“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.” – Mary Engelbreit
Really liking the thought behind this quote.
You know, it’s true, we can’t always change circumstances or situations. In these times it is important to be malleable. Acceptable to change. Be able to compromise.
I remember a piece if advice I was given, when I was about to get married. A lady, much respected by my parents, wanted to meet me. She had come over from India. She said “The other name for marriage, especially in our Indian culture, is compromise. Nowadays too many young girls get married, and try to change everything in their in-laws house straight away. What you should do, is go there, and see. Give love, recieve love and with love, you can help people to change. If you bend first, slowly others will bend with you.”
Might sound a little backwards to some, but you know, it works!
When the wind blows, bend, or you may end up broken.
Bend peeps, bend!
Have a wonderful Sunday 😊
But I Smile Anyway... 
Jan 25, 2016 @ 16:59:25
I loved this post, Ritu! Thanks for sharing such great advice. 🙂
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Jan 25, 2016 @ 17:57:40
Thank you Tonya!! 😊😊
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Jan 25, 2016 @ 17:59:31
😊
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Jan 25, 2016 @ 02:53:47
When I married my husband we wrote our own marriage vows and the bases for our marriage is….Trust, Communication and Compromise….we live it and breath it…if you don’t have any of one of these then you don’t have a good foundation for marriage…..that’s our opinion…good post….kat
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Jan 25, 2016 @ 07:51:55
Very true Kat, thank you!
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 18:54:50
Great advice and pic. =)
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 18:55:28
Thank you!
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 17:59:50
Wonderful quote and shared wisdom, Ritu!
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 18:16:07
Thanks Syl!!
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 18:24:54
You’re welcome!!! 😊
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 17:32:50
I am quite good at bending, but there is always room for improvement! Great quote 🙂
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 18:15:18
Thanks Judy, 😊😊😊
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 14:06:45
Bend it like Spidey.
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 12:31:27
great quote and advice! compromise is so valuable and yet, it seems to be forgotten by many these days. thank you for sharing ❤
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 13:02:33
You’re welcome 😊
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 12:14:01
The story you told is very insightful. New constellations are supposed to widen our horizon, to make us grow and learn and not to trying to adjust others to ourselves.
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 13:02:11
Very true. Sis it’s advice thay helped me lots xx
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 13:08:19
I am sure it is not always easy. And for sure it always takes all parties to make that work. A blessing when that happens, Sis! I guess you are very blessed that way!
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 13:26:01
Yes sis, and I thank Hid for that blessing! 😊
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 13:42:26
That’s why you are so blessed… 💖
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 11:38:42
That sounded like some typical Indian advise by an aunty next door but it is, nevertheless, true.
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 13:01:14
It was totally Indian Aunty style, but yes, true!
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 13:01:26
✌🏻️
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 08:34:25
Wow. Very inspiring quote.. If we can’t change things, we have to change the way we view them. And yes, marriages, marriage of not just 2 people, it is a marriage of 2 families. So they should adjust and keep the love and kindness alive. Have a great peaceful Sunday Ritu. 🙂
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 09:38:42
Happy Sunday to you too Jackie!
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 10:49:36
Thank you.. 🙂
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 07:32:46
Ritu, this is good advice for a marriage and I think we should try to adopt this but I don’t think this is good in the workplace. I did this in my previous work place and believe me, it takes a tremendous toll on your self-respect, your conscience, and your sleep, even your health.
At my age, I think its ok to give in for the superficial things but for things that affect your principles, ethics, mores, ethos- its better to stick to what you believe.
Forgive me for being contradictory.
Susie
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Jan 24, 2016 @ 09:38:20
Oh yes, there are definitely situations where you need to make the changes, but marriage was an example where it could be a positive, to bend first!!
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