“Grow old with me. The best is yet to be.”
Robert Browning
What a lovely quote, Spidey. Thank you. So apt since our anniversary was on Friday.
When we married, we were in the throes of love.
The freshness of our feelings for each other was intense.
We had been together for four years before that. However, due to our culture, we couldn’t be seen to be with one another. (One thing I thank the evolution of time for since it is much more acceptable to be with your chosen partner openly before marriage nowadays than it was, even 21 years ago.)
Sure, people knew, and we were officially engaged for a good couple of years before the big day. But still, it wasn’t the done thing to bring him to any family events, for me to go to his house or to openly meet other members of his extended family.
We were a bit rebellious, though, because, before marriage, we did meet others out of familial situations because how can you be together for so long without meeting anyone else other than your friends?
That love we felt on that day 21 years ago has never lessened, but it has changed over the years.
Our hearts have had to expand to invite in the families who became one with our union.
There is a huge space extended for our children, both human and not (Sonu Singh, our Punjabi Cat, Heer and Ranjha, our parrotlets (RIP), and the numerous fish we have had over the years.)
And as is natural, our feelings have evolved. It’s not all just about physical attraction.
Yes, those feelings are there, but the way love changes, we have more insight into one another, and we value each other more.
Companionship has become even more important.
Okay, yes, we do argue. There are fallouts once in a while, but isn’t that just the case with everyone?
And that is only overcome because our love for each other is so strong.
Each stage of our relationship with each other changes, as does our love, and as the quote says above, quite possibly, the best is yet to come, and I am excited to see where the future takes us and our family.
So, tell me, what does love mean to you?
Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!
But I Smile Anyway... 
Nov 21, 2022 @ 18:52:28
All so true Ritu. My hubby and I have been together since I was eighteen! We are still best of friends and he is everything I am not and vice versa! He is much more sporty and adventurous and musical than me. Never a dull moment, he has always been a bit hyper but calmed somewhat with age. Lol. But he still wants to go to rock concerts and I go with him. I suppose deep down I like a bit of excitement too 😉 Interspered with tea, tai chi and books.
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 19:16:58
That’s the best wat, Marje! Yin and yang 💛
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 16:21:09
Happy Anniversary, Sis! What a wonderful and very heart touching reminiscence. All the best to you all, also for the future! Best wishes, Michael
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 17:41:02
Thank you Bro 💛
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 15:03:06
Happy Anniversary! Yes, love does evolve over the years, you expressed it perfectly. Approaching number 48 in January. Hope you had a great day followed by many happy years. ❤
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 15:38:57
Thank you! 😊
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 04:01:18
We had 57 years of marriage before I lost My Better Half this past March. We both waited two years before coming together (That’s the way it was back in our day), and it was worth the wait. It was easy to “behave” properly because from the time we started dating in 1962 until 1964 when we were married, He was in Mississippi and I was in Virginia. Long distance then was very expensive, so we only phoned once a month and only see each other summers, Christmas and a couple of Spring Breaks. We made up for this by writing every day. I still have a few of the letters.
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 06:11:31
Oh bless you. You have wonderful memories, to keep you happy, too, Rae. 🤗🤗💛💛
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 03:08:08
Very sweet. My wife and I have been married for 36 years. Marriages evolve over the years. That doesn’t mean for better or worse, as the vows say; it’s simply different. Like you, companionship and having an understanding and loving partner is crucial to me.
Congratulations on choosing the right person. I also feel very fortunate and blessed.
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 06:10:48
Thank you, Pete. Marriage, like love, does evolve over time.
I’m happy you found your person, too 🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 20:18:00
Awww, Ritu, this is a beautiful reflection!
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 20:22:05
Thank you. Love is ever evolving 🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 20:02:20
Happy Anniversary!
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 20:12:22
Thanks, Jennie 💛
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Nov 21, 2022 @ 02:11:01
You’re welcome, Ritu!
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 18:16:21
Happy anniversary, Ritu.
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 18:34:01
Thanks, Robbie!
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 15:37:56
Happy Anniversary again, Sis. Like you, our love and friendship have evolved over the years. The love is always there. That’s the secret. ❤️
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 15:43:21
Thank you, Sis 🥰 may your live continue to grow and flourish 🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 15:57:36
We’re coming up on 38 years. I can’t believe it’s been that long. Thanks so much, Sis. I wish you all the best. ❤️
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 15:58:13
🥰🥰🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 14:39:36
I pray that you both continue on your journey together united, blessed and filled with love, Sister 🙏🏽❤️
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 14:42:04
Thank you, Brother 🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 14:49:49
You’re very welcome, Sister ❤️
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 13:40:45
After over 51 years of Marriage I can agree it’s ever changing and growing, we are three generations deep now and our love has stretch.
All I can say to you hun is
💜💜💜💜💜
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 13:59:07
💛💛💛💛💛💛
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 11:36:25
Love is a miraculous energy! Here’s to love being forever miraculous for you and those who mean the most to you! ❤
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 11:48:20
Thank you, Sis! And for you, too 🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 11:04:01
There are ups and downs in every relationship. I think it depends on the intention when you married and what you see behind it. And of course, it depends on both. You never know where life takes you and only staying together because you once married is not always the solution. But even more wonderful when over time the bond only tightens, regardless of any circumstances. I am happy for you that you are on that journey together. Much love to you, Sis 💖
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 11:15:41
Thank you, Sis. Love your thoughts on love, too 🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 11:32:53
💖🤗💖
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:12:36
THEY (?) SAY, Marry in Haste, Repent at Leisure.Julia and I married after just 6 months but did not repent. We nurtured what we had and watched it grow. Sure there . were hiccups along the way but use those as guides as to what is acceptable to each other and what isn’t. Love becomes more fantastic the longer it has to grow. Julia died almost ten years ago now and
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:17:14
AND i WAS DEVASTATED….STILL AM BUT MEMORIES KEEP ME GOING AND OUR LOVELY DAUGHTER MAKES SURE I’M OK.Never give up on Love Ritu, it doesn’t make the world go round but it makes the ride worthwhile.
Huge Hugs to you as always.
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:56:11
I truly understand what you mean, David. 🤗🤗🤗
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:55:47
Huge hugs, David 🤗🤗
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:48:19
The warmest feelings over the love you have for each other, Ritu. Here’s to many more, happy years. ‘Im indoors and I will be celebrating our 70th wedding anniversary in February (with luck!) I was Catholic and he Jewish, so many frowns and dark mutterings. We are now Humanists. The deepest love suffers hiccups along the way…Our journey has included three worthy, loved sons, lots of humour and kindness, and hubby is very romantic, even now at 94. Love & Hugs xx
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:55:27
Wow! 70 years is an amazing achievement !
My parents hit 50 in April, too 🥰🥰🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:26:47
what a beautiful post about love, your love! to me, love is accepting each other as you are, supporting the other, and making each other better by being together. it sounds like you have done all of that –
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:27:58
Thank you, Beth. Love us all encompassing, isn’t it? 💛
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:43:49
it absolutely is. I’m currently seeking a new love, so I’ll keep you posted, and will never settle for anything less than the real thing –
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:45:45
You find your love, Beth 🥰🥰
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:19:52
Best of luck in your search Beth, any man would b fortunate to win your heart.
Hugs
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:33:08
❤
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 10:56:16
🤗🤗
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:04:52
So beautifully said Ritu. All the best for the future
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:05:37
Thank you, Sajde ❤
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Nov 20, 2022 @ 09:06:33
You’re most welcome
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