Friends.
The brothers and sisters we choose for ourselves.
Those who don’t stick with us because they have to, but because they actually want to!
I pride myself on being a friendly, approachable person. It does me well in life in general, but in my job too. This way, I manage to accumulate many acquaintances, too many for me to profess a feeling of love for!
My friends range from those I met at school all those years ago, to university pals, wok colleagues, old and new, and mummy friends. Not forgetting the all important blog pals I have!
But there are those that I have a deep feeling of love for. Not romantic, or anything like that… not friends with benefits (I have a husband, you know, and he is lovely!)
My closest friend is one I met at university. It will be 24 years in October since we met, and our lives became entwined.
Nadia. My darling sister from another mother. I have written about her here, but this was long ago.
Our friendship was a bit of a shocker to some.
A Sikh girl and a Muslim girl… best friends while in the walls of our university, there were ‘wars’ occurring between the Punjabi Society and the Islamic Society. But that mattered not a jot to us. We were two young Asian girls, thrown together in a situation neither had been in, where we were given the freedom to live alone, and the trust to enjoy life but to be ‘good’!
We were studying the same course too, which helped forge our friendship. Ask Nadia now, and she still says that we met as I chatted her up by the pigeon holes!
But we spent 4 years living in the same halls, then the same student houses. She was privy to my innermost secrets, personal, family, everything. As I was to hers.
I was welcomed with open arms to her parents home in the holidays, and I gained a whole new family, with an older brother, three more sisters, and a wonderful surrogate set of parents! And this was echoed for her when she would come and visit me!
After qualifying, we went our separate ways geographically, but that doesn’t mean we were to be separated. What are phones for, eh!
Despite being in separate towns, our bond remained strong. She was a key person in my wedding, staying with me for a whole week beforehand, and it was her (my) sister who did my henna too!.
All through our friendship at university, and beyond, I just wanted to see her happy, to fall in love with a guy who would worship her and give her all the love she deserved. It didn’t happen straight away, but just a few years ago, I was so happy to be there by my sister’s side, for a whole week, to celebrate her wedding!
This is one friend who I love with all my heart. That friend who, even if we don’t speak for weeks on end, will be there at the drop of a hat for me, and vice versa. After a long break of not talking our conversations are never stilted, it’s like we just take up where we left off!
I hope that everyone has a friend like this. One you know will be with you forever. ❤
A shining light
A beacon
Always there
Through thick and thinMore sibling
Than friend
Wiping tears
Making you grinYour partner
In crime
Your conscience
in lifeSometimes
Causing trouble
Others, saving you
From strifeA soul you need
beside you
Your best friend
You have foundA soulmate
Of a different kind
To keep your feet
Firmly on the groundRitu 2017
Love you Nadi ❤
Remember, feel free to take part in #Loveuary! Just ping back to the daily post, as in this one for today! And if you are at a loss for a prompt, then visit my rules post here for a list of prompt suggestions!
But I Smile Anyway... 
Feb 07, 2017 @ 22:16:48
Awww…. love this, Ritu! ❤
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Feb 07, 2017 @ 22:47:35
Thank you Traci. Where would we be without our friends?!
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Feb 07, 2017 @ 05:28:31
This is beautifully touching Sis. 😍😍
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Feb 07, 2017 @ 08:02:14
Thank you bro 🙂
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 21:14:03
This is what friendship is all about. It is the meeting of two souls regardless of where they are from or what they believe in.
This was a beautiful post Sis xx
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 21:24:32
Thank you Sis. Nadi means the world to me 😍
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 21:02:21
Hey Ritu just seen that you have a sickness bug ( on Judy’s page) I really hope you are better soon.sending you hugs xx
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 21:03:58
Thank you Willow… yes after years of exposure at school, it finally got me… 😷 xxx
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 21:12:04
Really is this the first sick bug you’ve had. I hope it’s not too bad! xxxx
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 21:24:03
It’s not as bad as some have had… but knocked the stuffing out of me! 🤒
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 22:33:52
I hate sickness bugs nothing worse!!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 23:43:36
I agree Willow!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 23:47:40
😱😨
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 18:37:57
I LOVE these love posts! This story of you and your friends is amazing and brings tears to my eyes. It’s so lovely when people can look beyond and just love one another. Lovely story and I’m so glad you have this person in your life!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 18:42:48
Thank you hun. Nadia is so special to me 👭😍
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 17:05:04
Marvelous!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 17:08:48
Thanks Dorna x
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 15:59:41
Such a blessing to have a friend that is more like a sister/brother. That’s awesome that the clash going on around you had no influence on your friendship!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 16:27:12
We made sure it didn’t affect us Brother! 💖
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 17:01:19
That is how it should be..friendship based on the heart!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 17:08:00
Exactly!!!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 22:43:40
😊
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 15:00:54
Reblogged this on The Bee Writes… and commented:
My best friends name is Nadia too :-). Please join Ritu in her wonderful #Loveuary!
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 12:54:31
Hey Ritu !! You have an awesome blog
Yeah true friends are hard to find only lucky people get them.
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 12:54:51
Thank you soooo much 😍
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 12:58:24
You are welcome 🙂
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 12:30:31
Another beautiful blog and poem that shows what a wonderful person you are. It is wonderful how you show true friendship transcends creed, in my life too I have found friends like this. You and Nadi are truly blessed! 💟💖💟
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 12:35:46
Thank you Willow. I think I am truly blessed with Nadi by my side xxx
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 13:19:34
Yes you are xxxx
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 13:21:02
💖
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 09:25:02
You said it right in the beginning: friends are the brothers and sisters we choose to have. I love that! I can hear you in all you wrote here and I am happy you have such close brothers and sisters by heart, Sis! 💖
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 09:31:36
Thanks sis. You are one of them too 😚❤❤
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 10:05:54
I am humbled you say so and touched to feel it for so long. So are you, sis! So are you definitely! 💖💖😘💖💖
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 12:26:23
👭👭👭💕💖💞💗
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 13:24:25
Awh 😘😘😘
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 09:12:04
Awww, how lucky you both are to have such a bond and a true friendship ❤ it’s a wonderful tale to read.
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 09:29:56
Thank you Em. She is truly special xxx
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 07:37:33
wow, this is sincere, touching…
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Feb 06, 2017 @ 07:54:53
Thank you Mihran, We all need friends, the are often our backbone. 🙂
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