Spidey’s Serene Sunday #420 – Indulgence

“Self-care is not indulgence. It’s self-preservation.”

Audre Lourde

Thank you, Spidey, for another thought-provoking one.

There’s a difference between Self-indulgence and Over-indulgence, let’s get that straight, first off!

I have definitely been known to over-indulge… my belly is proof of that…

But self-indulgence is different. That is excessive or unrestrained gratification of one’s own appetites, desires, or whims. (Oops, might be a bit of over-indulgence there, too…)

Self-care is a different kettle of fish. There is an element of self-indulgence involved, but it is measured. Because you take the time to do something for you, rather than for the pleasure of others.

You get to a point in your life where, if you are a parent, especially, your responsibilities begin to lessen, a tad.

(The worry? That doesn’t go anywhere, but you lose a certain amount of control, so you have to accept it!)

Or, just generally, that point in life arrives, where you realise you don’t need to be living your every minute dancing to someone else’s tune.

It’s fine to abide by the rules.

No one is disputing, that, but there are times when you know it is time to switch off from the world and do what you want.

It could be the obvious self-care regimes, taking time out for a bath, visiting the salon or going for a walk, going window-shopping or reading a book until late in the morning with your cup of tea cooling by your bedside, or whatever you wouldn’t usually make the time to do.

Not selfish, or over-indulgent. Just time for you.

I’ve definitely reached that time, in that I know what I have to do, as well as what I can leave, in order to give me enough time for my family and their needs, as well as time for me.

It’s a wonderful age!

So, Peeps, do you indulge yourself once in a while? 😊

25 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. robbiesinspiration
    Mar 29, 2023 @ 06:26:19

    PS I would most certainly not want to have a baby now. When I see a baby I feel tired – isn’t that awful!

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  2. robbiesinspiration
    Mar 29, 2023 @ 06:25:50

    Hi Ritu, I am at the same place in my life as you. I’ve had young mothers ask me how I make time for the artistic things I do and I say this very thing. My kids are older now and I have more time for me. When they were young, I never did these things as my time was entirely devoted to them. This is the cycle of life.

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  3. OIKOSβ„’- Art, Books & more
    Mar 27, 2023 @ 22:42:19

    Agreement, sister! I only need a large box with chocolate to indulge myself. But I would forbade myself not to roll without rocking. πŸ™‚ xx Michael

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  4. Jennie
    Mar 26, 2023 @ 20:07:50

    Well said, Ritu! πŸ˜€

    Liked by 1 person


  5. Annette Rochelle Aben
    Mar 26, 2023 @ 14:19:10

    I am always learning new ways to show myself love! ❀

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  6. Reaseaorg
    Mar 26, 2023 @ 13:17:43

    Switching off is such an important part of self care, and key for mental health too πŸ™‚ Nice post

    Liked by 1 person


  7. willowdot21
    Mar 26, 2023 @ 11:57:01

    It sounds like you are looking after yourself these day Sis and you definitely deserve it!
    I seem to have less me time than ever these days but I get my nails done regularly and walk as much as I can, I seem to not be reading as much as I would like though.

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  8. davidprosser
    Mar 26, 2023 @ 07:33:09

    I’ve been alone for ten years next week. I self indulge on a regular basis now. Once a week I travel an hour and a half by bus to see my grandchilden before they go into school then have a morning mooching with my daughter. Once or twice a week I go to town to shop then stop for a coffee and maybe a teasted toecake or a bacon bap.It’s nice to interact with humans even i I can’t really talk to them. Much better than talking to the budgie.

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  9. Sadje
    Mar 26, 2023 @ 06:58:40

    Self care is a part of my monthly routine. A manicure, a pedicure and roots dying is must.

    Liked by 2 people


  10. beth
    Mar 26, 2023 @ 06:46:33

    that’s a wonderful place to be in life

    Liked by 2 people


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