Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 237 – Me

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The things that make me different are the things that make me.

Winnie The Pooh

Gotta love a bit of Pooh Tao, thanks Spidey!

Go on, hands up. Who is guilty of thinking they need to be ‘like’ others to be accepted?

Thinking a certain way, wearing particular clothes, listening to the ‘in’ music, watching the films everyone is raving about… that kind of thing?

Why do we always want to be keeping up with the Joneses? Why can’t we just be ourselves, and why do you think the world won’t accept you as you are?

As a child I was always different from my school peers. There weren’t many Indian girls in my school. I was never singled out because of it, but where they were horseriding and having piano lessons at the weekends, I was going to family weddings and attempting to learn how to read and write my home language, Punjabi (I failed… can speak and understanding fluently, but the reading/writing? Nope!)

We grew up together and as the others were worrying about prospective boyfriends and dates for the ball we had at 15, then discussing the late night bars they began to frequent, and clubs, I was still there, enjoying the music they listened to, and joining in with their chats about crushes on teeny bopper pop idols, and our own real life crushes, but I was also still busy every weekend with my family (it’s huge, there are neverending lists of events and functions to attend, even now!)

It didn’t single me out in a negative way, my friends just knew I wouldn’t be turning up at the non uniform day in a miniskirt and cropped top, despite it being the fashion. I’d be wearing whatever sensible clothes my mum thought were best.

Because that was me. Ratty. Yes, that was my nickname at school. Not because I was bad tempered or anything, but because my full first name is Ratinder, and we watched The Wind In The Willows one day and the character Ratty came up… and so I was christened. One of my oldest school friends still calls me Ratty, over thirty years later!

As I hit university, I admit, I went through the whole fitting in thing. I wore the clothes everyone else did, went to all the clubs, drank all the drinks, and skipped the lectures… but it took me a while to realise that that wasn’t really me.

In all honesty, it took me a good twenty more years to find ‘me’.

Yes I was always, and will always be Ritu the Daughter, Ritu the Sister, Ritu the Wife, Ritu the Daughter-in-Law, Ritu the Mother, Ritu the Colleague, Ritu the Uni friend, Ratty the school mate.

But I no longer conform to what others may expect. I will wear what I want and feel comfortable in. I will eat what I fancy. I will go where I feel a pull to attend, not be forced to go to events that are a drain on my soul. I will laugh. I will cry. I will write. I will read. I will do everything that I enjoy. That makes me, me.

I won’t be a stereotype.

I will be me.

So… tell me, when did you realise it is okay to be YOU?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 146

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“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.” – Charles Dickens

‘Tis the time to wish goodwill to all, and Spidey and I loved this quote from Dickens.

We may not feel we have much to ‘give’ to the world, but a shoulder to cry on, an ear available to listen, a word of advice, is free to you, and could be a priceless gift to someone out there.

Think upon that as you ponder what you are giving for Christmas this year.

Have a Serene Sunday Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 145

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“We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.” – Ronald Reagan

What a beautiful thought!

Thank you, Spidey for channelling Mr Reagan today!

There are so many problems in this world and though many of us can offer solutions in conversation, we know that our words alone can’t make the changes.

So what if as your average citizen of the world, we can’t solve world poverty, or stop wars happening in other countries?

We can still do something.

There is always someone on your doorstep who needs help, who would show gratitude for any assistance,  be it a lift for your elderly neighbour, or a meal for a homeless person. You may be able to donate something to a family in need, or even donate your time to volunteer in a shelter or old folks home… See, it doesn’t always have to be financial help…

Rest assured that however small you think your contribution is, it would mean the world to the one receiving it.

Acts of kindness don’t have to be publicised either. It is great that there are these campaigns about Random Acts of Kindness, but why do them just so you get some recognition?

Help someone because you genuinely want to.

Make it a part of your everyday life, so it becomes second nature.

 

Have a Serene Sunday Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 144

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“Real love stories never have endings.” Richard Bach

 

Following in the vein of this special love filled weekend for my Hubby and I, Spidey found this quote which I absolutely loved!

Isn’t this just so true?

If you have found that love of your life, you don’t want your story written, and just signed off ‘happily ever after’… No! You want to continue growing together, evolving together, and writing more chapters of your life together.

Real love should be a never-ending series of books, not a one off chapter book!

I’m off to continue my 16th Anniversary celebrations!

Have a Serene Sunday Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 143

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“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: It goes on.” Robert Frost

Thank you for this Spidey.

This an important lesson for us all to learn, and to keep with us at all times.

 

Life does indeed go on, just grab the bull by the horns and keep riding. That bull’s gotta get tired at some point, so you will get a smooth ride sometimes, along with the rough.

Ups and downs – they haunt us all, but always remember that for every down, there is an up, and if you can hold faith in that idea, you will see the bright lights of life soon enough!

Have a Serene Sunday Peeps!

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