What Is In A Name?

After the Get To Know Me Tag post, and reading Debbie’s post about names, I felt inspired to write another post! (You know me, blogaholic and all that!)

So, if you didn’t read my tag post (and why ever not??!! ;P) the question was “Who were you named after?”

My answer was this:

 I don’t believe I was named after anyone specific. But what I do know is that my name, Ratinder, was meant to be! It is a custom  in the Sikh religion for the parents to go to the temple after a baby is born. Prayers are done, and then a random page is opened in the Guru Granth Sahib (our holy book) and the letter that starts the first page is the letter that the baby’s name should start with. My parents already wanted to call me Ratinder, Ritu for short, but the rest of the family were expecting this tradition to be upheld. Pops went, and R came out, but his sisters didn’t believe him, so it was done again with one of his sisters as a witness, and lo and behold, R came out again. So you see, I was destined to be Ratinder/Ritu!

Yet there are other aspects to my name, and little stories surrounding it.

Like I was always Ratinder, to everyone at school, and to my mum if I had misbehaved! But it was Ritu that I was called at home and in the family. Affectionately called Ritu by those I loved, and those who loved me.

Ratinder was a bit of a mouthful, and when we were around eleven years old, we studied The Wind In The Willows, and were introduced to Ratty.

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Ratty from The Wind In The Wilows

He was a lovely rodent, kind of heart and all that, but the name Ratty doesn’t always make you think positive thoughts. Nevertheless, one of the girls in my class cottoned on to the fact that my name started with Rat… so Ratty, as my nickname, was born! From eleven to seventeen, I was henceforth known as Ritu at home, Ratinder to my teachers (and mum if I’d been naughty!) and Ratty to my classmates. Thanks Kenneth Grahame!

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Another affectionate moniker, which my brother resorts to sometimes, is Tindi Paal. Full maiden name was Ratinder Padhaal. One of my school friends had a little sister who couldn’t say my name, and Tindi Paal is what came out. It stuck too!

Starting university was a big thing. The birth of my independence, I guess, and a chance for me to give myself the identity I wanted.

Again Ratinder was the name my tutors used, apart from Pam, one of my favourite Drama tutors, who used to called me Tinder (not the app, thank you very much! This was a long time before then!)

But I introduced myself as Ritu. This was the name I thought of with a lot of affection. This was the simple Indian me. No more Ratty, or Ratinder! 

Just Ritu.

And since then, that is what I am known as.

Don’t get me wrong, I do love the name Ratinder… Tried to find a meaning for it… It can be made up of two portions… Rati and Inder

What does the name Rati mean?

The meaning of the name “Rati” is: “Repose; (sexual) pleasure”.

What does the name Inder mean?

In Hindi the meaning of the name Inder is:Supreme god.

So what, am I the Supreme God(dess) of Pleasure??! Sounds kinda fun!

This is in the Hindu name dictionaries!

We aren’t Hindu, but Sikh, Punjabi, so I asked my Pops and Mum and they said to them, Ratinder meant Changing Seasons. And Kaur, the middle name for all Sikh women meant Princess, so my name meant Princess of the Changing Seasons. (Don’t confuse that with the weather… I am NOT responsible for the changeable weather! Jut the seasons, apparently!)

And on a side note, Ritu means Season, so I guess I’ll go with my parent’s definition… thought the Hindu one does sound cool!

So, tell me, any interesting stories about your name? Leave a note in the comments!!!

Your Invite: Be Mine Blog Party

Blog Party up over here! Follow the link for the venue to a Valentines Blog party!

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You have been invited to Scale it Simple’s Be Mine Blog Party!

To celebrate reaching 2000 followers I want to invite you all to be my Valentines date this year! You won’t be disappointed.

What better way to celebrate the energetic and over the top day of love which is10 Valentine’s day than to read some awesome blog posts and meet some new blogging friends?

No need to worry, you won’t need any boxes of chocolates, flowers or heart-shaped cards to join this blogging party. 

This blogging party will be an opportunity for you to share your blog posts with a larger community and connect with like-minded creative people!

There is no theme for this blogging party so all posts are welcome, although it will be held on Valentine’s day so feel free to post something lovey dovey if you wish. As long as posts are tasteful and the content is appropriate!

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Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 104 – #Loveuary Special

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“Where there is love, there is life.” – Mahatma Gandhi

See, even Gandhiji knew the importance of love. It is so true though, without love, and these kinds of strong emotions, what kind of life would we have?

I leave you with that dear Peeps! Happy, romantic Sunday! ❤

 

Day 12 #Loveuary❤ – Marriage

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Marriage to me is so important. Seeing my parents, and in-laws, and my grandparents too, I grew up wanting a marriage as strong and secure as that.

In their days, marriage, in the Eastern cultures, came before love. You were matched according to family and compatibility. As a girl, you were trained up in the arts of homemaking, and cooking, in the hope that these skills would do you well in our marriage.

In my time, and now, it is more likely that a couple fall in love first, as with their Western counterparts. Careers and life experiences come way before the rest, and often you are left to bumble along, learning how to be a ‘wife’ in the traditional sense, on the job!

This little poem is about my experience. We met, we went out with each other, we fell in love, we married. And our love grows with each day that passes.

The day I smiled at you
Changed my whole life
Led me down a path
Where I became your wife

Clandestine dates
In secret locations
Midnight passing in
Whispered conversations

Changed in a flash
Once those vows we took
Enjoying homemaking
And learning how to cook

Supporting each other
A true marriage of souls
At one time feeling incomplete
Now we do feel whole

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Remember, feel free to take part in #Loveuary! Just ping back to the daily post, as in this one for today! And if you are at a loss for a prompt, then visit my rules post here for a list of prompt suggestions!

Get To Know Me Tag

The other day Sandra invited me to take part in a Tag Challenge, and so I stored the email, ready to have a go. Then today my blog Sis Erika, decided to also name me as someone to answer this series of questions… so I figured I had better do it, now two people want to ‘know more’about me!

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1. Who are you named after? I don’t believe I was named after anyone specific. But what I do know is that my name, Ratinder, was meant to be! It is a custom  in the Sikh religion for the parents to go to the temple after a baby is born. Prayers are done, and then a random page is opened in the Guru Granth Sahib (our holy book) and the letter that starts the first page is the letter that the baby’s name should start with. My parents already wanted to call me Ratinder, Ritu for short, but the rest of the family were expecting this tradition to be upheld. Pops went, and R came out, but his sisters didn’t believe him, so it was done again with one of his sisters as a witness, and lo and behold, R came out again. So you see, I was destined to be Ratinder/Ritu!

2. Do you like your handwriting? My writing never stays the same… I was like this as a child too, always experimenting with styles, so sometimes I hate it, and sometimes I love it, but can never keep it the same!

3. What is your favourite lunch meat? Chicken

4. Longest relationship? 20 years next month!

5. Do you still have your tonsils? No… they departed when I was 4! I still remember the hospital, and the cot my mum slept on to be with me. I remember the tomato soup I had to eat, and the fact that I could have untold amounts of ice cream to soothe the throat!!!

6. Would you bungee jump? I would love to try!

7. Do you untie your shoes when you take them off?  I only possess trainers with laces, and I have to admit I never tie or untie them unless they are really loose!

8. Favourite ice cream? Mint Choc Chip!

9. What is the first thing you notice about people? Their eyes and smile.

10. Football or baseball? Oh Lord, neither! Give me a good book anyday!!!

11. What colour pants are you wearing? Pants in the American sense or the British sense? I was wearing navy blue leggings today, (American) and dark peach pants (British!) 😉

12. Last thing you ate? Birthday Cake!

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13. If you were a crayon, what colour would you be? Lilac!

14. Favourite smell? Fresh baked bread

15. Who was the last person you spoke to on the phone? My mum ❤

16. Hair colour?  Brown at the moment, but naturally, black!

17. Eye color?  brown

18. Favourite foods to eat? Oh so many, Pasta, chocolate, Chinese, chocolate, Indian, chocolate… did I mention chocolate??!!

19. Scary movies or happy endings? Happy endings definitely, but a good old scarefest once in a while is great!

20. Last movie you watched? Jenny’s Wedding – About a lesbian who needs to tell her strait-laced folks she’s marrying a woman!

h21. Favourite Holiday? I’m a teacher… if it says holiday, it’s my favourite!

22. Beer or Wine? Not a big drinker, but if I had to choose, wine is my tipple of choice!

23. Night owl or early bird? I’m afraid I do a bit of both… Naturally get up early, and am brighter then, but like to stay up late too!

24. Favourite day of the week?  Sunday. I have nothing to rush to, so can relax with my little family totally!

24 1/2. Which three of your favourite bloggers you would like to know more about? Rich, Judy, Syl

25. Who were the latest three people to follow your blog (link to their about page)?
https://martinhoughton.com/
https://mikechara.wordpress.com/
https://buffydevane.wordpress.com/
Thank you guys and each one of my followers for following me!

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