“If I have to say your name/it again…?”
Ritu and every other parent out there!
Okay, so this isn’t going to be a simple one-liner… is it ever with me?
You read the above.
I’m currently considering the overused line above, that I definitely uttered today, at least three times, in the same situation!
What is it with kids not listening?
And why do I utter these empty threats?
I should really learn.
Saying anything to children of a certain age will gain you nothing.
(Unless you’re promising lots of sweet/TV time [the little uns] or V-Bucks for Fortnite and unlimited access to mobiles [older kids], then they listent o anything you want.)
Yet I still have these battles of wills with my kids, and sometimes my pupils at school.
Am I expecting too much?
Should a child jump as soon as we tell them to do something?
Or is it fine for them to drag their heels, dawdle for as long as they want, then stomp around in a huff when they are late for school?
I mean this morning, I used that quote/phrase to the demon teen Lil Man at least six thousand times, to get him out of bed…
And tonight, I had to repeat myself about the same to tween trouble, Lil Princess just to get her to put her shoes on so we could go home from my in-laws’ place…
And they didn’t rush/hurry/listen.
Yet I am still here, back home, in one piece. Nothing major happened to anyone because we were a few moments later than usual.
But, the point is, shouldn’t they be listening to me/us the first time?
I mentioned empty threats before, because they are.
I admit I tell them I will take phones/internet access away. Or that I will cancel a meet up with their friends.
Yet I don’t actually see it through… the fall out after something like that is just too big for me to deal with after a day at work!
And when they meet their friends, it’s a chance for me to catch up with the mums too, which I don’t get to do often enough!
It’s just easier to nag at them a little longer, endure the stomping and keep on going because the mood they’re in means they will disappear into their bedrooms for an hour after we get home, and I get peace before my sweet(er) children resurface!
So, yeah… that was my one liner!
Written for Linda’s #1LinerWeds prompt.
niki1k
Feb 11, 2019 @ 16:53:11
So today I was doing much in my power to not turn into full blown me- When I have to repeat myself too much” and sure enough as fate would have it, as it does much with me in “my” blog world – I am literally using my calm voice to get my point across about repeating myself, and come across this tab for my son to see with his own eyes-
The question I asked him- before showing him your tab as he is sitting right next to me to see, that I close a tab and open the next one -“doesn’t it irritate you when you have to repeat yourself?” he answered “yes sometimes”_ ok so why cant you understand how much it frustrates me to have to do it repeatedly
As you mention in this post – you only have to do it with things they do not want to do. Today like two hours before reading this post, I said just as nice and clear as possible no games, no YouTube, do your I Ready – he rushes do one I Ready for each subject and rushes back to me, I done.
I said to him – no you are not finish – you just completed what you felt like doing- Now here’s come the test I am getting on videos- I didnt respond –
I understand no on jumps every time a person speaks but most people period hate to have to repeat themselves. If they(the kids) tell me something and I forgot – Oh gosh mom I told you this – but if I say pick up your shoes more than once I am being a bitch.
Needless to say at this moment my house is in silence and this is one time I made myself clear without the yelling, the threats, and cliched arguments.
To my daughter clean that tub I told you clean last night, to my son you have 3 lessons to do you only did one, it may not be what you want to do, but do what you have to do.
Happy Monday, Have a Great Week of parenting, as my oldest expressed to me “you may want to show that you are tired of arguing while not arguing” Today i believed mission accomplished and Thank You deeply for sharing your experience based on my long ass comment you can see I really needed it.
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Ritu
Feb 11, 2019 @ 18:02:22
Always happy to let a fellow blogger/parent rant on here. It’s not an easy journey…
I had a fun morning too😉
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thereluctantpoet
Feb 08, 2019 @ 00:42:52
Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.
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coffeefueledbanter
Feb 07, 2019 @ 18:11:10
You are definitely not alone.
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 18:42:55
Thanks.. I am so glad😊
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John Holton
Feb 07, 2019 @ 15:39:49
My mom used to say, “If I have to get up off this chair…”
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 15:47:21
I’ve said that too…
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syl65
Feb 07, 2019 @ 14:52:46
You know they have to test you and see how far they can take you before the wrath of Rituzilla comes down..
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 15:46:32
😂
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 15:46:44
You know that!!
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syl65
Feb 07, 2019 @ 16:11:04
Haha, yes!!
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tsepotheview
Feb 07, 2019 @ 13:54:10
Parent’s duties is providing guidance to children whether their own or not even though sometimes it might be harder nonetheless it has to be done.
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 14:04:12
It’s tough but we gotta do it!
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OIKOS™-Publishing
Feb 07, 2019 @ 01:44:05
That is life, Sis! Also lessons for the parents.Sometimes it is not easy to deal with the own will of kids. But this – i think – is the only way making them to great persons. Rethink your own childhood. 🙂 Michael
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 07:01:41
What doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger!
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OIKOS™-Publishing
Feb 07, 2019 @ 08:30:22
A very “German” quote. True, but not so good used by Germans itself. 😉 Best wishes, Michael
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 12:39:41
😉
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joey
Feb 07, 2019 @ 00:10:06
Well I think you needed that vent! It’s like that sometimes. You’re not alone.
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 07:00:28
Oh I’ve missed not venting on here!
Glad I’m not alone!
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Dan Antion
Feb 06, 2019 @ 23:22:46
I understand and sympathize, Ritu. On a lighter note, I think you wrote more than me today 😏
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 07:00:01
Making up for not participating for a month! 😉
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Dan Antion
Feb 07, 2019 @ 12:16:02
🙂 I’m glad to see you again.
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 12:40:40
Glad to be back 😊 thanK you
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johnrieber
Feb 06, 2019 @ 22:32:31
A universal issue for any parent – but think back: did you do this to your parents? Why or why not? I did and why did I? Because I was a bratty teen!
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Ritu
Feb 07, 2019 @ 06:58:51
Oh no John… I was the perfect child…. 😜 Until I hit university!
But I get you. Its a never ending cycle!!!
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Erika Kind
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:32:05
They know that there is a world beyond the limits. A time they have to go through as the parents have. It is a “letting go” and a “staying consequent”. They will continue checking out the limits. Lessons for both parties.
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:38:34
Pushing boundaries… It never ends sis!
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Erika Kind
Feb 06, 2019 @ 20:11:58
Not for a while… but one day they are grown up… lol!
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 20:24:06
I don’t know… I probably still push my parents too 😅
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Erika Kind
Feb 07, 2019 @ 19:15:27
Haha… 😅
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pranabaxom
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:25:51
One liner? Oh yeh. That one month’s absence and bottled up challenges all coming out now😄
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:29:52
See.
That’s what happens when I try to stay shtum for a while 🤣
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pranabaxom
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:32:47
😁😁😁How did the belly dancing practice go?
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:39:01
Cultivating an amazing belly over the last few weeks 😜
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pranabaxom
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:48:19
My, my! forty five is fast approaching😄
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 20:01:37
I know 😲
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LindaGHill
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:24:04
Empty threats lead to nothing but frustration for only one person: mum. I had to train myself not only to pick my battles, but to choose my words carefully too. It’s hard in the heat of the moment to not utter a threat you’re not prepared to follow through on. It takes practice, but I’m living proof that it can be done.
Then there’s dealing with the consequences (for you) of having to follow up. Can you say “exhausting”?
Haha! Good luck, my friend. 😉
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:29:04
Ha!
Thanks Linda!
I do try to pick my battles… But sometimes I end up battling because of another person’s view, not necessarily my own.
The joys of extended family!
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willowdot21
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:23:25
It hard being a parent to teens.. unfortunately this evening I have had a nasty reminder that it never gets any easier.💜
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:27:33
We think the tough time is the endless sleepless nights as babies… That’s just the start…
Hope you’re okay sis 💜
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willowdot21
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:34:01
Lol that is the easy part 🤭💜💜
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:39:12
I’m finding that now!!!
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willowdot21
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:42:02
Nothing lasts forever 💜
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Ritu
Feb 06, 2019 @ 19:42:25
💜
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