Today is a day tinged with sadness, my brother’s best friend, a little brother to me too, is being laid to rest today.
Feelings are very mixed.
Why would He take a young man, in the prime of his life, so soon?
He touched the lives of many.
An impression left on even those he met briefly.
A shining light to all, in moments of darkness.
His smile was infectious.
The love he gave to all was bottomless.
Ehi, we will miss you so much here, I know you’ve left a HUGE gap in the lives of us all…
Pray that we will all meet again somewhere, up above.
R.I.P. lil brother xxxx
Well, first of all, can I say a huge thank you, and virtual hug to you all who were so supportive with my mad weekend, and Lil Man and his issues.
Sunday night is finally here, and the wedding is over, Lil Man seems much improved, and I got a good night’s sleep last night which always makes the day feel better!
I know it isn’t the morning, but a little Lionel Richie would be good here, Easy (Like Sunday Morning)
However, next week is nothing like Easy….
I start on another of my new teacher duties. We have Home Visits, where we get to meet the new children who will be starting in September, my new class. We go to see them in their home surroundings, chat to parents and allow the kids to familiarise themselves with us, their new teachers.
Then I travel to London for my last Return To Teach course day. Weird as I am already in a teaching position, but actually I have to complete the course, it is important to finish what I started!
Then Wednesday, I have a twilight course between 4-6pm, but my heart wont be there, it will be in London, at the funeral of my brother’s dear friend, who passed away recently. 😦
Of course in all this, there will be the reports, and data updates to finish for the children, and I can hope to look forward to cuddles from my gorgeous baby nephew, whom I haven’t met yet, as they live in Finland, but they will be here, so I am super excited at that! 😀
But the MOST IMPORTANT thing… My Lil Man turns 10 tomorrow! Scary but true!
Have a good night Peeps, and a fantastic week ahead!
I’m up and about, after finally getting a full night’s sleep, after a good few weeks.
Kids stayed put in their beds, we slept soundly as I’d changed the covers for summer weight ones finally (after all we’re meant to be getting a heatwave here!) And I had arranged to meet my in laws at the wedding late, so I wouldn’t have to sit around too much.
Well, as the post title states, this was another case of T.I.T.!!!!
I aimed to be at the temple by 11.30am, hopefully the ceremony would be in full swing… They were meant to start the ceremony by 11am.
I got here, with Lil Princess, and the boys side, who were local, were 1.5 hours late… So people were still eating the wedding breakfast! I wasn’t late… In fact we were early by all standards!!
Got upstairs and now things are happening, but we’ve just had the Kurmai, which is an engagement ceremony of sorts.
Wow! Engaged on your wedding day, now that’s quick!!
In our weddings there are several levels of engagement. The first, the Roka, where , effectively, you are putting your deposit down on the suitable candidate, then there is the Chunni, where the Boy’s side come to the girl to gift her with items to signify she is spoken for. Nowadays rings are exchanged here too. Then you have the Kurmai, which takes place in the temple, where the Girl’s side accept the boy formally in front of the Guru Granth Sahib. Usually thus,was done weeks or months before the wedding , but in recent years it had become more common to do this on the day, as no one has countless weekends free for all the ceremonies of one wedding. It’s like a ‘2 for 1’ deal!!
Anyway, that has just happened. Late of course, and now the bride has entered and the ceremony begins… At 12.30pm!!!
It is normally custom to get the Lawaan (the wedding rounds) done before 12pm, but that has become less and less followed over the years. The significance of the time? In days of old, back in the villages in Punjab, the Baraat, Boy’s side, would travel early in the morning to reach the girl’s home for the ceremony, and in order to get back home to finish the ceremonies, the wedding needed to be done by 12pm, to allow them time to eat, then get back home. Not the same now with fast cars and motorways!
Another little fact for you… Why do we have a Sarbala, or best man? Because these early morning journeys were treacherous and there were dacoits en route. If something unfortunate were to happen to the groom, the best man took his place!! So you never knee who you might end up marrying!!!
So the wedding is in full flow now, the rounds haven’t started yet, but hey, it is T.I.T.!!?
