Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 237 – Me

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The things that make me different are the things that make me.

Winnie The Pooh

Gotta love a bit of Pooh Tao, thanks Spidey!

Go on, hands up. Who is guilty of thinking they need to be ‘like’ others to be accepted?

Thinking a certain way, wearing particular clothes, listening to the ‘in’ music, watching the films everyone is raving about… that kind of thing?

Why do we always want to be keeping up with the Joneses? Why can’t we just be ourselves, and why do you think the world won’t accept you as you are?

As a child I was always different from my school peers. There weren’t many Indian girls in my school. I was never singled out because of it, but where they were horseriding and having piano lessons at the weekends, I was going to family weddings and attempting to learn how to read and write my home language, Punjabi (I failed… can speak and understanding fluently, but the reading/writing? Nope!)

We grew up together and as the others were worrying about prospective boyfriends and dates for the ball we had at 15, then discussing the late night bars they began to frequent, and clubs, I was still there, enjoying the music they listened to, and joining in with their chats about crushes on teeny bopper pop idols, and our own real life crushes, but I was also still busy every weekend with my family (it’s huge, there are neverending lists of events and functions to attend, even now!)

It didn’t single me out in a negative way, my friends just knew I wouldn’t be turning up at the non uniform day in a miniskirt and cropped top, despite it being the fashion. I’d be wearing whatever sensible clothes my mum thought were best.

Because that was me. Ratty. Yes, that was my nickname at school. Not because I was bad tempered or anything, but because my full first name is Ratinder, and we watched The Wind In The Willows one day and the character Ratty came up… and so I was christened. One of my oldest school friends still calls me Ratty, over thirty years later!

As I hit university, I admit, I went through the whole fitting in thing. I wore the clothes everyone else did, went to all the clubs, drank all the drinks, and skipped the lectures… but it took me a while to realise that that wasn’t really me.

In all honesty, it took me a good twenty more years to find ‘me’.

Yes I was always, and will always be Ritu the Daughter, Ritu the Sister, Ritu the Wife, Ritu the Daughter-in-Law, Ritu the Mother, Ritu the Colleague, Ritu the Uni friend, Ratty the school mate.

But I no longer conform to what others may expect. I will wear what I want and feel comfortable in. I will eat what I fancy. I will go where I feel a pull to attend, not be forced to go to events that are a drain on my soul. I will laugh. I will cry. I will write. I will read. I will do everything that I enjoy. That makes me, me.

I won’t be a stereotype.

I will be me.

So… tell me, when did you realise it is okay to be YOU?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 228

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“When I’m tired, I rest. I say, ‘I can’t be a superwoman today.”

Jada Pinkett Smith

Thanks Spidey!

Yes! Yes! Jada, Yes!!!

I agree with you 100%!

I just wish I could follow that thought process through.

I need to really learn when to step back and say “no, I can’t do that. I am too tired.”

Instead I am always running on nearly empty, refuelling just enough to get through, then running myself low again.

That is not a good way to live.

I really need to take Mrs Pinkett Smith’s advice, so I can continue to be a superwoman, like all those others out there!

So… tell me, do you know when to take a break?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 224 – Dreams

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Dreams are the seeds of change. Nothing ever grows without a seed, and nothing ever changes without a dream.

Debby Boone

Thank you Spidey, and hello Peeps! It’s good to be back with you all again after my feeling unwell last week.

I really love the quote Spidey found for me to ponder upon this week.

Dreams.

We all have them.

I don’t mean the things that float around in your head when you are asleep, but your aspirations.

Your hopes.

Your dreams.

Those goals you wish to achieve in your life.

We all need something to live for, to work towards, to reach.

Without dreams, what are we doing? Living each day, just to get through it, to the next.

That’s not life.

That’s existance.

Whereas if you have that dream to strive to make a reality, you have a focus.

Some may dream of a happy life at home, with a perfect family.

Some want that new car, or a specific job role.

You may dream to meet someone special, or important to you.

My dream is to see my novel finally in print, out there, for others to read and share.

And now, because I have focussed on it, that dream is a few more steps closer to reality. The editor has read it, so the editing is happening. A cover is being looked at. And I have author branding! Eeeks! With a website, and Facebook page to match!

My dream is to have my own class – truly my own class.

As the last few years I have been team teaching with certain colleagues, and though my time is just that, my time in class, it’s not the same as having full responsibility for your own classroom, and your children. Maybe the next academic year will bring that to fruition.

My dream is to have my forever home.

I love where we live, but the children are fast outgrowing the space we have. It’s crunch time. We are looking at whether it is better to go big and extend, or to spruce up, sell up and buy the perfect place… It’s a work in motion.

There are a few of my dreams, and I am slowly working on each of them. I don’t want to get to the end of my days, feeling like I never gave them my best shot.

So… tell me, what are you doing to make your dreams come true?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Three Day Quote Challenge – Day 3 – The Rain Edition

That Plot, from Losing The Plot Blog fame… OMG, she is hilarious! IF you haven’t seen her blog, you have to go over! She has been writing a series of posts and includes cartoon strips featuring some blog names you may know in a fictional series which is so funny!

Click here to see one!

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Just an example, featuring Yours Truly!

Anyway, where was I?

Plot has kindly passed the Three Day Quote Challenge in my court, and it’s been a while since I did one of these!

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So, the rules…

1. Thank the person who nominated you…Thank you! Link back to them too so they can see your quotes.
2. Post a quote for three consecutive days (1 quote for each day).
3. Nominate three bloggers each day.

So, thank you Plot, for thinking of me!

I decided to theme these challenges aa while back, so in the spirit of the wet English Spring that has now hit us, the theme will be ….

RAIN!

So, Day three…

” Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… It is about learning to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene

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You gotta hand it to Vivian Greene!

When life gives you lemons, and all that…

You have to learn how to live with what life throws at you, and what you have been given. If you wait for the perfect moment to arrive, you miss so much of your own life, and experiences that you may never have again.

So go! Dance in the rain, and enjoy it!

 

And I nominate..Josy, Claire, and Angela!

Thank you and good night day!

And there you have it! I hope my three days of quotes have refreshed you with rain splendour!

 

 

Three Day Quote Challenge – Day 2 – The Rain Edition

That Plot, from Losing The Plot Blog fame… OMG, she is hilarious! IF you haven’t seen her blog, you have to go over! She has been writing a series of posts and includes cartoon strips featuring some blog names you may know in a fictional series which is so funny!

Click here to see one!

Pixton_Comic_But_I_smile_anyway_by_Sonzy_B-2

Just an example, featuring Yours Truly!

Anyway, where was I?

Plot has kindly passed the Three Day Quote Challenge in my court, and it’s been a while since I did one of these!

Image result for Three day quote challenge

So, the rules…

1. Thank the person who nominated you…Thank you! Link back to them too so they can see your quotes.
2. Post a quote for three consecutive days (1 quote for each day).
3. Nominate three bloggers each day.

So, thank you Plot, for thinking of me!

I decided to theme these challenges aa while back, so in the spirit of the wet English Spring that has now hit us, the theme will be ….

RAIN!

So, Day two…

” The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.” – Dolly Parton

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Wise woman, that Dolly Parton!

I’m all about embracing the negatives, because they always bring about positives… we could get all cliched, you know, there’s always light at the end of the tunnel, every cloud has a silver lining, etc but hey, their meaning is true! There is always something to hang on to, something to help reel you towards that rainbow, but often you do need to get rained on to achieve it.

And I nominate… Alice, David, and Amelia!

Thank you and good night day!

I’ll be back tomorrow with day 3’s showery offering!!!!

 

 

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