But I Smile Anyway…

And I am so skilled!

Constantly!

At the present I have a cut on my leg, because even though I knew it was there, I scraped against broken glass in a bin liner, that had been wrapped up, mind you, yet I still managed! Don’t worry though, it isn’t too bad!

And a bruise on my hip, as I walked into a door handle whilst back home! Pops was following me, actually telling me to calm down, as the kids were being really brattish, and after controlling myself, I had had a go at them.  He was me holding my hip, and grimacing.  After asking me what was the matter, he said, “were you still angry when that happened?” Yup, I had been extremely frustrated with the sprogs, and was so busy trying to control my temper that I walked into a door! “Well, beta, this is what happens when you don’t count to 10 first.  You must relax your mind, and try not to think angrily first.  I know, I was the same as a youngster, it took me many years to learn this, but you lose so much when you act in anger.  Try and breathe deeply, before reacting to anything.”

And you know, he is right.  And I know this well enough, I am always saying the same to my son who is a peaceful creature, but can flip at the flick of a switch, and his anger can be scary… I say to him

“Think about reaction, before you action.”

He is great at spur of the moment things, which then cause him to get told off, that he knows were the wrong reactions, but, like us all, he realises, in hindsight, that would have been the wrong choice.

I am trying to practice what I preach.  It’s harder as an adult to change your way of thinking, but if I can make him, and Lil Princess, understand these things as children, I hope it will help them in the future.