“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” – Charles.R.Swindoll
A timely reminder here Spidey, thank you for that!
This is a statement filled with truth.
Everything is about perspective really, isn’t it?
Things happen, the same things happen, to many people, yet the outcomes of those events vary greatly from individual to individual.
And it is largely because of your reactions to said events.
Everyone is faced with difficult situations at some time or another, and how you react to them colours the path of your life.
It’s sometimes easier to automatically have negative thoughts when something unexpected happens, and then the world picks up on that.
Whereas if you try to see the silver lining, and pick the positives, it can really help to make your life smoother.
And, hard as it may be, it is important to wait before reacting… an automatic reaction, where words are said, or rash decisions are made, cannot be undone, whereas a moment’s thought, to put things into perspective, could be the difference between a tougher existence, or a smooth road, with just a couple of inclines.
I have one piece of advice which I am regularly doling out to my nearly teenage son…
Always think about the reaction before you action.
Basically, think before you speak or act.
The amount of times I have to say it to him, (he’s a tween… of course he doesn’t listen to his mum!) or remind him, when he’s getting frustrated by things, be it homework, or an altercation with his sister!
But if he thought that the reaction to him screwing up his homework because he couldn’t do it, would mean that he would have to do the whole thing again, maybe he’d think twice about being so rash, and ask for help.
Or if he realised that the reaction to him choosing to wind his sister up unnecessarily and repeatedly, would be that his phone is confiscated, maybe he’d refrain from doing so…
And now, I am starting to repeat the same phrase to my dear 9-year-old daughter who thinks she is a teen!
Right, now I am off to hopefully not react to anything, and to have a really lazy Sunday!
Enjoy, Peeps!!!!!
But I Smile Anyway... 
Dec 12, 2017 @ 22:33:21
This is soooooo true love your examples
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Dec 13, 2017 @ 06:41:20
Thanks Susan!
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Dec 11, 2017 @ 12:27:10
Reblogged this on Die Erste Eslarner Zeitung – Aus und über Eslarn, sowie die bayerisch-tschechische Region!.
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 18:24:01
Hehe, Ritu, I hope you got your peaceful Sunday.
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 18:25:45
I did Robbie! A proper Pj day!!!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 17:08:42
Hope you could find the lazy zone Sister! Great quote and something we all should take to heart!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 17:15:50
Totally lazed today Brother!!!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 17:17:56
Good, we need a good lazy day now and then!!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 17:32:17
Pj day… bubble bath then fresh pjs again! Perfect!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 18:20:18
Haha, yes, perfect!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 15:01:18
Good quote, Ritu and Spidey! I’ve been hearing this since I was a kid.🤗🍭
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 15:03:15
It’s so important Lisa! 😊
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 13:39:18
Good luck to you 😊 and thank you for the advice. I need it too 😁
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 13:48:20
You are most welcome Bee! Happy Sunday xxx
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Dec 11, 2017 @ 11:57:42
😁
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 13:34:56
Great advice Ritu. Whenever I have the impulse to write an emotional email, I do just that…. and then save it as a draft. I then re-read it the next day and ask myself “Do I still want to send this?”
In a spoken dialogue that is elevating emotions, I try to consciously think about my response (before delivering it) and then ask myself “What constructive purpose would be served by me saying that?” If there is no convincing answer, then I don’t say it! 🙂
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 13:47:49
It’s hard to do but those previous few moments of thought can have a profound effect!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 13:53:11
Absolutely. One just needs to stay in control of oneself and take a brief pause for thought.
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 14:08:45
True 😊
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 13:14:55
So true! Not what happens to us defines our life or ourselves but how we react to it! Happy Sunday, sis! Writing this from my apartment. Moved yesterday!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 13:32:01
Aw!!! Happy New home sis 🏚🏠🏡
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 20:41:04
Thank you, sis! I have felt home from the first moment on. Already put up my Christmas tree 😊
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 20:52:04
🎄🎄🎄🎄💖💖💖💖
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 20:58:53
😁😁
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 07:47:39
Love the opening quote, Ritu, and your development of it. That’s the essence of a sane approach to life!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 09:58:19
Thanks Steve. It’s a good way to think and act but can be hard to do. Happy Sunday!
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 06:43:09
Nice post
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Dec 10, 2017 @ 09:56:56
Thanks 😊
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