Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 263 – Love

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“Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.”

John Spence

Thank you, Spidey, for finding something for me to think about, that is not virus related!

Only the blessed find love – not true.

I think love can find us all.

It’s only the blessed who can keep that love going strong.

And I do count myself as one of those blessed ones.

Last week, Hubby Dearest and I hit our 23rd date-iversary, i.e. twenty three years since we started officially dating.

And we make a point to mark that date, as importantly as we do our wedding anniversary, and the birth of our children.

Twenty three years ago began the illicit journey of our love, that turned respectable, as soon as we were officially engaged and then married.

Illicit because we started dating in university. Not something to shout out about, especially at that time, in our culture

Things are different now. Younger people from our background are more open about their relationships, and I am happy that they are able to share their happiness with everyone, withut feeling like they need to hide.

Twenty three years together have seen a lot of ups and downs; a whole heap of happiness, sprinkles of sadness, but a huge amount of love that keeps on growing.

Here’s to many more years of love that grows, however hard we have to work ❤

The beautiful bouquet I received ❤

So… tell me, where, on your journey of love, are you?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps.  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 252 – Year End

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“We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.”

Edith Lovejoy Pierce

Thank you for finding another inspirational set of words, Spidey!

You know, I often wonder what the big deal is about New Year.

It’s just marking the passing of time, yet so many of us put great store into the New Year, and what it will bring us.

But then, is not every morning a new start? A new chapter in your life? Another chance to right wrongs, or begin a new regime?

I do try to start each day with that positivity, but I know, it’s not always easy to wipe the slate of yesterday truly clean, and emerge in the morning, unscathed by the happenings of the day before. There may be deadlines at work, issues with colleagues, family, or even friends. Someone might be unwell.

On this note, I do like to think of each year as another chapter in my life book. I have plenty of chapters to look back upon, to learn from, to reminisce, and laugh at.

But this new year, it brings with it possibilities.

Who knows what will happen in the future? No one.

But, if you want to do something, it is in your hands to start the wheels of fortune turning, and make something of your dreams and ideas.

And what better time to make those plans than at the beginning of the New Year?

I don’t know it, but I have a feeling in my bones… 2020 might just be the start of something big. I have hopes and dreams, and I have had them for a while. But I decided I wouldn’t leave them as thoughts, but make them happen!

  • Publish that novel! And I am already on plan for that, with a release date of 9th February, 2020! (If you want to preorder the Kindle Edition, click here, getbook.at/MarriageUnarranged , and the paperback should (cover pending) be available to order from Amazon on the same day!
  • Make some real headway on book two (and even three!), whenever I get the time to sit and write.
  • Do something with my children’s stories. I have 2 picture book style texts ready, and a third that is half done, but alas, I am not an illustrator! But research time… Who knows, I might end the year as a published poet, novelist and children’s writer! (DREAM BIG!)
  • Do something with our house – we either need a MAJOR refurb, to give more space for the kids, and repair a whole host of issues, or look for a new forever home… the plans are there… hope this one is also achieved this year too!
  • Finish my first full teaching year with my own class on a HIGH! It has been tough, the last few years, having to share a class, and split myself between two (and sometimes, three) classes. This time, I was given my own space, my own class, and with it comes a new set of responsibilities. I want to show my Headteacher, I can smash it. I’m hopeful! (even with my special Beauts!)

So, Peeps, what have you got in your 2020 plans, so far?

Have a peaceful last Sunday of the year, and decade, Peeps  And enjoy your New Year celebrations! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 237 – Me

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The things that make me different are the things that make me.

Winnie The Pooh

Gotta love a bit of Pooh Tao, thanks Spidey!

Go on, hands up. Who is guilty of thinking they need to be ‘like’ others to be accepted?

Thinking a certain way, wearing particular clothes, listening to the ‘in’ music, watching the films everyone is raving about… that kind of thing?

Why do we always want to be keeping up with the Joneses? Why can’t we just be ourselves, and why do you think the world won’t accept you as you are?

As a child I was always different from my school peers. There weren’t many Indian girls in my school. I was never singled out because of it, but where they were horseriding and having piano lessons at the weekends, I was going to family weddings and attempting to learn how to read and write my home language, Punjabi (I failed… can speak and understanding fluently, but the reading/writing? Nope!)

We grew up together and as the others were worrying about prospective boyfriends and dates for the ball we had at 15, then discussing the late night bars they began to frequent, and clubs, I was still there, enjoying the music they listened to, and joining in with their chats about crushes on teeny bopper pop idols, and our own real life crushes, but I was also still busy every weekend with my family (it’s huge, there are neverending lists of events and functions to attend, even now!)

It didn’t single me out in a negative way, my friends just knew I wouldn’t be turning up at the non uniform day in a miniskirt and cropped top, despite it being the fashion. I’d be wearing whatever sensible clothes my mum thought were best.

Because that was me. Ratty. Yes, that was my nickname at school. Not because I was bad tempered or anything, but because my full first name is Ratinder, and we watched The Wind In The Willows one day and the character Ratty came up… and so I was christened. One of my oldest school friends still calls me Ratty, over thirty years later!

As I hit university, I admit, I went through the whole fitting in thing. I wore the clothes everyone else did, went to all the clubs, drank all the drinks, and skipped the lectures… but it took me a while to realise that that wasn’t really me.

In all honesty, it took me a good twenty more years to find ‘me’.

Yes I was always, and will always be Ritu the Daughter, Ritu the Sister, Ritu the Wife, Ritu the Daughter-in-Law, Ritu the Mother, Ritu the Colleague, Ritu the Uni friend, Ratty the school mate.

But I no longer conform to what others may expect. I will wear what I want and feel comfortable in. I will eat what I fancy. I will go where I feel a pull to attend, not be forced to go to events that are a drain on my soul. I will laugh. I will cry. I will write. I will read. I will do everything that I enjoy. That makes me, me.

I won’t be a stereotype.

I will be me.

So… tell me, when did you realise it is okay to be YOU?

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 228

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“When I’m tired, I rest. I say, ‘I can’t be a superwoman today.”

Jada Pinkett Smith

Thanks Spidey!

Yes! Yes! Jada, Yes!!!

I agree with you 100%!

I just wish I could follow that thought process through.

I need to really learn when to step back and say “no, I can’t do that. I am too tired.”

Instead I am always running on nearly empty, refuelling just enough to get through, then running myself low again.

That is not a good way to live.

I really need to take Mrs Pinkett Smith’s advice, so I can continue to be a superwoman, like all those others out there!

So… tell me, do you know when to take a break?

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 224 – Dreams

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Dreams are the seeds of change. Nothing ever grows without a seed, and nothing ever changes without a dream.

Debby Boone

Thank you Spidey, and hello Peeps! It’s good to be back with you all again after my feeling unwell last week.

I really love the quote Spidey found for me to ponder upon this week.

Dreams.

We all have them.

I don’t mean the things that float around in your head when you are asleep, but your aspirations.

Your hopes.

Your dreams.

Those goals you wish to achieve in your life.

We all need something to live for, to work towards, to reach.

Without dreams, what are we doing? Living each day, just to get through it, to the next.

That’s not life.

That’s existance.

Whereas if you have that dream to strive to make a reality, you have a focus.

Some may dream of a happy life at home, with a perfect family.

Some want that new car, or a specific job role.

You may dream to meet someone special, or important to you.

My dream is to see my novel finally in print, out there, for others to read and share.

And now, because I have focussed on it, that dream is a few more steps closer to reality. The editor has read it, so the editing is happening. A cover is being looked at. And I have author branding! Eeeks! With a website, and Facebook page to match!

My dream is to have my own class – truly my own class.

As the last few years I have been team teaching with certain colleagues, and though my time is just that, my time in class, it’s not the same as having full responsibility for your own classroom, and your children. Maybe the next academic year will bring that to fruition.

My dream is to have my forever home.

I love where we live, but the children are fast outgrowing the space we have. It’s crunch time. We are looking at whether it is better to go big and extend, or to spruce up, sell up and buy the perfect place… It’s a work in motion.

There are a few of my dreams, and I am slowly working on each of them. I don’t want to get to the end of my days, feeling like I never gave them my best shot.

So… tell me, what are you doing to make your dreams come true?

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