Reasons To Stop… Reasons To Not…

I sit here often, thinking of taking a break.

A blogging break.

A real one.

You know, no visiting blogs, writing, reading, interacting… nothing.

Yet I can’t do it.

I think of the reasons to stop, yet there are arguments that voice themselves, making me think I can’t just up and disappear.

Reasons to stop

  • Real life is manic – whose isn’t though, eh!
  • My kids need to see me doing things rather than being on a pc or laptop a lot of the time… am I setting a good example?
  • That WIP isn’t going to get itself finished
  • Certain people think maybe I’m more involved in my online life than reality
  • No one is really going to miss me that much – I am one of millions of bloggers out there, there is plenty to read without my mindless ramblings

Reasons to not

  • I love my blogily
  • Reading and writing feeds my creativity
  • I love to spread positivity
  • I get to switch off from the worries of life and enjoy my time interacting with my friends around the world
  • I feel I can really be ‘me’ on my blog
  • I’m not in the right frame of mind to be writing my WIP at the moment but I don’t want to lose the love of writing
  • I am perfectly capable of switching off when I need to do other things (just!)
  • I enjoy it. This is my one outlet, my one stress reliever. I don’t drink, go out regularly with friends, go to the gym etc, this is my one ‘vice’ so to speak.

I did decide to post less… but I still end up on here at least once a day, taking part in creative prompts, and reading via my reader during the day.

I’m still sharing the odd posts for others, but not as active on my blogging group as I know that took a lot of time out of my days; on an interacting and sharing mission, I was – hands and eyes glued to my phone so I could be a fully active participant. I still do some days, but not every single one.

The long and the short of it is that I can’t let go. And I don’t want to. I have seen a few close blogging friends take that blog break leap, and know that it hasn’t affected their blog or interactions in the long run, but I just can’t!

I think my blog is keeping my sanity, in all honesty! I can rant, I can joke, I can be serious… and I know that y’all got my back!

So I guess you’re stuck with me Peeps!

Have a great Tuesday  – I need to go pack my bags for my road trip to my parents tomorrow!

 

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  1. Losing the Plot
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 14:48:49

    Trying to juggle everything pretty hard, I work PT in Local Government, which is more than enough. Many of my friends are teachers, I know how much additional time they need to spend at home, so between that, family and blogging – you deserve full credit!

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  2. Gloria
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 14:10:33

    You have 5 reasons why you should stop and 8 reasons why you should not! Aw…. we’d all miss you too much Ritu. But some days you could just do less if you want!

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  3. Shallow Reflections
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 12:50:43

    I share your struggle, Ritu. I work Thursday and Friday and take somewhat of a break those days. It is a relief and I miss it at the same time. It is difficult to balance participation in the blogging world with making time for your creativity. And the work never ends, so I need to take time of separation to keep things fresh and keep ideas flowing.

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  4. Gary
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 11:48:06

    Fascinating study in self justcifcation…said with tongue in cheek and a great deal of nodding and cheesy grin. How many people have this internal discussion? Lucy did it last week, I do it every time I write a manuscript…usually January and February…although that might be SAD in action thinking about it.

    It’s hard to get the balance just right too. Do I log in too often, am I on too many platforms, should I be outside more, engaging in the real world…all valid guilt thoughts. Flip it over, how many brilliant friends have I met here? Like minded and not quite the insular village people around here. It reaches out to all corners of the world, different cultures, ethnicity, beliefs….and yet we are all the same underneath. It keeps perspective and reality presses the media and politicians. Close friends are often distant too. Blogging is a hobby so why not absorb in it? So many reasons to keep doing it IMO.

    I’d miss you too…just saying x

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    • Ritu
      Feb 17, 2018 @ 11:54:53

      AW Gary ! Thanks ! #GaTu!
      I say it.. I think it, but I don’t think I could actually do it!

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      • Gary
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 11:58:05

        Oh no…you just turned it into an addiction lol. It is a hard one though. I guess, like anything, it has to have balance and recognition if we spend too much time doing it??? #GaTu

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      • Ritu
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 11:59:12

        I do step away from some of the sharing and things now, so I am not consumed by it, but I can’t ignore comments, and if I need to post, I NEED to post!!! Definitely an addiction, but one that hopefully benefits others too, not only me lol!!! #GaTu

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      • Gary
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 14:13:45

        Gosh, sharing things is the easy bit lol. Hot click and poof…although I feel you might be referring to social media days where both you and I go out on a limb trying to catch everyone. One thing I learned writing my manuscript was how much time there is by stepping away from social media. I can’t do both which is why I was totally on-board with Lucy’s situation…. now about your WIP lol

        Still, bottom line is if it’s fun and stays fun then all OK, if its lost the fun and one still “needs” to post them we are doing it wrong and accept addiciotn!! #GaTu

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      • Ritu
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 14:32:13

        I got you on that last point Gary. When it’s not fun you have to step away.
        And WIP… it will get done. But I’m not feeling it right now and don’t want to go at it half heartedly if you know what I mean!

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      • Gary
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 15:25:59

        Maybe in summer Ritu, with school running I bet by days end writing the WIP is the last thing on your mind!!

        I agree too, if its half hearted, then you end up re-writing it anyway so better to wait until your are in the zone…as long as that’s not #procrastinating which. I shall have you know I am most excellent at 🙂 #GaTu

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      • Ritu
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 15:42:06

        Ha Ha! Even Easter could be an option!

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      • Gary
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 18:30:34

        Good point. You tackle that and I’ll finish my other one in EaWriMo !!

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      • Ritu
        Feb 17, 2018 @ 21:27:13

        Lol!! Let’s do it!!!

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      • Gary
        Feb 18, 2018 @ 15:44:05

        I’m in! I so need to finish that one. Its a year overdue!!!

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      • Ritu
        Feb 18, 2018 @ 16:48:24

        😀

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  5. fancypaperblog
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 11:26:36

    I am the same. I feel guilty for all the typing time- yet I love it so much. Not going anywhere! Glad you aren’t too!

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  6. Phil Taylor
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 11:23:56

    You’re like me. Blogging is my drug of choice. I can’t stay away.

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  7. mistybooks
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 11:04:35

    I’ve taken a step back lately – other things do tend to get in the way, but I miss it. Is it possible to get blog withdrawal symptoms?

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  8. Claire Saul (PainPalsBlog)
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 10:55:44

    Are you kidding?? Not be missed?? Look at all the comments on this post already! I do understand your sentiments about setting examples to our kids with our own time spent behind a screen, and my mum makes little barbed comments about my laptop time….but like you, I enjoy it and since my health has taken a dive, it has been a great support. In fact through the blog I have just been appointed as Chronic Pain Advisor for the Scope disability website! So please don’t disappear, Ritu – just cut back a bit!! Enjoy the end of your half term xxx

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    • Ritu
      Feb 17, 2018 @ 10:58:39

      Claire… that is awesome about your appointment!!!!
      I’ll try to cut back or at least not feel guilty for being ‘lazy’ (if I don’t check out otger posts and respond to comments I feel so bad!!)!!!!

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  9. MindOverMeta
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 10:51:56

    I’ve been worried about taking breaks in case I lose all my followers or something terrible happens! But, nothing like that has happened and a short break has helped refresh me and motivate me to get back to it. However, I think I needed the break in the first place because of the pressure I placed on myself to post and come up with “great” posts. So, maybe the likelihood of needing a break is lowered if we place less pressure on ourselves to post X number of times a week. You do what feels right for you…like you, it’s a creative outlet for me so I couldn’t imagine my life without it!

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  10. arv!
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 09:36:36

    Always a dilemma. So much to do and a very little time!

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  11. Denzil TheBookOwl
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 09:22:52

    What Cherie says above resonates with me. I work from home, and in these days of digital communication I can go days without face-to-face contact with a colleague. Blogging is social. However, if it gets too much, we all have to put it on the back burner from time to time

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    • Ritu
      Feb 17, 2018 @ 09:27:44

      I guess only we can decide when that time for a break is necessary. But yes Blogging can sometimes be the only meaningful communication apart from work and mum based conversations!!!

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  12. laughingatthesky
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 09:19:28

    I find it hard to stop too, yet the more I focus on social media the less progress I make on my book and the more I seem to drop out of life. I have now set whole days aside for book writing, social media intensity, and adventure.

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  13. noellekelly
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 08:52:51

    I sometimes take unintentional blog breaks, when I’m just not feeling it. You have to go with your gut lady 🙂

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  14. notebooksandglasses
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 08:47:39

    I’ve realised how addictive blogging is, but in a good way of course. I am always wanting to learn new things and reading other blog posts gives me easy access to stuff I thought I’d never learn. I too am reducing the number of blog posts I publish – from 2 to 1, so not a massive reduction – but it’s giving me time to write some perpared content and get ahead of the game.

    Oh and what does WIP stand for?? 🤔

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    • Ritu
      Feb 17, 2018 @ 08:58:45

      WIP is Work In Progress. In my case it’s a novel that I’ve been writing (on and off – if I’d been writing constantly it would be 6 million pages long Lol!) for the last 17 years!!!!

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  15. The Emma Edit
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 08:30:33

    I agree with everything you have said Ritu! I’m on a ‘break’ at the moment, but I can’t switch off completely 🙂

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  16. Fiona Maclean
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 08:25:24

    Blogging is so cathartic isn’t it! Anyway, you can’t take a break cos we’d all miss you hugs

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  17. joey
    Feb 17, 2018 @ 01:18:20

    Completely relatable, especially lately. Glad you’re here x

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  18. Traci York
    Feb 15, 2018 @ 13:57:03

    You TOTALLY got this! I completely agree with everything you said, and as you know, I stepped back a great deal earlier this year, but I just can’t stay away. And don’t sell yourself short – you would DEFINITELY be missed if you took a break! hugs

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  19. You Can Always Start Now
    Feb 14, 2018 @ 17:10:01

    I would so miss you if you stopped. But do realize it is time consuming. Do what you have to do to take care of you.

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  20. thebeasley
    Feb 14, 2018 @ 15:15:23

    Good to hear Ritu!

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  21. Jennie
    Feb 14, 2018 @ 12:26:57

    I so relate to all your dos and don’ts. If I take a few days off, catching up on reading my fellow blogger’s posts can be overwhelming. And, it’s what I love to do. I should be writing a parent newsletter right now, but I’m pleasure reading posts like yours. Happy blogging, Ritu!

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  22. Debbie Harris
    Feb 14, 2018 @ 09:59:53

    Oh Ritu, I understand completely! You sum up the pros and cons really well and I for one am glad you are sticking around. You are such a bright spark 😊❤️

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  23. masgautsen
    Feb 14, 2018 @ 09:44:47

    We would miss you if you where gone Ritu! But if you need a break we will be here for you when you get back!

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  24. Dorinda Duclos
    Feb 14, 2018 @ 05:16:19

    Don’t you dare disappear! I love your posts and miss them when I can’t get to them. Yes, that real life stuff stinks! Enjoy your creativity. Perhaps explaining to those who don’t understand, can help. You did a fine job telling us ❤️

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  25. Aimer Boyz
    Feb 14, 2018 @ 03:35:39

    I’ve thought about stopping too and I probably will one day, but that day isn’t yet 🙂 I’m glad you’re not ready to say goodbye either 🙂

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  26. pranabaxom
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 22:08:58

    The second bullet under “Reason to stop” and the second and third bullets under ” reasons not to stop” are very valid reasons.

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    • Ritu
      Feb 13, 2018 @ 22:11:30

      See… that’s why I get so conflicted in the head!

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      • pranabaxom
        Feb 13, 2018 @ 22:18:58

        We do what we can do. If there are days that we can’t write, so be it. Sometimes luck/destiny or God works in ways that we can’t even fathom. Against all my good judgement, I took my notebook with me when I went to India in December, 2017. As luck would have it, I lost the notebook in Seoul airport. Took it out during security check as I was going out to the hotel for my 14 hrs layover and must have left it somewhere there. Gave a complaint in lost and found but it was not found. As a result I had a most enjoyable vacation in India but missed out on creating a travel blog of my trip. I have hundreds of photographs and many ideas in my head what to write but its not happening. Who cares, live goes on.

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      • Ritu
        Feb 13, 2018 @ 22:23:05

        Love does indeed go on… but what a shame you lost your notebook! I’d have bought a new one!

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      • pranabaxom
        Feb 13, 2018 @ 22:24:40

        Ah, and face a nasty Valentine’s Day for my indulgence🙂

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      • Ritu
        Feb 13, 2018 @ 22:26:29

        Lol!!! No… don’t risk That!

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      • pranabaxom
        Feb 13, 2018 @ 22:26:55

        🙂🙂🙂

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  27. Jim
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 21:45:55

    what do you mean that no one would really miss you??? I’d miss you! you’re killing me sweetie! you’re just killing me!

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  28. kingsoracle
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 20:04:44

    Glad to know that you’re not quitting. You are always a breath of fresh air.

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  29. josypheen
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 19:16:43

    I’m glad you’re sticking around. We would all notice if you disappeared Ritu!

    But at the same time, I think it makes sense for you to step back a bit from the blogging groups. You are soooo good at sharing and commenting and being involved with soooo many bloggers. We love you for it, but totally understand that you can’t keep up that pace forever! Plus, even if you do a quarter of the shares/blog chatting, you’ll still be doing more than most people!! 😉

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    • Ritu
      Feb 13, 2018 @ 20:12:25

      That is so lovely of you to say Josy!!! I have stepped back from the sharing. Not doing every day. But I don’t think I can totally disappear. My blog keeps me sane!!!

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  30. robbiesinspiration
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 17:33:28

    I would actually miss your ramblings quite a lot, Ritu. Yours is one of the blogs I visit the most. I have the same conundrum and I did take a blogging break over Christmas. I missed it a lot and just reverted to more of other social media.

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  31. scr4pl80
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 17:12:51

    Can’t leave now, I just found you! Totally get what you are saying though and that’s why I don’t blog as consistently as I’d like. Having a theme or being part of a challenge makes it easier to blog every day but life definitely does ebb and flow and sometimes the blog has to be the thing that is left off the list.

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  32. willowdot21
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 17:02:41

    I completely empathise and share all your pros and cons….. Blogging keeps us sane it is our life blood. I honestly feel safer in the blogesphere than in the harsh hard real world.🌹💜💜💜

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  33. John Holton
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 16:40:59

    Obviously, you’re the only one that can decide you need a break. Plenty of us would miss you if you stopped altogether, regardless of how many other blogs are out there. If it’s an issue of time, you might consider scaling back, maybe making one day a week “Best of Ritu” or something. But don’t give up altogether. You run a nice blog.

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  34. Lisa Orchard
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 14:44:07

    You would be so missed! I’m glad you’re here! 🙂

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  35. syl65
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 14:43:54

    We definitely have your back Sister!! Glad you’re sticking around in however way you choose to! ❤

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  36. The V Pub
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 14:03:01

    Yup. We’re stuck with you. And you, with us. ❤

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  37. Kelsey @ There's Something About KM
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 13:25:14

    I would miss you! But as a fellow blogger whose life is more manic than usual lately I also understand needing a break, or at least needing to re-balance. 🙂 Have a great trip. xx

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  38. amindfultravellerblog
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 12:27:00

    We’ve always gotcha back Ritu. Enjoy the road trip to see the fam. X

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  39. trentpmcd
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 12:26:36

    I’ve taken a few blogging breaks. Do it! You’ll be glad you did.

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  40. OIKOS™-Redaktion
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 12:15:49

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  41. Dan Antion
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 12:12:07

    It feels like a good place to be stuck – glad you’re sticking around, Ritu.

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  42. Rajiv
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 11:47:46

    I do occasionally take blogging breaks

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  43. Miriam
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 10:36:07

    I often feel exactly the same way but at the end of the day just love it too much and can’t let go! Glad you’re sticking around. 🙂

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  44. Erika Kind
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 10:12:44

    Isn’t it awesome? When we started blogging we did it because we had the time and space for it. Although life changes and time has become a big issue we always find ways to keep blogging when even our blogging habits change. But we won’t stop!!

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  45. Carol
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 09:22:22

    I think you are like me you like the interaction to much…Blogging until we can no more…lol

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  46. Suyash
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 09:18:58

    Wow

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  47. pensitivity101
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 09:12:27

    We all need a break for whatever reason. Running out of ideas for posts is always good for taking time out! Have a safe trip.

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  48. Sue Vincent
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 09:00:23

    You would be missed…but we would all be here when you got back 🙂
    I haven’t missed a day completely for probably the last three years, and that was because I collapsed in a heap in a layby. But once a month, I step back a bit for a few days when I go north… without that break, I’d have a lot less to write about 😉

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  49. beehalton2
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 08:57:49

    I would miss you too but you know that I have to take breaks at times due to my mental health and life, of course. If you feel you need one maybe it would be good to give it to yourself anyway. Doesn’t need to be for a long time either 😊 but I also know what you mean. Life without blogging doesn’t seem worth to me 😗

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  50. thatblogwherecheriemovestogermany
    Feb 13, 2018 @ 08:50:29

    I would miss you!

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