#SoCS June 8/19 – Life Balance

Linda’s #SoCS prompt this week is a repeat, but looks, likely to become a repeat offender, in a good way!

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “open book, point, write.” Pick up the closest book to you when you sit down to write your post. Close your eyes, open the book, and place your finger on the page. Whatever word or phrase your finger lands on, write about it. Enjoy!

I am currently reading a coupleof books, which is a bit of a shocker, as I am not am multi-book reader usually, but I have a novel my Karen McQuestion – From A Distant Start – on the go, and a positive thinking book, Unlearn, by Humble The Poet that I am dipping in and out of.

It was Humble’s book that came into my hand first…

… and the words my fingers came to rest upon were ‘balance in life’.

Kinda freaky, as I have been talking to my Hoppalong Hubby Dearest about balance recently. More accurately, work/life balance.

That’s a big thing, nowadays, isn’t it?

The pressure to do better, perform better, get things done perfectly, do it all better… it’s upon us all in some way.

And increasingly, you might see couples not really leading a couples life, but fleetingly meeting in the mornings, and hardly talking in the evenings, busy with work related things, and too tired to interact in more than the most basic of greetings and goodnights.

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You hear of families who, even though they are traditional two parent families, find one parent, often the mother, feeling like a single parent, because, despite working herself, the other half is laden down with work pressures, and is barely able to make an evening parents evening, let alone help with the school run once in a while.

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There are those professionals who haven’t even got either of the above to balance out, as their work takes up so much time, that a social life, or time for themselves is so limited.

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Work/Life balance.

Afre we working to live or living to work?

  • I love my job. I truly do.
  • I love my family. More than my job.
  • I love my writing with a passion.
  • I love my friends.

Why should one have to give?

So, here’s what I do… I compartmentalise. And I find shortcuts!

The first hour of my day is devoted to getting things ready for everyone, then relaxing with a cuppa, watching the news and catching up with notifications and emails.

Yes, I am in work early, very early, by 7.45am. Yes, I can be still there at 5.45pm… but only on three days. The other two, I’m out by 4pm

During the day, I will take a break, but I will also make sure I am doing all that needs to be done to prepare for the rest of the week, to make my life easier.

I make sure that, apart from report writing, and the odd time I need to make resources, I bring no work home with me at all.

At home then, I am wife and mum. I’dd do cooking and housework. I’ll help with homework. I’ll nag (because all good wives do) and I’ll have fun with my family.

Then, once everyone is all set, my evening time is mine to choose what I do with it. Read, write, watch tv, iron (I do love a bit of steam pressing) whatever takes my fancy!

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I will arrange nights out with friends. I will go and see family. I will not let work tip me over the edge, even though it is easy to do.

We were discussing it as an opportunity may arise for Hoppalong, where he could go for a role which is more prestigious than his current one, but will involve more stress and pressure, and possibly more time. He compares himself to his MD who is literally on work mode 24/7.

You know, if it works for his MD then fine, but there is no need to be like that. There are always ways to balance things out.

Sure, when you start hight pressure jobs, the need is there to be a little more work, a little less life… but once you are settled, there is the chance to bring that balance back.

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#SoCS June 1/19 – Silence

Linda’s #SoCS prompt for this week:

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “silent/silence.” Use one or both in your post. Have fun!

The Colour of Silence

Silence is golden
I often hear say
But I'd like to think different
That is, if I may
For silence can come
In a total array
Of colours, depending on
What you're feeling that day

That deafening silence
Can feel rather black
When you're thinking that
No one's quite got your back

The silence of loss
Comes across as quite blue
When you're filling a void
Not knowing what to do

When silent anger is simmering
Deep inside your head
No, that's not golden,
You're just seeing red

That silence you hear
When it's late at night
Kids asleep, no disturbances
That's purely white

In the peace of the moment,
When all is quite calm
That silence is purple
It does you no harm

And yes, it can feel, sometimes
Silver or golden
As you accept life
When your body does olden

A rainbow of quiet
See, what I said was true
Feel silence in so many ways
Not only just a few
Cos silence it comes in
In many a hue
We all like some quiet
Which colour's for you?

#SoCS May 11/19

Linda’s #SoCS prompt this week:

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “strain.” Use it any way you’d like. Enjoy!

Strain… Oh yes, I’m definitely feeling that right now…

Ever since Hubby Dearest’s injury, which is definitely more than a strain, I have been shouldering all the responsibility of running the kids around everywhere, along with all my usual jobs, and coping with a person who is not always too happy being holed up in the house, unable to do very much at all, apart from sit…

I am shattered. And this weekend will be giving me no restful opportunity either. Saturday morning, Swimming lessons for Lil Princess, followed by badminton for them both.

I was hoping for a few hours of peace in the afternoon, where I could get my nails done or something, but no, we have a couple of hours then we will be meeting Hubby Dearest’s brother and wife to go and grab an early dinner, then on to watch a film… And Sunday, I have to be up early to get Lil Man to his first cricket match of the season… which finishes at lunchtime, and then we pop back home to see my parents who are coming over for an hour to see Hubby Dearest…

I’m going to start next week on the backfoot, again!

It’s not just a physical strain, but a mental one too… I am constantly thinking about him, and the kids, and what I need to get done next… never-ending…

So, strain… Yes. I know that feeling very well…

Strain
Feeling
Exhausted
Out of control
Not able to rest
Just constantly worried
About what is coming next
Every single day needing to
Plan with military precision
Yet still never finding time for myself

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#SoCS April 6/19

Linda’s #SoCS prompt this week:

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “fab.” Use it as a word or find a word beginning with “fab.” As always, use any way you’d like. Have fun!

The first thing that came to mind when I saw the prompt was icecream!

I don’t know if you have these anywhere other than the UK but here we have ice lollies called Fab!

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They are a mix of strawberry and vanilla ice, dipped in chocolate and sprinkles!

Have you had one?

I must admit I am not a big fan, but the kids love them!

Fab lollies are older than me… introduced by Lyons in 1967, to coincide with the popularity of Thunderbirds, alongside another lolly called Zoom which was more rocket shaped for the boys… Apparently girls would have prefered the ‘feminine’ shape of a Fab, rather than a Zoom lolly…

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Personally, the ice lolly is more my thing!

#SoCS March 30/19 – Dough – D’oh

Linda’s #SoCS Prompt this week:


Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “dough/d’oh.” Use one, use both, use ’em any way you like. Enjoy!

D’oh! Gotta love Homer Simpson!

He’s given us the best reaction phrase for when you goof up!

And that Homer also loves donuts (or doughnuts as we should really spell it!)

Do you like doughnuts?

Short’n’sweet this week!

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