Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 52

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“Pain is not love. Love flowers ; love gives without taking; love is serene and calm.”  – Erika Jong

A Valentine’s day thought for you all.
May all your days be filled with love, not just this one.
Love requires no fancy presents, cards or flowers.
A daily smile, a cup of tea,  being there… that’s love. Real love.
❤

But I Smile Anyway...

An Open Letter to Nicky Morgan – UK Education Secretary

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Dear Nicky Morgan MP,

Thank you.

A heartfelt thank you from a parent of a current Year 6 class in the UK.

Why am I thanking you?

Well, for the timely manner in which your Education Committee have provided the new Standards that teachers need to use to grade their pupils.

Not only do they now have just barely 3 months to act on these standards before the SATS, but they now also have to let the majority of a whole year group know that apparently, they are not actually good enough.

Thank you.

Many thanks for being the reason my child will be setting himself up to fail.

Thank you.

Let me show my gratitude in advance, for the flood of Year 6 teaching vacancies that will be about to appear, as many talented professionals feel they have failed, because they couldn’t get the vast majority of children to reach these new standards.

Oh let’s just cut to the chase, shall we?

The new National Curriculum, rolled out last academic year, was a tough one. Most children were working, apparently, at least a year behind where the new Curriculum felt they should be.

Even so, I saw, with the support of the wonderful staff at my son’s school, that for the first time in his academic life, my son was ‘meeting’ the National Standards.  You don’t know the confidence boost that gave to him.  I could see him visibly grow taller, so to speak, as he felt that he was actually alright in his studies.

And for the first half of this year, he has been working on this premise, and all the work he has done, has been pointing him in the ‘meeting’ direction. (Maths may be a wobbly one, but hey, I was never great at maths either!)

Then your announcement.

Wonderful.

What a great start to the holidays for a child, eh. The teachers regretfully had to let him know, along with many other children, that according to someone sat up in a bubble, their work was apparently not good enough.

I am sorry, but have you seen some of the new things they have to learn?  I have sat with Google to hand to work out what some of the grammar actually means.  This is not the work of a primary school aged child, but more that of your 13 year old secondary school pupil!

And the new SATS.

So you are testing with the new Curriculum in mind.  But this year of children have only been studying the new Curriculum for 2 years… effectively, they may have missed 2 years of subject matter that you are meant to be testing them on.  Where is the fairness in that?

(Let’s not mention the fact that you are seemingly not willing to sit the test yourself…)

Surely you could have held the new SATS for the year group that had actually studied the whole curriculum, as it stands, like the current Year 3 children?

All this barely weeks before they are about to find out where they are going to Secondary School too…

So many teachers have been trying their hardest to get their pupils to reach these unrealistic goals that you have set, and when it all comes back to bite you in the butt, a lot of them will have given up trying.  And you know what is even worse?  Those same teachers are the ones who have to face the flack of the parents, whose seemingly genius child is now apparently just average, or those happily average children, who now are deemed lacking in their intelligence.  It’s not their teaching that is at fault, it is you, changing goal posts at such a late stage in the academic year, and placing them so far away.

So again, I say thank you.

My child may just end up feeling like he’s stupid. He may lose the confidence that he had finally built up. He might feel that trying his best is just not good enough, so may end up not even trying.

I have worked hard with my children, to instil the importance of education into them.  I just hope that all our hard work at home, and all the hours and hard work of his teachers has not been in vain.

Kind Regards,

A concerned mum

P.S. Did I mention that I am an Early Years teacher…? Don’t get me started on Baseline, and what you think 3-5 year old’s should be able to do!

Dunce

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Love is in da blog/2/4/2016

I feel so touched this Friday morning, waking up, checking my reader and finding such a sweet thing. Annette, of Annette’s Place, has done a wonderful review of my blog. Thank you, sweet Annette! 😘

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I missed yesterday but today I am going to try and do this and do it correctly. Because I love “love is in da blog” so very much. Thank you, Bee, for hosting this fun challenge. To find out more go here for the rules.

First, I must say every blog I follow I like. I love this blogsphere and have found great inspiration, love, motivation, and strength in each and every one of them. With that said I have devoted a few days a week to deeply explore the blogs I follow. I hope to get to each and every one of them. Today, was my first in depth exploration of blogs and I picked them at random. Here is where I spent most of my time today with Ritu at But I smile anyway.Ritu

Ritu herself has followed me for a long time now. (I only started…

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They keep me sane!

You know when you are swallowed whole by family?
Your individuality disappears as you are swallowed with a new identity?
You are no longer “you’, instead you are someone’s wife, someone’s daughter in-law, and eventually someone’s mum?
Well, OK, I know not everyone feels this, but there are a lot of Indian women who have found themselves in that position.
And as for motherhood being all consuming, that covers a much wider range of women.

After I had Lil Man, I took a year out, and then we were in a position that I could reduce my hours, and work part-time. This meant squeezing all I needed to do in 3 hours. It didn’t leave much time for socialising. I worked, quick chats, then left to go home to be mummy again.

Again, another year out when Lil Princess arrived, but this time the office had decided, rather thoughtlessly, to move location, where it just wasn’t feasible to do part-time. Luckily, with my in-laws support with the children, I was able to go back full-time, and realised that, along with the money being better, my sanity was being restored! I was no longer just mummy, but I was me again. Those hours between 10am and 6pm didn’t revolve around the children or conversations about the children, naps, feeding, nappies, and family, but I could talk about whatever I wanted, without interruptions. I could swear if I wanted!

Around the kids and family I needed to be sane, strict, sensible, controlled, with a smidgin of fun thrown in. Now I had whole days where I could almost pretend I wasn’t a parent, until 6.30-7pm… Then I would have the rush of being mummy intensivly for an hour or so, then being the good daughter-in-law and wife before bed, only to get up and do the same the next day. Not so great.

Now, being in school I believe I have it even better. I work school hours, so have plenty of time with my  family, and the hours at school, I am not the kids mum, unless there is a problem, which isn’t often. I am Ritu. (Or Mrs Bhathal to the kids). I have a wonderful relationship with my colleagues, the conversations behind the staffroom door can be hilarious! If I’ve had enough at home, I can forget it and enjoy my day at work, or garner the perspective of someone unassociated with the family.

I feel I finally have my sanity back. I have my individuality back. I am me again. And I wouldn’t be able to say that without the people I work with. They accept me for me, who I am, and the children at school too. They think (know) I’m a little loopy, and I love that!

I love being a wife and mother. There is no greater blessing but it’s good to know that that isn’t all I am. There is something else that is important, and that is me being me.

2nd Liebster blog award/2/1/2016

A sneaky nomination that I was alerted to by Annette… A new blog I follow. Thank you Annette! 😊

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I have been nominated for my 2nd Liebster blog award! Thank you so much for nominating me danetigress I appreciate it!

Rules are

Thank the person who nominated you and include a link back to them.

Answer the questions given to you.

Nominate 15 bloggers and present them with questions of my own

Here are my questions to answer:

What is my blog and why did I choose the theme?
Well, I am not sold on the theme I have yet so I probably will change it. I started this blog as a way to write or journal. I had no idea about getting followers and such. I thought the app was a writing tool. I started with a cell phone.

Where are you from?
I am from Eureka, CA USA

Which country is your favorite to travel to?
I haven’t traveled outside the US so I don’t know.

What…

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