Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 276 – Normality… Kinda?


“But I’ve strayed so far from normal now, I’ll never find my way back. And the truth is, I no longer want to.”

Alyson Noel

Thank you, Spidey, for another great quote!

We’ve been living in this way now, for twelve weeks. Some class it as the #newnormal, some think of it as a phase, some have barely changed what they were doing before…

It has been tough, for everyone, in so many different ways.

We lost the freedom to go where we wanted, when we wanted.

We had to learn to spent twenty-four hours with the people in our households. People we love, but who we’ve not spent so much time with, with out a break

We learned how to adapt our working lives or school lives, to working from home, with children bursting in, in the middle of Zoom meetings, or trying to calm a child’s meltdown as they didn’t get their home learning task. (quite often, it was the parent melting down because they didn’t get it!)

We adapted in many ways, using technology, where possible, to keep in touch with friends and family.

We tried our hands at different things, once we’d settled into this surreal way of living. Cooking different things, baking, DIY, arts and crafts, gardening. All sorts of stuff.

We almost enjoyed the extra hour in bed because there was no commute in the morning. (Unless you have a cat like mine, who sings the morning breakfast chorus in your ear at stupid o’clock, until you relent and go give him food.)

We took time out to go for walks, or attempted to use that one outing for exercise to cycle, or run. Something some of us had been wanting to do for ages, but never found the time for.

And now, as lockdown reaches the next stage of easing… how are we feeling?

I know I have had a strange one. Not totally isolated as I had to go into school regularaly, and get the groceries in. Planning and working from home has been a strange experience. Not seeing my class at all has been horrible.

But the extra time at home has been enlightening in so many ways.

My almost daily walks have been with Lil Man, and I am proud of my nearly 15-year-old, and his thinking. We have talked, frankly, about so much, over the last three months. I feel that our relationship as mother and son has reached a different level.

Lil Princess has been a harder nut to crack. She hasn’t taken to lockdown that well, and disappears in to her room for hours at a time, not wanting to go out, or even have conversations, but we’ve been trying. She’s really missing her friends. She will do all the online learning, but she misses school. And with no sign of her going back, before September, it is tough.

Hubby Dearest and I have reached a relaxed way of living. Work hours are just that, and breaks and evenings are spent sitting, talking, eating, planning the future…

I’ve written some, read lots, learned new crafts, baked, experimented with different recipes. I’ve let my hair go, the grey is rife. My nails are as au naturel as the day I was born.

Am I happy that my life is falling into more of the old normality, come Monday?

Hubby Dearest will still be working from home. Lil Princess will still be distance learning, as will Lil Man, but with some allowances for either video call or face to face meetings to discuss his next steps, as he is in Year 10, meaning GCSEs next year.

I go back to school to a much-reduced class, only 11 out of a possible 30, (and one of those is actually from the other class as we have a set of twins, and needed them in the same bubble).

There are mixed feelings.

I have loved being at home, spending time with my family, and being able to do more of what I love, on top of working.

But, I was born to teach. And I have missed my class far too much. I can’t count the hours I have spent, worrying about certain children and whether they are okay, if they are even trying to access any of the learning we are setting for them.

Yet, I still have an underlying anxiety about going back. And I blame the government and media for this. Is it safe to go back, or not? Are we the country’s guinea pigs? Some schools came back partially, a couple of weeks ago, and they’ve reported back that things are okay. Weird, but okay.

And as a BAME member of the community, should I be even more cautious? Hubby Dearest would much rather I didn’t go back. He even offered to keep the household ticking over so I could hand my notice in. He’s scared.

I can’t do that, though. School is so much a part of me. Yes, the idea of not working sounds great. I could legitimately devote all my time to writing, but that is one full income we’d be down by. I’d feel like I lost a part of my independence.

But, I do wish there was an inbetween. A little more home time, a little less school stress.

But, for now, I’ll just have a go at the cards we’ve been dealt, and see what happens… cautiously.

So… tell me, as things inch themselves back to a semblance of normality, how are you feeling?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps  And enjoy your week! ❤

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 270 – Knowledge


“Spend each day trying to be a little wiser than when you woke up.”


Well, thank you for that one, Spidey. It’s quite appropriate for me, and many others, right now, too.

During this strange time of lockdown, we have been granted the gift of time.

I know, sometimes, it doesn’t feel like it, but we have.

There is the extra time in the day where you would be commuting to work, Or if you are working from home, you might find that as other businesses are in the same boat, there is less to do, so you gain more time there.

So why not use that extra time to be productive? Do things to improve your own self?

At the beginning, I had all sorts of plans, then the whole change of lifestyle rendered me incapable of doing anything.

I adopted the mantra du jour of “It’s not a normal time, it’s okay to not be productive.”

A couple of weeks in and I settled into a routine: my #newnormal.

Though I still have to go into school, periodically, and, when I am home, I need to makes sure the kids are up and ready for their remote learning, as well as doing some online training myself, and planning. I still find myself with time.

Time to do other things.

So I’m reading more. I’m (finally) writing more. I have started back up with a writing course I signed up to last year, and nearly finished it.

And I have even done an Instagram course, on how to build a brand there.

I’ve done two modules of a course in Calligraphy. (It’s all been theory so far, but I look forward to the practical bit!)

And I have been learning about Scrivener, a new to me piece of software that I have invested in, to help with my writing.

Last night, I watched a free webinar about some basics on the software and it blew my mind! I am so excited to use it now, knowing a few more tricks of the trade, and I have signed up for another course, in more detail, so I can learn exactly how this software will be useful to me.

See, learning new things every day, here!

And the best thing?

Once I’ve learned it, I know my knowledge may be of use to someone I know, and I can pass it on.

After all, to learn, is to teach, is it not?

So… tell me, what is something new you have learned, over these strange lockdown times?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps.  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 266 – Live In The Moment


“Wherever you are, be there totally.”

Eckhart Tolle

Well, Spidey, you’ve gone all deep on me this week!

The world has chosen to give a huge amount of the population time at home, with this awful pandemic that is raging through so many countries at the moment.

Many of us have been tearing our hair out, worrying about our old normal, our jobs, our families, kids education, getting basic shopping in… nothing has been straightforward.

But sometimes we need some time to sit back and reflect, while we have this new normal – and let’s be honest, it could be our only normal for a while.

Sure, this extended home time was not your choice, but now it’s been foisted upon you, use it for your own wellbeing.

We have been granted time to enjoy life at a slower pace, because if you carry on as you used to, in the old normal, you’d have nothing to do, come lunchtime.

Time to spend with your loved ones. Time to recreate bonds. Time to take up hobbies that you never had time for. Time to appreciate what you do have.

Instead of always being busy on work calls and emails, or social media, use some time to really be there with your kids, or family.

Get the boardgames out.

Talk to each other.

Share a film you really love.

Cook together, eat together.

If you can, go out for a walk together.

If you’re going to call, make it a video call, so you can see the family and friend you are contacting, or use ZOOM!

Live in the moment.

Don’t spend all the time taking pictures of what you are doing, because, you will probably be doing the same for a long while, so your camera roll will start looking pretty repetitive after a week or so!

(Though I have to confess, we have discovered TikTok! That’s a fun family activity! I don’t have a public account as we don’t put the kids out there – though they are getting to the age they’ll be out there themselves soon – but it has been fun making silly videos together!)

Embrace the new normal while you have it. I have a feeling there are certain aspects you are going to miss, when things all calm down…

Or better still, try your hardest to keep them in your life, no matter what normal you are living in.

So… tell me, what aspect of this new normal would you like to keep, when things calm down?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps.  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 263 – Love


“Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.”

John Spence

Thank you, Spidey, for finding something for me to think about, that is not virus related!

Only the blessed find love – not true.

I think love can find us all.

It’s only the blessed who can keep that love going strong.

And I do count myself as one of those blessed ones.

Last week, Hubby Dearest and I hit our 23rd date-iversary, i.e. twenty three years since we started officially dating.

And we make a point to mark that date, as importantly as we do our wedding anniversary, and the birth of our children.

Twenty three years ago began the illicit journey of our love, that turned respectable, as soon as we were officially engaged and then married.

Illicit because we started dating in university. Not something to shout out about, especially at that time, in our culture

Things are different now. Younger people from our background are more open about their relationships, and I am happy that they are able to share their happiness with everyone, withut feeling like they need to hide.

Twenty three years together have seen a lot of ups and downs; a whole heap of happiness, sprinkles of sadness, but a huge amount of love that keeps on growing.

Here’s to many more years of love that grows, however hard we have to work ❤

The beautiful bouquet I received ❤

So… tell me, where, on your journey of love, are you?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps.  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 254


“If you want to change the world, pick up your pen and write.”

Martin Luther King

Thank you for the pearls of wisdom, Spidey!

I know that a few words from you might not feel like you are changing the world, but they may just change your world.

You see, your words, once published, could lead to followings or sales, that change your life.

And there are plenty of us out there, who want to be best-selling authors, or have posts that go viral, for good reason.

But, in order to even have a chance, you need to actually write those words, and get them out there.

I am nervously excited about the book release, and those who have read it in advance, are already asking if there is any more to come from the characters.

You see, some of the secondary characters have developed quite a personality, and want to be written about too. And I have the ideas, the basic outlines of at least two stories to follow, I just need to put pen to paper and write!

Only then, will I get a chance to change my world, and hopefully, change the world a little too, by bringing smiles on to the faces of my readers.

So… tell me, what would you try and change in this world, or yours, with words?


Previous Older Entries

My interactive peeps!

%d bloggers like this: