Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 374 – New Beginnings


“Every moment is a fresh beginning.” 

T.S. Elliott

Time to keep it calm and positive this week, eh Spidey! Especially after last week’s Asda fiasco!

Today I am using one of my children’s experiences to reflect on for the day.

Now, as most of you know, Lil Man is an avid cricketer, and all he has wanted to do, over the last few years is excel at what he loves the most. He spends time every day outside, practicing bowling, and batting where he can, taking on the tips of the coaches he encounters, to perfect his Leftie Spin bowling.

He was with one particular club for the first part of his cricketing career, and though he had matches and training, he never felt as if he was being pushed in the right way. Overlooked for games he should have been playing, and this was noticed by a good few of the other club members.

When he was selected to play for district cricket last year, he was over the moon, and it was suggested that a club change might be better for him, to a place where he gets pushed and is able to showcase his talents to the right people.

The house move meant that this was a viable option, which we took on, and this year the boy has been training with a club which is generally playing in Premier and First division games and boasts a good number of county players already.

He’s been really focussing on his training, and we have been supporting him in every way we can, even when he does something crazy like split his bat in half when he played a cracking shot in training a few weeks ago! (New bat was delivered, all knocked in, yesterday, phew!)

And the last couple of weeks, he has been playing some friendly games ahead of the season start. Initially, we were told he would probably be in the Sunday Development team, for the lads who are working well, but not quite at the main team levels, but he was selected for the third team this week, and for a moment was even considered for the seconds, too. (Well done, son!)

And guess who he was playing this week? His old team! He was a little worried about facing them, and the possibility of a bit of a backlash because he left them, but it was actually a joy to see how happy they were to see him!

Okay, so they lost, but with a very close score, and he bowled well, getting two wickets as well!

He sits and beats himself up, convinced that he’s the reason they lose, but cricket is a team sport, and he didn’t even get a chance to bat. And, no, he didn’t give away loads of runs, which is what he is convinced of.

But, what he doesn’t realise is that the club are already recognising his raw talents, considering they were ready to play him in the second team, today!

Working on making him realise that every day is a new beginning, every match is a new start, and that this new club will be amazing for him.

So, what advice would give a youngster who can’t see his own successes because he clouds over at the smallest of what he thinks are failures?


Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 324 – New Beginnings


“Every story has an end, but in life every ending is a new beginning.”


Thanks Spidey, for those little pearls of wisdom.

It’s true that in life there isn’t just one beginning, and one ending.

Yes, we are born, and yes, we die. That is the ultimate beginning and ending.

But we need to think of life as a series of chapter books. We aren’t just one book. We are a whole set of them.

Each new part of our life starts anew, and when that part ends, we begin the next.

Babyhood, childhood, new schools, college, university or work, relationships, marriage and/or children,and so on.

They are all the different books in our life series.

Similarly, I like to think that every day is a new beginning. Each morning I wake up and thank God for giving me another day. Sure, the problems or issues from the day before won’t have gone, but you can bring a fresh perspective to what you are doing.

New beginnings are on the horizon for me… Huge new beginnings… that’s why they’re on my mind. I’m nervous, but excited, too. Big changes, but a lot the same, too.

Sorry, I know I’m being cryptic… but soon, I promise, my blogily, I will tell all!

So, tell me, do you believe in new beginnings?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps.   

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 287 – Starting Afresh


“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.”


Thank you, Spidey for a thoughtful quote there.

This next week heralds a whole host of ‘new’ beginnings, what with much of the country starting to get back to some semblance of normality, once schools start up again.

It’s been a strange five months, what with the pandemic and lockdown, as we. can pretty much all agree, and one thing that has become obvious, is that schools opening are essential for the rest of the population to begin to get themselves back to work, etc.

So, we will be starting back, excited to see our new children, or our old, hoping to bring some stability to the lives of some children who have lived through a time unlike any other.

But, it won’t be like they remembered, especially for the younger ones, who had only begun their school life mere months before being instructed to stay at home.

And it will be equally different for the older kids, too, with limited mixing with others, and a whole host of catching up for all pupils to do.

But there are apprehensions, too. Parents still worrying about how schools are going to function in a way that is safe for their children. Adults worrying about whether this is safe for them, as well as their family members back home, who they will be mixing with every evening.

Still, we soldier on.

Then I have the big clear out still happening, as well as improvements being made on the house, a build up to another new beginning, hopefully.

I’m tired from a few days in school, as well as hefting boxes around, but it’ll be worth it in the end.

And finally, I’ll be beginning my 46th voyage around the sun on Thursday.

Yes, I will be turning 45! Eeeek! What can I do to celebrate, when I will be in school and also taking a child for teeth extractions?

I don’t know, but there is something you wonderful readers could do for me.

The book, Marriage Unarranged, is on sale from now, until Thursday evening, on Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk.


A bargain!

It would be amazing if you could download your copy, and/or share this offer, so my book baby could get out into the world, even further!

That would be the best birthday present ever, to see my book rankings going up, even for a few days.

Right, now I am off to try and do some more clearing up!

So… tell me, is there anything you are planning on starting over?

Have a peaceful Sunday Peeps.  And enjoy your week! ❤ 

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 253 – New Beginnings


Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.     

Henry Ford

Firstly, welcome back to Spidey and his wisdom on this first Sunday of 2020!

Today he brings with him a quote full of insight.

Often, we complete a task, then find out we didn’t quite get there. The first feeling is failure. time to lament how rubbish we are, and wallow in self pity.

What if i told you that was poppycock?

Fail is not negative.

Fail is this:

F - First
A - Attempt
I - In 
L - Learning

You see, this is where you have to embrace the power of YET.

Just because you didn’t get it now, doesn’t mean you’ll never get it. It just means you need a little (or lot) more practice, and you can get there.

It’s all in the power of the mind, and your perseverence.

I nearly succumbed to the whole “I am cr@p” thing this week, after being elated at getting the proof copy of my book, Marriage Unarranged. I have read, reread, tweaked, edited, submitted for feedback, changed and reread this manuscript so many times, I was sure there would be no errors…

Then a dear friend who is reading for review purposes came back to me with a note to say she was enjoying it, but there were a couple of niggles, with silly punctuation errors (only a few) and a couple of spelling slip ups, and that she knew how hard I had been working on this, so to make it better, to check it one more time, with a fine tooth comb.

I was, initially, devastated. How could there be any more errors? I have worked my backside off to get this baby perfect!

But she gave me a couple of examples, and when I checked, lo and behold, she was right.


Now I really did have to go through it again, not reading the story, but looking at the mechanics. That is one of the toughest things to do. I can’t even read aloud in a monotone voice, because I am one of life’s storytellers, and as I read words, the emotions and accents come out naturally. (Ask my class and colleagues… they love me reading Rastamouse – Irie, man!)

After posting in one of the extremely supportive groups I am a member of, on Facebook, I got lots of ideas, and started looking through the book with a ruler, pen and my Post-its. Then, I pulled up the word document, and the formatted Vellum version, and corrected the errors I had been told about. And went on from there, finding a few missing full stops, or speech marks, and a couple of spelling errors that I wouldn’t have picked up easily via spell check, or grammer check, as they were real words, but not the right ones.

And one of the members offered to proof read the document again for free, in exchange for a testimonial for her business website.

Note to all wannabe writers out there: publishing a book is an expensive business at the best of times. You can get sucked in by vanity publishers, or stuck in a vicious circle of finding the best editors/cover designers/formatters etc. and find that money can leak through your pockets so fast, if you aren’t savvy. I have had to spend some, but I have to say, compared to what I have seen others mention about their spend for a book, I haven’t done badly at all. I have relied upon word of mouth, and recommendation for many services, and by being open to helping others, I have found many people willing to help me with a lot of the services that you would usually pay for. Looking it up, the average self published author will spend between $2-4000 for a book. I think my spend, once I order my author copies, including editing, cover design and some promotion, will be $1200. So, if you find anyone offering, genuinely, to help, from beta readers to covers, consider the offer carefully. It can help you cut your costs, but make sure you trust them, and are confident of their recommendations and work too.

So, now I await the feedback from my proofreader friend, then I can resubmit the files, (hoping page count doesn’t change – that affects the cover size, and my designer is on holiday, and of there are any alterations, it might mean that the paperback is delayed) and hope my version of perfection is acheived, finally!

Here’s hoping the next time Spidey visits, there will be a much improved version of my book available! It’s just not quite there, yet!

So… tell me, is there anything you can’t do, quite, YET, but are persevering over?

And, if you did want to preorder the Kindle version of my soon-to-be released book, just click on the following link – getbook.at/Marriage.Unarranged

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 47

 Spidey apologises. He was taking a well deserved break last Sunday, but he hopes you all had a most serene first Sunday of the year!

“In every end, there is also a beginning.” 

― Libba Bray, A Great and Terrible Beauty

Use this thought to wave goodbye to any sadness and negativity from 2015, and remember that, not only January 1st, but every day is a new beginning. 

If something needs changing, you don’t need to wait for a certain date to change, you can start that new beginning whenever you want.

Have a serene Sunday Peeos!

My interactive peeps!

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