Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 399 – Friends


“In the cookie of life, friends are the chocolate chips.”


I do love a chocolate chip, Spidey!

So, it’s the last day of my half-term break, and yes, I have rested. I read many, many books. I also did a little work on the manuscript and have sent my edited version to the publisher and editor!

But the most fun thing was that I met my friends! Two sets of friends, actually Ona slightly newer bunch, in the Society of Authors, local chapter. We had a great evening chatting about all things writing and publishing. There are a few very successful and prolific writers within my group. I am fortunate to be a part of it!

The icing on the cake this week though was meeting my Tootie Frooties! If you go back around three or four years on my blog, you’ll have seen me mention them more. We are a group of women and mums who came together a while ago. All like-minded with the need to be able to let down our hair without the constraints of being mums and wives. We even completed a charity walk in London for Cancer Research a while back.

Long story short, our friendship has been there throughout the last few years, but what with Covid and lockdowns, and life, we haven’t been able to meet up for around three years. Our WhatsApp group has remained active, and some of us have met individually here and there, but a physical meet-up hasn’t happened. Life happens. Some members weren’t able to be there, but seven of us managed to get together for a drink, a lovely Italian meal, and a lot of laughs.

It was much needed.

It was a later night than I am used to since I am getting older now😜 and need my sleep, but I felt so refreshed after!

So, tell me, how often do you get out with your friends?


Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 387 – Old Friends


“Good friends are like stars. You don’t always see them but you know they’re always there.”


Thank you, Spidey, for a lovely quote, befitting for what we will be doing, today.

It’s a busy one for us as a family this Sunday as we head off to visit two of our old university friends, and their families. We haven’t seen them for anything from ten to fourteen years!

We all have children, our own homes,(and I have plenty of grey hair) and so much catching up to do. I can’t wait to spend time with them all!

So, forgive me for the shortness of my post, but I’ve got to go and get ready for a lovely afternoon of reminiscing!

So, are you still in touch with old university/college friends?


Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 238 – Friends


“A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked.”

Bernard Meltzer

Cool quote Spidey!

I went out with some great friends on Friday night.

I don’t have the Buzz to my Woody here, locally. My BFF for the last 25 ish years… but I have a group of wonderful friends locally, The Tootie Frooties, and one of those is my other BFF.

We look out for each other, we laugh, we laugh together, and because our children are friends, we lookout for each others kids too.

We went to a comedy night, had a few drinks and ran late at the comedy night, but went for a quick meal afterwards. It was such a fun night, much needed after a long time without meeting up, sans kids!

My jaw ached the next day from laughing so much, not just from the comedy, but from our own laughs before and after. That is friendship.

And I know, that with them, I can be myself, without anyone having major expectations of me. They know the Ritu they see is the Real Ritu. And I’m not perfect. None of us are. But we are us. And we love each other as we are.

Those are the friendships worth having ❤

So… tell me, how often spend time with your real friends?

R̶u̶n̶n̶i̶n̶g̶ Walking A Half Marathon!👀

Well, today I’ve gone and done something I didn’t think I’d be doing in a hurry…

My friends, the Tootie Frooties (remember them, featured here, here, and here ) and I decided we’d like to do a bit of fundraising, and seven of us have only gone and signed up for the Cancer Research UK Shine Walk in London on September 22nd!

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It’s a walk through Central London at night!

There was the option of a full marathon, but I’m afraid none of us felt up to that much walking, no matter how wonderful the company!

But after chatting about it, we finally did it. Signed up, paid our fees and set up our fundraising pages too!

I am quite excited. Walking together, for 13.1 miles (eek!) at night will be amazing! Lots of opportunities for silly selfies and the camaraderie of a night like this is always phenomenal!

Shine course map

The Route

A couple of us did a Race For Life in Hyde Park, London, which was five miles, with our kids 8 years ago, so there may be feelings of Deja Vu, but we are all older and will have no minors with us this time!

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We were the Smurfettes!


That’s some of my team there!

If you fancy donating to a great cause, please click on the link below!


Park Wars #LostChildhood

I didn’t grow up in this area, but I grew up in an era when we ran out of our houses as soon as we were allowed, played until we were hungry, and came back home.

Our parents didn’t have to fret about what we were doing. They knew we were in the park, or riding bikes with our friends.

When we started secondary school, there was no fear about us walking to school alone, or with our mates.

Fast forward thirty years and it is a different ball game everywhere we look.

As a parent to a near teenager and a child who will start secondary within the next couple of years, I have an honest fear of what could happen.

My child walks to school, and back, sometimes with friends, sometimes alone. He wants to pop into the park for a kick about with his mates, as kids that age naturally want to do. It took us a while to gain the courage to actually let him do that.

The thing is, though I trust my child, and have every faith in him, that he wouldn’t do anything wrong, it’s the rest of the world that I can’t be sure of.

The recent incidents in the local park have caused a great deal of unrest amongst many parents. Articles and posts have been circulating around Facebook, and other Social Media networks, getting everyone rather worried.

I want him to grow up independent, and able to make decisions for himself, but equally, I don’t want to be sending him out like a lamb to slaughter.

( You want to know what happened? A couple of weeks ago a gang of teens beat an innocent lad with a baton, and there have been allegations of organised bare knuckle fights happening there. These are just some recent incidents, but they are becoming more regular, and in turn, are scaring families away from a beautiful park and play area.)

I dropped him off there, to that very park (it’s our local park), last Saturday, tentatively, to meet some friends. I was reassured to see some Community Police Officers circulating at least twice whilst we were parked up waiting for the others. This week though, with all the press and publicity the incidents have received, it was decided that the boys wouldn’t meet. They were sensible about it, reasoning that it was too unsafe to go.

Yes the police can be around, but if someone was to flash a knife and the officers were at the other side of the park, if there at all, they wouldn’t be able to stop something happening. The boy’s words. They also want to know there will be CCTV cameras installed for safety.

Maybe social media has a lot to answer for.

Is it scaremongering of sorts? Who can we blame?

One thing’s for sure though. Our kids are losing out on a lot of chances to learn independence skills because we have this fear of letting them out into that dangerous environment.

I feel saddened that our children don’t feel the freedom of childhood that we did. Instead they end up kept at home, where they are glued to screens. Then we worry about childhood obesity.

Or we run them, and ourselves, ragged, sending them to extra-curricular activities, to get them out of the house, leaving us a pretty penny poorer too. At least meeting at, or riding their bikes to the park is free.

What do the kids want? The chance to meet up with their friends, with no worry about who could turn up, cause trouble or steal bikes.

How can that happen? Park wardens, like the good old days, and proper CCTV cameras installed as a deterrent, and evidence if needed.

Maybe the council could see to use some of that exorbitant council tax we pay to do this, so the youngsters of this region can actually be kids for longer, instead of wannabe gangstas in training…

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