal, I should be able to take every bit of advice given, and use it to better myself! 🙂
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