Seriously!!!!
What is with these children??!!
You’d think that after dealing with 20-40 kids a day in the term time, that having just the two at home would be ok…
Well, you’d be thinking wrong!
Heck I’ve taken assemblies with nearly 200 kids, that was an easier ask, than this parenting in the holidays malarkey!
It’s been a week… ONE week. We still have 5, FIVE, to go… And I’m ready to send them to the zoo!
I know it’s their ages, Lil Man is 10 and starting to understand things a little too well, but he still has that innocence and immaturity about him. Plus he thinks he is a martial arts superhero so ther is no such thing as walking, no. He has to highlight every saunter of his with a slight spin and kick, or if Star Wars is on his mind, then well, he’s swinging an light sabre around!
If his sister is annoying him, and I can see the blood about to boil, then usually I can call him aside, remind him she is annoying, yes, and get him to step back. But if I’m not there, the simple solution of a sly kick, or push, or changing the channels on the TV, then hiding the remote, happen, and all hell breaks loose…. Then it’s my blood simmering, and at that blow your top point!
And Lil Princess….. Oh, that little 7 year old madam! You know when she is cute, and sweet, it’s great, but wow, does she have a streak in her! I’m her mum, and I can see it, and I will say it too. I’m not a mother who has blinkers on. She seems so sweet to everyone, but when she wants to, she can be so spiteful!
Twice in the last two days, she has reduced her brother to tears! (And he’s not a crier, ever!) one was a punch, ( a PUNCH!) in the head, because he accidentally hit her with his elbow, while getting off the sofa… And today, he ended up with a scratch on his thigh from her! And her solution? When you see an adult approaching, just cry. The water works will stop you getting told off!
No no! Not this time! Today the children were given a lecture rather than a bedtime story. I had had enough! No amount of taking things away, or those empty threats work now. So I was firm.
Yup, there were tears, but I’m not daddy, or the grandparents, or uncle and aunty. No, I am Bad Cop mum!!!
Seriously, it feels like I am the only one who doesn’t take any of her rubbish. Everyone else gets caught up in the tears, and the Poor Lil Princess routine! And she gets away with stuff, AGAIN!
Well, after that, I’m sat down to watch a film with Hubby Dearest. I needed a laugh, and the film didn’t work! 👿
So Hubby got the short end of my fuse, as I told him what a little s*** our daughter was, and that he was too soft! (Alongside the fact that he couldn’t sort out the film!)
Then the in laws rang to saying they wanted to drop our car off, (they’d borrowed it) and could we then drop them home, well. Another straw on this camels back! It was no big deal really, but Hubby had had a few beers, so he couldn’t drive, and I was in my PJ’s. So guess had to get changed and do the drop off??!! Yup, me. Even thought I said don’t worry, we’ll get the car tomorrow. Nope, it needed to be done now!
So while dropping them, I made sure they knew about the brattish behaviour of their grand daughter, and that once we come back from visiting my parents, that they need to stand firm, and not give in to the tears, especially when they know she is doing something wrong… Got the response I knew I’d get from grand dad (who shares a birthday with the brattish one!) “Oh, but Lil Man does things too…” Yes, I know he does, but you know, we can deal with him. He is ok when we talk, and he tries to act on what we say… Though he does forget, but Lil Princess… She’s another level!
So anyway, they are asleep now, I think. And I hope that the lecture may have sunk in a little to her especially!
Tomorrow is another day, I know, and I hope it’s a good one. We go to Nani and Nanu, my parents, on Tuesday for a few days, and I know they’re looking forward to it, as they always do, but at the moment, I’m ready to cancel if there is any more silliness!
Ok, deep breath!!!!!!!!
I’m ok. I can do this!
Rant over! Lol!!!
Good night all my lovely peeps, positivity reigns!!!
Mariposaoro
Aug 03, 2015 @ 22:20:36
Hahaha!! My niece used to be like that. Tell her off she’d cry.. Her dad used to pull her up about it. Her mum(my half sister), let her do anything she wants.. She’s 15 now(niece) and her mum can’t talk to her.. She tried to be too much of a friend to her.. Kids need boundaries.. Not a ‘buddy mum’!! Mums like that need to grow up in my opinion!! Well said! Keep drilling hubby.. You know men take telling all the time!!
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 22:25:56
I shall keep drilling lol! Things were so much better today.. But its oy a day…
Still, one day at a time, Rome wasn’t built in a day, and I’m sure her habits will take time to be moulded too! 😊
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Mariposaoro
Aug 03, 2015 @ 23:06:15
Yeah.. Needs to be nipped now though.. 7 is a bit much for temper tantrums!! I would probably ‘spare the rod’ eventually! You have much patience!!
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Ritu
Aug 04, 2015 @ 08:08:45
She is the proverbial angel at school, it’s like she would bottle up the anger, just for me!!!!
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Mariposaoro
Aug 04, 2015 @ 18:28:35
Oh… Children sometimes have two sides.. I hope nothing is wrong. Bottled up anger?? Just sounds like she is trying to push buttons.. Aww well, stern talking to seems the best way!
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Ritu
Aug 04, 2015 @ 18:57:41
Yup, she’s testing boundaries OK!!!
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J.A Lopez
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:25:55
Motivational speaking! lol! 😀
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:38:55
I seem to do a lot of that!! 😜
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amaya911
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:07:06
Oh no! I only have one but he gets in his moods. I have a bratty boyfriend who sometimes acts worse than my 9 year old though :D. My son has been staying with my grandparents since he’s out of school so I’m over there a lot. I’m still straightening things out at the house, including his room. We moved into my boyfriend’s grandma’s house. They left about 50 years worth of stuff in here but it’s finally coming around.
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:12:06
You sure you wouldn’t like a couple extra for a few days??!! 😜
But wow! 50 years worth of stuff… You must be busy!
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amaya911
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:15:42
Lol. It never ends! Then my bf brings more junk!
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:37:26
Lol! Sounds like me to be honest!!!
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amaya911
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:38:22
Lol. Ritu, are you a hoarder?
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:40:09
I am… I hold my hands up… I find it so hard to have a clear out…!!
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amaya911
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:41:40
Lol at least you admit it, my bf is in denial.
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:43:06
I am admitting it…. To you… Not my Hubby dearest!!! lol!!!
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Erika Kind
Aug 03, 2015 @ 07:54:07
Perhaps that might comfort you a little. That is my story about me and my kids: https://erikakind.wordpress.com/2015/03/25/feelings-of-guilt-my-confession/
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:50:28
Thank you sis! That was an awesome post! 😍
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Erika Kind
Aug 03, 2015 @ 07:52:09
Ritu, I can only say that what you write, was experienced by me and the fights between my children 1000 times. They can be angels, but when they are in the mood they are teasing each other to tears. My youngest son can be so stubborn which annoys the others to the boil when he is not cooperating a bit. My middle son is a quiet one. But when he gets annoyed he kicks his little bro wherever he reaches him. And my middle son is 16 and very tall.
Ritu, this is the age where the kids discover their own personalty, where the I gets very important. It is a tough, annoying and nerve wrecking time. But I can assure you one thing: WE ALL GO/WENT THROUGH THIS. You have all of our understanding. And you are doing nothing wrong. This is not about you, this is beause the kids are developing. From now on you might be challenged a lot. I always say: It is not getting better, it is only getting different as they grow. But you will grow into it. You will get to know a new side of Ritu with the behaviors of your children. Much potential for growth 😉
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:44:00
Oh, and the wealth of inspiration, and blog fodder eh!!!
Thanks Sis,I’m know we parents all have to go through it, but sometimes you just have to let it out, don’t you!!!
Peace is reigning….. At the moment!!!
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Erika Kind
Aug 03, 2015 @ 11:00:39
Of course! I am glad you just let it out. That is also a way for others to see that they are not alone with their struggles. It is again good for me too to see that I wasn’t the only one struggling with the same issues 🙂
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 11:08:22
We’re all in it together sis! 😊
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Erika Kind
Aug 03, 2015 @ 12:44:41
Definitely 🙂
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 13:02:06
😊
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edwinasepisodes
Aug 03, 2015 @ 06:41:14
Oh Ritu. I know how you feel. I am back at work today and hopefully will get a break from it. Miss Hap has been off 2 weeks already and it is pretty hard work. Hope everything calms down for you xx
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:42:18
Well the few days with my parents should be good, as I have two folk there with my thinking, plus they have grandparent powers…. And miraculously, Nani seems to make fun stuff appear, that keeps the peace!!!!
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edwinasepisodes
Aug 03, 2015 @ 15:57:46
That’s good Riyu. It will be nice to have a bit of back-up 🙂
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 16:01:32
Oh absolutely Judy! I’m looking forward to it!
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edwinasepisodes
Aug 03, 2015 @ 17:04:33
I’m pleased for you, I t will do you all a world of good 🙂
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 17:47:00
😊😊😊
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Trish
Aug 03, 2015 @ 02:12:40
you know, I don’t have any idea how it happened but, my kids never fought…not once…they have a strong bond that I am not even a part of…I wish I could tell you how I did it but, it’s like a freak of nature how well they get along lol. My sister’s kids fight like cats and dogs. When I was little I never fought with my sisters (3 of them) but, they fought like crazy. Maybe they inherited my temperament….I have always been one to discuss rather than argue and stick with the facts. Hang in there!! You are not alone….that stuff is all about learning to get along in the real world….they outgrow it!
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:38:29
Oh I hope so!!! My brother and I disagreed all the time, but when he went to boarding school, it was true what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder and our bond has never been so strong!!!!
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Trish
Aug 03, 2015 @ 22:42:49
see…they will outgrow it. I used to tell my kids that their Brother/sister was gonna be their best friend when they got older so the BETTER be nice to each other!
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Ritu
Aug 04, 2015 @ 08:07:39
I have resorted to saying that a few times already… At the moment, they so don’t believe me lol!
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Trish
Aug 05, 2015 @ 16:48:00
lolol!
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Ritu
Aug 05, 2015 @ 16:48:23
😂😂😂
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wafflemethis
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:52:19
Oh where does she get it from Ritu. No I understand that’s just children. Occasionally a marker has to be set. You stick by your guns girl☺☺
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Ritu
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:58:35
Well. hubby did look, rather pointedly, at me when I said I was fed up of her tantrums… But I don’t do that, I do not throw my toys outta the pram ! stomps feet
but, I shall stick to my guns bro, it’s the only way!!!
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wafflemethis
Aug 02, 2015 @ 23:01:07
So she gets it off hubby then is that what you saying. Lol
It is like I said they need it occasionally just to pull them back into line ☺
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Ritu
Aug 02, 2015 @ 23:02:29
Yup, she’s exactly like him! (And a little like me, let’s be honest!)
I know, it’ll be fine, she’ll come up,to be tomorrow, or in the middle of the night, and be all huggy!!
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wafflemethis
Aug 02, 2015 @ 23:06:13
Bless her gives them the shock they need though. Unfortunately we’re not allowed to hang them by their toes in the wardrobe any more. Lol
Its much more fun when they’re older and while your lecturing them they just look at you as if to say “Whatever” that really gets you boiling
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Ritu
Aug 02, 2015 @ 23:08:17
Lil Man is already perfecting that look, and he’s just 10!!!!
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wafflemethis
Aug 02, 2015 @ 23:13:07
Oh it gets better. Lol☺
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Ritu
Aug 02, 2015 @ 23:17:35
What fun we have to look forward to!!
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wafflemethis
Aug 02, 2015 @ 23:18:40
Oh yes but we wouldn’t change it for the world.☺
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:32:56
I know! 😊
So far this morning, they’ve awoken, it’s no bother, all night in their own beds, eaten, and are sitting, miraculously, one one sofa together watching a movie! …
Fingers crossed this peace reigns!
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wafflemethis
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:45:06
Mum wins☺
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:52:19
So far…. Maybe this battle, but the war is still simmering!
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wafflemethis
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:54:07
You’ll be fine but like I said last night I’m always here for a destress
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:54:27
I know, thank you bro! 😊
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Trish
Aug 03, 2015 @ 02:15:10
oh, and the very few tantrums my kids had when they were little I COMPLETELY ignored….that ended that…they got no response from me whatsoever…..they are looking for a response.
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Ritu
Aug 03, 2015 @ 09:39:34
Oh I try that Trish, but when the decibels reach ridiculous levels, I kinda have to intervene… Lil Princess is a stubborn little thing!!!
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Trish
Aug 03, 2015 @ 22:41:04
Ear plugs and just tell them to come to you if they see blood or someone’s knocked unconscious lol Be happy she is stubborn…no one will push her around later in life!!
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Ritu
Aug 04, 2015 @ 08:06:59
Oh so true! I guess I need to look at the positives lol!!!
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Aby
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:51:58
I hear you, girl, I hear you. There are couple of little people and few large with little people mind driving me crazy this summer at home.I think summer heat does that – sapping logic out of mind…You know how much I appreciate teachers..Am already looking forward to school opening !!
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Ritu
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:56:29
It’s crazy, I’ll have 40 new 3 year olds, in September, and am anticipating many tears, screaming etc, but I think sometimes I’d rather be there!!!! Lol!! Thanks for the stand of solidarity!
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Cat in the Cactus
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:51:26
There’s nothing like a mother’s honesty! Loved your post.
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Ritu
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:54:51
Thank,you! From a slightly deranged mum!!!!! BTW, love your post on Teenagers!!
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Thumbup
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:47:21
Good motivational speaking!
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Ritu
Aug 02, 2015 @ 22:53:52
Yup, that’s me!!
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