Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 317 – Loss

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“You will always be in my heart… Because in there you’re still alive.

Jamie Cirello

Thank you, Spidey for helping me to find a quote befitting my feelings today.

Yes, across the world, folks will be celebrating Easter, and the ressurrection of Christ, but for me, the day is coloured with a different hue.

You see, yesterday, we lost my uncle.

He’d been battling with the Big C, and the last week, we were all on tenterhooks, knowing that, any day, the phonecall would come, giving us the news we were dreading.

We had time to come to terms with what was imminent, but, let’s be honest, nothing can ever prepare you for the loss.

My uncle, Mamaji, the younger of my mum’s two elder brothers, was a wonderful soul. With his penchant for funny hats, caps, and golf, he was the life and soul of many an occasion.

My biggest regret was that I didn’t get to see him recently. They lived in Kenya, and Australia, and it had been nearly ten years since we last met, physically.

Had this pandemic not hit, his plan had been to come and spend the summer here in the UK, so he could create more memories with us, but the Big C, as well as this awful virus, robbed us of that chance.

Grief is a strange thing. What usually helps us to get through, is the support of others. Right now, however, given lockdowns, and pandemics, my mum can’t fly to be with her family, in Australia, where her nephew and nieces, and sister-in-law, are grieving the loss of their father, and husband. And she can’t even go to Kenya to be with her older brother, so they can grieve together.

What’s even tougher, is that, even though we are in the same country, even we can’t be together, to support one another.

Mamaji, slipped away, surrounded by his immediate family, with his siblings on a video call, with him too.

It makes my heart happy, to know he was with everyone he loved.

And it’s strange, but I wrote a flash fiction piece, just the other day, about someone slipping away. Mum said he looked happy, and finally at peace, as he took those final breaths.

Rest In Peace, Mamaji 🙏🏽💜

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Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps.   

57 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Rae Longest
    Apr 18, 2021 @ 19:04:56

    My Condolences
    I had an Uncle Fletcher, married 5 times in a conservative Christian family, who was a cab driver in a family of educated people. He was a character, and mush beloved by my brother and me. Uncles are special people.

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  2. niasunset
    Apr 06, 2021 @ 07:41:02

    I am sorry too dear Ritu, May he rest in peace! Love and Hugs, nia

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  3. thegriefreality
    Apr 05, 2021 @ 20:32:59

    May he rest in peace x Many hugs x

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  4. A Familiar Stranger
    Apr 05, 2021 @ 00:04:58

    Very sorry to hear of your loss Ritu, my thoughts go to you and your family. Take care, Matthew x

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  5. OIKOS™-Editorial
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 21:19:46

    I am also feeling so sorry about your loss, Sis! Its horrible not to be able to say good bye. Just in these times, under such sad circumstances.;-( Whats happening with us, and what really is this Big “C”? I just have read on a swedish blog, the owner got the vaccine, after tested negative. Now, after the vaccination she has been tested positive. I think i still have to convert our basement into a bunker. ;-( Best wishes, and be blessed! Michael

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  6. pensitivity101
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 20:24:24

    I am so sorry for your loss Ritu. Thinking of you at this sad time.

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  7. Jennie
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 19:55:53

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Ritu! Many hugs to you, my friend.

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  8. willowdot21
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 19:16:33

    I knew it Sis, that beautiful piece was too raw to be written without there being a reason. Sending you love and hugs 💜💜

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  9. Becky Ross Michael
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 17:41:43

    So very sorry to hear of your family’s huge loss, Ritu.

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  10. balroop2013
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 17:40:28

    I can understand how close a Mamaji is to heart. My deepest condolences for you and your family Ritu. May his soul rest in peace.

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  11. Annette Rochelle Aben
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 14:19:22

    God Bless you and your family, Sis! May your hearts be filled with many loving memories and your souls find peace! ❤

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  12. thereluctantpoet
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 13:45:11

    Reblogged this on The Reluctant Poet.

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  13. syl65
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 13:41:50

    Your uncle is resting peacefully and free from sickness and suffering and though he will be missed here on Earth, he will live on in everyone’s heart. Blessings to you and all, Sister 🙏🏽💜

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  14. Keith
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 12:44:09

    Ritu, I love the first quote. It speaks volumes. Keith

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  15. April Munday
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 11:40:51

    Oh Ritu, that’s so hard for you all. I hope you find a way to support one another in your grief.

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  16. Erika
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 09:56:34

    Oh, I am so sorry for the loss of your uncle, sis! It is difficult to be that far away now. The non-physical connection between all of you and between you and your uncle will become even stronger. Still, I wish you could be with them physically. Much love and strength to you and your family, dear sis 💖

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  17. mihrankalaydjianblog
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 09:29:13

    I am deeply sorry about the sad news, you are in our prayers and thoughts:)

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  18. Darlene
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 09:27:00

    I am so sorry to hear this, Ritu. May the love and wonderful memories help you through this sad time. Sending hugs.

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  19. Steve Tanham
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 09:19:57

    How sad, Ritu. Thinking of you. He looked a lovely, kind, man x

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  20. Lucy Bardoe
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 09:17:19

    So sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of love to you and your family xxx

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  21. Susanne Swanson
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 05:36:43

    I’m so sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace.

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  22. lssattitudeofgratitude
    Apr 04, 2021 @ 05:04:44

    I totally understand your loss, both of his physical being and the inability to grieve with family. Sending virtual hugs.

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