But I Smile Anyway…

This week, Ronovan’s suggested we talk about Connections.

My take…

The first thing that came to mind when I read the word Connections, was technological, the Internet, mobile phones, social media… You need to connect to the Internet in order for it to work, your call needs to connect with the other persons phone, to have a conversation, you need to accept a friend request to make a connection on social media platforms…

Then I thought about it, and related it to life, and our relationships. In order to keep your friendships, family connections and relationship alive, you need to ‘connect’. You need to be in touch with them somehow or another in order to allow these relationships to flourish. You need to be on the same wavelength as some people in order to ‘connect’ with them. If your thoughts, sense of humour, lifestyles are too different, you might keep,losing that ‘connection’. And with friendships, and relationships, you need to take that first step, send that friend request, verbally, to make that ‘connection’.

I ‘connect’ with many people from all walks of life, from my family, both the elders and the younger, the friends from school, university, as well as those mum friends from the schoo, run, and my colleagues from work, and the children I work with too. I think I’ve been blessed with the type of personality, where I can be both traditional, yet modern, sophisticated, yet silly, mature, yet childish, serious yet fun. I have moulded to fit all sorts of different people, in order to connect with them. Amd I am happy to do so. If this is the way for me to keep connections alive, I’ll keep on doing it.

It’s not just connections with people, though, there are those connections with my culture and my religion. Yes, I am not a Punjabi suit wearing Indian gal on a day to day basis. But I speaks da lingo, I can wear the clothes with style, and I can proudly say that I can pass many cultural and religious lessons on to my kids, in order to keep this connection alive too.

Though sometimes I think I might ‘over-connect’ too, and then I struggle to keep up with these connections. After all people start to have expectations, and I hate to disappoint… This is a lesson I am learning now, and I am trying to make sure I keep the connections that really matter, strong, and crystal clear…. Those weak, losing signal connections though, I have realised that sometimes, it’s just better to ‘cut the call’ rather that redialling on repeat.  If they want to connect, maybe they can call me…or send me a friend request… And we can reconnect.