Spidey’s Serene Sunday #409 and #JusJoJan the 8th, 2023 – Friendship

We’re doing an amalgamation of posts here, today, with Spidey (with his newly spruced up graphic!), and Linda’s #JusJoJan, together!

Welcome to the daily prompt! Today is your eighth prompt for Just Jot it January 2023, and it’s brought to you by Jezzie. Thank you, Jezzie! Please be sure to visit Jezzie’s blog to read her post and say hello. And follow her while you’re there, if you’re not already.


Your prompt for JusJoJan January 8th 2023, is “friendship.” Use the word “friendship” any way you’d like. Have fun writing!

“True friends are always together in spirit.”

L.M. Montgomery

I count myself so lucky to be surrounded by friends in all aspects of my life.

Every day I work with a team of people who are more than colleagues. They see me and share the ups and downs of my life, as well as me doing the same with them. Honestly, I can’t call them colleagues when they are such good friends who sometimes know more about me than my family, and I feel blessed to have them.

I have my Tootie Frooties, too. A group of like-minded, similar-aged friends who have come together over the last few years. We are all British Indian, married, mums, working, and in need of people who are on the same wavelength! I found some of them as my closest friends.

I have my old friends, from way back, in school and at university, and some from past employment. We have less contact, but it is always wonderful to catch up at reunions whenever we get the chance.

I have my online friends, and again, I have many, many acquaintances, but I also have many real friends, some of whom I haven’t ever met, but our interactions over the years have built a bond so strong, we may as well have been meeting since childhood.

Then I have my best buddy.

A friendship that has lasted what will be thirty years come this September.

Nadia is the Buzz to my Woody.

We started an important chapter of our lives together. university days, when we were both tasting independence from our families, exploring the world of living out, going out, experimenting with all sorts (not bad, Mum, honestly!), and being sisters from other misters to one another.

We’ve experienced harrowing things together, including certain folk trying to prise our friendship apart, seeing as I am Sikh and she is Muslim.

Seriously, that is how petty some folk are, but we see beyond religion, and our hearts met and connected that first day of University when she would tell anyone who asked that I chatted her up at the mailboxes! I was only asking where they were, but still, it sparked a friendship that I treasure.

She’s seen me at my best, as well as at my worst. She’s the one who I know I can call on whenever. We don’t get to talk as much, and we haven’t seen each other for over three years due to Covid and life, but she’s that one who I can speak to after months, and we slip into conversations as if we had only been yakking the day before.

Cheers to a friendship that will never end.

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 211 – Friendship


“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.” – Jim Morrison

Oh, I do love it, Spidey, when you give me something to think upon, something that is totally relevant to life right now!

Friends are the family you choose for yourself.

There are so many types of friendships; the acquaintances, the ‘specific times of your life’ friends, the work friends, the kids’ parents friends, and the real friends.

You do indeed get to a time in your life when you find that, though you can surround yourself with people on a daily basis, there are only a few people, possibly as many as you have fingers on your hand, that are your real friends.

All through school, I had plenty of mates, friends who knew what school was like and we could grumble together, fawn over music and crushes together, that sort of thing. But I don’t think I ever really forged a true, strong friendship with anyone. Because no one at my school saw the full, real me. They saw the quiet Indian girl who was a bit quirky and fun, but not the Ritu who was the loud one at home and in family functions. The Ritu who embraced her Eastern roots and culture as much as she loved her adopted Western roots too.

That Ritu, and the one you all know today, really found those friendships after starting university. There, I learned more about myself, and became more confident being me. And there is one person, the Buzz to my Woody, who carried me through a whole loads of ups and downs over the last nearly 30 years… My beautiful best friend.

She is a beautiful soul, inside and out ❤

We don’t live close. We speak less than we ought to, but we have a connection that is always open. She knows me better than almost anyone.

And, I feel blessed to have at least one other person who I feel like that about too.

You hear me talking about my special group of girls, my Tootie Frooties, here in my marital hometown. We try and meet up regularly, to have a catch-up, a chat, a drink and a laugh, and they are all so special to me.

But there is one who is another soul sister to me. Since we had children, well more since Lil Man was 4, we have connected, and she has been another one who I have been able to rely upon for support, laughs and general sisterhood.

My second soul sister ❤

Of course, I have so many blog friends who I count upon as true friends, those who I look forward to meeting yearly, and have personal contact with regularly, outside of blogland too! There are some of you who I have contacted for support as well as laughs, and I know some of you will email or message me for that same support, which I gladly give ❤

I count myself very lucky to have these folks in my life, and I want to thank each and every one of you for letting me be ‘me’ with you ❤

So… tell me, who do you count as your true, ‘be myself’ friends?

Mellow Monday


Image from a random Facebook page

Isn’t this all you could ask for, from a true friend!

Someone who doesn’t want to influence you, make you part of a ‘clique’ change you, impart their views on you.

Someone who is independent, not clinging, and needing you at every step of their life.

But someone who travels the journey of life alongside you, and yes, there might be times when your opinion is needed, there may be times when you need the support, but for the most part, there are just people who bond, who gel together, who almost become a part of you.


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