It feels like only a short few months ago, I was using you, my Peeps as a sounding board, for my frustrations with Lil Princess, with her terrible behaviour, awful sleep patterns, and eating issues.
I would hate myself for thinking it, but I felt like, for the first time in my life as a mother, I had a favourite. I would much rather spend time with Lil Man, and leave Lil Princess to stew. I was a BAD MUM!
But over the last few weeks, there has been a true shift in dynamics.
Lil Man is 11, and has definitely hit that Tween-age time.
He has started to push his boundaries BIG TIME!
I knew it was going to happen. He is due to start Secondary School in less than 2 weeks! Eeeek!
It started with him requesting a mobile phone. He actually does have a handset, an old one of ours, without a SIM card, to use as a mini-tablet on WiFi. But he wanted a SIM as some of his friends had phones, and they were using WhatsApp, to keep in touch with each other.
We will get him a SIM for the phone. Actually, I already have one, but not giving it to him just yet. I know I would feel happier if he had a phone, so I know he got to school ok, of that he got home safely. And if need be, he could call or message to say whether any after school activities had been cancelled. But he needs to earn it.
But over the holidays, he has become so cocky, so full of attitude, and downright mean to his sister, I wonder what happened to that darling boy of mine? Someone has transplanted his personality into Lil Princess, and hers into him!
Ok, so he is still eating perfectly well, and she is still terrible, and he sleeps fine, whereas she can still visit us at around 3am, but it’s the behaviour!
Lil Princess can still be annoying, and downright naughty ( caught her calling her brother a ‘f***ing brother!’ the other day! Where did she learn that!?!) but she has calmed down so much, and seems to have transferred that angst to her Tween-age brother!
I find myself constantly telling him that various things will be taken away from him, or that he can’t go here or there, as he winds me up so much!
The lip on him! I can’t believe that he mutters under his breath at me! And he’s not good at hiding it too, so I know exactly what he said… he’s getting frustrated too, so his limited vocabulary of swear words is getting a good airing!
And to be honest, it hurts even more since we have broken our backs the last 2 weeks to give them their own spaces, their own bedrooms. It feels like we are not appreciated at all, and everything that we do is taken for granted.
I know it is all part of growing up.
At various ages and stages, there are new boundaries that children will try to push. But Jeez, is it frustrating!!!!! And to think… we’ll have to go through it all again soon with Lil Princess!
Anyway, thanks for listening Peeps! I know we just have to deal with it, and I am prepared for many more battles… but still, GRRRRRRRR!!!!!
Don Royster
Aug 28, 2016 @ 18:31:11
They’re siblings. And that is pretty much what to expect. That’s the bad news. The good news is they would fight tooth and nail if anybody out of the fam went after one of them.
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Ritu
Aug 28, 2016 @ 18:51:15
I have seen that…. 😊 bit it’s still frustrating!!
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Don Royster
Aug 28, 2016 @ 19:04:18
Don’t worry. It’s been going on since Cain and Abel.
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Ritu
Aug 28, 2016 @ 19:57:10
😁
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Helen Jones
Aug 25, 2016 @ 19:55:04
Oh, I feel for you! My girl is nine, and she is starting to display some attitude – I think it’s the transition, seemingly overnight, from sweet loving child to cocky tween that is most jarring. Fingers crossed they both calm down for you when they go back to school!
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Ritu
Aug 25, 2016 @ 20:05:12
I do hope so😊 good luck to you too!!!
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Helen Jones
Aug 25, 2016 @ 20:18:59
Thanks, Ritu 🙂
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Judy Martin
Aug 25, 2016 @ 18:14:45
Oh, I do feel for you Sis. We are having many problems with Miss Hap, her behaviour and attitude at the moment.
It is pretty hard work and very challenging, o I know what you are going through. Keep your chin up Sis and battle on! We are here when you need to vent 🙂
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Ritu
Aug 25, 2016 @ 19:43:21
Thanks sis 😊 I don’t know what I would do without you all sometimes 😊
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Judy Martin
Aug 25, 2016 @ 19:52:43
I feel the same. It is lovely to have so many people who understand us 🙂
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Ritu
Aug 25, 2016 @ 20:04:25
Exactly 😘😘😘
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kritsayvonne
Aug 24, 2016 @ 16:54:45
Good job none of us were ever a worry to our parents! 😇 X
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 17:48:48
😂😂
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Erika Kind
Aug 24, 2016 @ 07:31:37
Hmm…. what can I say….. hang in… one day it is over. What I experienced with my girl and my older boy is that she was more the rebel and he became arrogant and a smart-ass. He still loves to tell his brother how stupid he is compared to him! Don’t already freak out, sis…. Save your energy for the really “interesting” times ahead! 😘
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 09:06:24
Oh don’t remind me, sis, that’s have plenty more to come!!!!
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Erika Kind
Aug 24, 2016 @ 09:32:42
But it is an amazing time anyway. You learn a looooooot about yourself… lol! And later you have so much to laugh about …. and to tell your kids’ spouses and your grandchildren 😄
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 09:38:03
That is true…. and we also have many more photos as proof 😂😂😂
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Erika Kind
Aug 24, 2016 @ 09:40:15
Haha…. wonderful for his 18th birthday party 😂
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 09:52:21
Oh the fun we could have!!!
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Erika Kind
Aug 24, 2016 @ 19:01:39
Haha… I bet! We had a lot of fun with the slideshow we made for our daughter’s 18th birthday 😂
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 19:36:56
I’m looking forward to it already!!!
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Erika Kind
Aug 24, 2016 @ 19:50:34
And I hope you are still blogging then… lol!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 19:51:03
Oh the posts that could come from that!
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Erika Kind
Aug 24, 2016 @ 19:52:25
😆😆
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Lisa A.
Aug 24, 2016 @ 05:20:16
Uh oh! I take away my son’s stuff (especially his tablet) when he acts up and it usually works. If he had a phone, I would take it away. The longest I’ve taken something away from him that he really likes is about three days (one time a week). He’s going to be 11 in December. He hasn’t really asked me for a phone. He’s not getting one anytime soon. I would take away your son’s favorite things (like the phone) if he continues to be disrespectful to you and your daughter. I would do it for at least a day or two. My son gets moody sometimes too. Ha, no wonder we’re getting gray hair!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 06:56:24
Oh god, I know Lisa!!!! Grrrr indeed!!!! I think I’m gonna have to!
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Lisa A.
Aug 24, 2016 @ 07:16:22
I don’t like to but it teaches him a lesson.
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 07:17:33
Sometimes it has to be done, right ? 😐
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Lisa A.
Aug 24, 2016 @ 12:18:47
Sometimes 😦
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syl65
Aug 24, 2016 @ 04:23:37
Hang tough Sister!!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 06:55:40
I’m trying Brother, but boy is it a trying situation!!
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syl65
Aug 24, 2016 @ 14:06:00
I can only imagine Sister!! Hopefully they won’t continue to bring out Rituzilla too often!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 14:10:11
Oh I know…. Being Rituzilla can be quite exhausting!!!!
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syl65
Aug 24, 2016 @ 14:24:43
A little more pampering scheduled, perhaps?!!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 14:25:29
Got my nails done today… manicure and pedicure..feeling chilled!!!!
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syl65
Aug 24, 2016 @ 14:26:44
Cool!! That’s what I’m talking about!!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 15:15:04
It had to be done Brother!!!
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syl65
Aug 24, 2016 @ 16:11:36
Most definitely!!!
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Jim
Aug 24, 2016 @ 01:55:40
and the next thing you know the years have gone by and they’re out of the house. then you can run around the house in your undies if you want. 🙂
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 06:55:17
Lol!!!! Do that anyway!!!
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Julz.......artist, blogger, photographer, graphic designer
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:08:26
hang in there, count to 10, beleive it or not it will all be over way too quickly and they will be adults
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:24:02
Thanks Julz, you’re right. I need to appreciate this angst… It’s nothing compared to what’s to come!!!
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Julz.......artist, blogger, photographer, graphic designer
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:31:42
No on said it would be easy lol
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:34:55
You’re right there!!!!
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Southern by Design
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:46:15
I SO very much understand! Hang in there 😉
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Ritu
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:54:39
Hanging..I’m hanging! Thank you 😊
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Southern by Design
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:03:14
Sometimes its all you can do, lol!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:23:16
Oh man, don’t I know it!!! I’ve never been under any illusions that my kids are different or perfect… But wow does it hit you when these changes occur!!!
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Southern by Design
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:44:48
Haha, yes!
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Ritu
Aug 24, 2016 @ 00:54:24
😉
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willowdot21
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:27:07
Things will get better, nothing lasts forever!
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Ritu
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:29:01
Oh I know Willow, but you know what it’s like, when you are going through things it feels never ending!!!!!
Thank you 🙂
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willowdot21
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:31:31
Yes I really do so my thoughts are with you hugs ❤
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Ritu
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:34:03
Hugs are always much appreviated😚
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willowdot21
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:35:16
They are always on offer 🤗
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Ritu
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:35:39
I know where to come then 😊
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willowdot21
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:37:00
Yes! You do !! 😊😇🤗<3
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Ritu
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:38:19
Thank you 😊
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willowdot21
Aug 23, 2016 @ 23:42:46
Pleasure
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