Another Wednesday, another chance to Be Wonderful On Wednesday, like the lovely Ronovan, of Ronovan Writes, requested that we do.
This week the prompt is How do you keep positive?
Well, that’s an interesting one.
If you’re a regular reader of my blog, you’ve probably guessed that I am, in general, a pretty positive person. I’m not sure that many times have cropped up, where I haven’t been positive. It’s just the way I was brought up to be.
Now there’s a thought… Are you born positive? Or is positivity taught?
I think that we all have the capability to be positive, but your upbringing, the attitudes around you, can most definitely influence how positive, or negative, you end up, as an adult.
As a child, I saw my parents go through various situations where they were dragged through the mud, put in the firing line for no reason whatsoever, times they had to take huge responsibilities onto their shoulders, at quite a young age, and always with a smile on their faces.
It would get my mum down, but until I was quite a lot older, I only saw the smiles on her face, and the positive outlook she had, on whatever situation the family was in at the time. Once I reached maturity, and was able to understand more, what was going on, she would tell me the truth, but also explain why it was important to stay positive.
My Pops, well, he was, and still is, Mr Positive. He is someone who always sees the silver lining, in so many situations. Like when we were setting our wedding date, after a couple of years of engagement. It was all set, the venue all chosen… Then due to my Mother In Law consulting an astrologer, we had to postpone the date by two weeks. Oh My Goodness! I was upset, furious, not willing to change the date, but my Pops said “It’s not a problem Beta (dear) if they believe in something, let us do it, change dates and the best bit… I get you to stay here as my little girl for two more weeks.!” Well, that was what swung it for me! Even during the hard times when I suffered 2 miscarriages, it was his words that pulled me through…
So, with these icons of positivity around me all my life, how could I not be positive?
I wonder, if I saw them arguing, or crumbling during all the ups and downs, would I feel like I do now? Or would I tend to just give up whenever I was faced with any issues?
If, and yes, it does happen, my Hubby and I argue, or disagree, over anything, I find it important to sort it out straight away, I can’t allow the negativity to fester for days, like many people I know. I find it hard to stay angry for too long!
If things get me down, I allow myself a moment of woe, after all I was born on a Wednesday, I’m meant to be a child full of woe…(sorry to disappoint!) then I think of what my parents always taught us, I find the positive in a situation, and smile through!
