Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 373 – Frustration

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“A sense of humour is God’s antidote for anger and frustration.” 

Rick Warren

Oh, Spidey, I tell you what. If I didn’t have a sense of humour, I probably would have had an Asda induced breakdown yesterday! Peeps, are you settled for a LONG retelling of my date with disaster, also called Asda’s Online Grocery shopping? Get comfortable. Honestly, I wish I could have written as many words on my WIP as I just have for this retelling!

I am glad I didn’t rush to write my post late last night because it would have been filled with negativity if I had.

Yesterday, I had my morning planned with precision, since the cricket season is upon us, and we live in the back of beyond, nowadays.

I usually receive my Asda grocery delivery on a Saturday morning, so, in order to accommodate the regular matches, too, I opted for an earlier slot of 7-9am for the delivery. This would give me a chance to unpack the items and see if I missed anything important, which I could then pick up from the Sainsburys right next to the cricket pitch.

That gave me at least an hour before we had to leave for cricket.

Obviously, I was up with the larks because a) I am always paranoid that I will miss someone ringing the bell, so I needed to ensure the gate was open, and b) because Sonu Singh kindly spent half an hour musically miaowing in my face, as he was hungry.

It was too early to do anything else on my list for the day, since if I cleaned our ensuite bathroom, and showered, I would be too noisy, and would wake Hubby Dearest, and the same would go for any hoovering and mopping.

I settled down with my book, and read and snoozed, intermittently checking my phone for an update from Asda, who usually message to say when things are on their way, and what might not have been available. That arrived, so I lay back, confident in the knowledge that they were on their way, and I also know what was on my secondary shopping list, with items that were unavailable. (Only two, so that was a good thing!)

It hit 8.30 and nothing had arrived, but that isn’t unusual, in itself. They could be a little late, but that was okay, I had it covered. Lil Man was up and getting prepared. I also had a trip planned to a lovely fresh butcher’s stall, which is set up on a Saturday morning, to pick up some meat for a barbeque we were having on Sunday, so we arranged to leave a little earlier so I could swing by, as things get sold out quickly, there.

Once it hit 9am, and nothing had come, I started to panic a little, as I still hadn’t showered, because I didn’t want to miss the doorbell, and it would be Sods Law that as soon as I stepped into the shower and lathered up my hair, they would turn up. (Yes, I know Lil Man was there, but as a minor still, they wouldn’t have released the shopping to him, and Hubby Dearest was still asleep, and it’s like waking the dead with him on a weekend!)

So, I called them up, and was put on hold, then cut off.

It was nearing 10am now, and I had hoped to leave at 9.45am. I was flustering now. Hubby Dearest woke up and told me not to worry, that he would sort things out, and I could get ready to go.

So, I rushed and showered (cleaning the bathroom at the same time!) and called Asda again as we left. This time the lady said she would call the store and see what was happening and call me back, as the tracking system was down.

I managed to get the barbeque seasoning I needed, but not the specific meat we wanted from the stall, but no bother, as I still had my scheduled trip to the other supermarket to pick up the bits I knew weren’t coming in the Asda shop.

I kept my phone in my hand as I quickly whizzed around Sainsburys, before dropping my son off. As I packed the shopping in the car, my phone showed a missed call, despite it not ringing! Typical!

So, I called Asda back (The third time). This time the lady had a look at the notes and called the store while I was on hold, to find out what was going on. Fifteen minutes in, the call got cut off. I was more than a little frustrated now, as I had reached home. It was nearly 11am, and the delivery was now two hours late.

Fourth call to complain to Asda. The next lady said it was unlikely this delivery would happen, but she could rearrange it for later in the day, between 4-6pm. Not convenient, but fine. So, we went through the rigmarole of reordering, and I noticed a voicemail on my phone once I cut the call.

This was lady two getting back to me to say the shopping should be there by 12pm. Gah!

I called back (fifth time, now!) to confirm that the first order had been cancelled and it was just the second that I would receive. This was confirmed so I finally sat back for a moment to calm down because by now I wasn’t just a little miffed, I was extremely frustrated and annoyed.

The afternoon went by, and I pottered around, doing little jobs, getting updates from Hubby Dearest on the cricket match, and trying not to think of Asda and how I could have just gone and done my whole shop in Sainsbury’s earlier this morning instead of having to wait around. (Hindsight is a great thing.)

At 4pm I checked the order status which should be showing out for delivery, and it still said packing…

At nearly 5 pm it hadn’t changed, so I made call six to Asda and was told by this operative that because I placed this order today, it was past the cut-off, so I probably wouldn’t get it. To say I was fuming, was putting it lightly! I was even in tears by now, not able to word my frustration, and I assured the woman I wasn’t angry at her, but the whole system sucked, and that I hadn’t placed my order late, they had, as it was a replacement for their cock up earlier, and that they had messed up, TWICE, now! She told me to talk to the store. I said no, you talk to the store, they never answer to customers and are quite rude, but that I needed the delivery, now ASAP. So, off she went, leaving me on hold, to find out what was happening.

Fifteen minutes later, guess what happened? They cut me off!

Now we were at call seven. I was almost a blubbering mess as I explained, for the seventh time (why are their notes not updated!) that I had been messed around a lot. It was also nearing 6pm now. The lady was very sympathetic and as we were talking, an email popped in my inbox to say the order was on its way, but that half of the items were now unavailable, and most of the swaps were unacceptable. I told her what I had received and that this morning, had I received the order correctly, I would have had pretty much everything I needed. I just wanted to cancel it. I was totally incensed by now.

Oh, and she also said that they should have my original morning delivery, still packed in their warehouse, and maybe she could get them to find that and send it out instead, as it would have the items I requested. I politely refused because there was fridge and freezer stuff in there, and goodness knows how it had been stored during the twelve hours it had been picked and packed! I know they have refrigerated areas, but still, you can’t be too sure. No thanks, Asda!

She reassured me she would cancel it and was very apologetic. I also told her (politely I promise) that a £5 gesture of compensation would no way cut it. The stress of the day and having to call them so many times had driven me to distraction, and I was now going to have to go out, AGAIN, to do a whole food shop, which I could have done earlier that morning, had I known what a balls up they were going to make of my day!

By now, Hubby Dearest and Lil Man had arrived back (victorious, as they won the match and he got 2 wickets, and a maiden over, too!) Hubby could see I was almost shaking in frustration. He offered to go to the shops with me.

Lil Princess was in a good mood and wanted to get out, so in the end, we both went to Sainsbury’s (again), and as I got there, a message popped up (it was past 6pm, now) to say my Asda shop (which had been cancelled) would be there by 4.30pm! What? And a text to tell me the driver Jerome would be there in three stops. Whatever. I told Hubby Dearest to refuse the delivery if they turned up and we went off to shop.

Dubious that we would get everything we needed so late in the day, we whizzed around Sainsbury’s and miraculously managed to get everything we needed.

I arrived back home and unpacked the shopping when I heard laughs from the living room. (Here’s where my sense of humour finally came into play!) “Ritu,” Hubby Deaerest called out, “Guess who’s turned up? The Asda delivery!”

Now, I am fully aware it wasn’t the driver’s fault, but Asda, seriously?

The guy started carting the baskets of food to us, but I stopped him. Hubby said why not take it, and they can give it for free. (Hasty explanation that they have already taken payment for this, but we don’t want it, and they would refund, plus we had already done our shopping and I did not want everything in duplicate!)

The driver was apologetic and said he had been waiting over an hour at the store for the deliveries he needed to make to be packed as they were running late as the store was short-staffed. All this meant that he was running late for everything, himself. He took the stuff and went on his way.

Another hour later, I got an email to say sorry, we have had to cancel your order. Erm, no, you haven’t. I cancelled it!

Oh, and the one from 7-9am? That is still showing up as out for delivery!

Fast forward to this morning.

I checked the site, and one was ‘cancelled’ and one phantom order (the morning one) was still ‘out for delivery’. Asda has taken around £200 from my account and not begun the refund process.

I called, again.

Just to ask that this other order be cancelled and to reiterate that I either needed to speak to someone or was expecting some sort of compensation for the awful inconvenience and stress that I was caused by Asda’s incompetence, yesterday. The guy has requested everything and apologised profusely.

Through all this, I have to say that the Asda customer service phone operatives were all so polite and helpful, despite cutting me off three times, which I am sure was more about their system than them doing it on purpose (I am trying to give them the benefit of the doubt, here!) It’s a shame that the ones who answer the phones in-store are so rude… that’s if they ever actually answer the phones!

Right, rant over, I promise!

I’m just hoping the weather gets better now, and our planned barbeque happens!

So, have you had frustrating days like the above? How did you handle it?

namaste

Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 368 – Happy Mother’s Day!

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“The world needs our mothers.” 

Liya Kebede

Thanks, Spidey, for the chance to celebrate all that is Mother’s Day!

There are so many beautiful quotes about mothers, because, by and large, mothers are beautiful creatures.

We all have, or had, one, since we are in this world as proof.

Mothers provide that shade when we need respite, that scaffolding when we need support, that cheerleading when we need encouragement, that love that is all-encompassing.

I am so, so blessed to have the mother that I do. She has been a source of inspiration for me, throughout my life, and I always say this. If I am even half the mum she is, I will be brilliant, because she is so, so wonderful.

And I am lucky to have a mother-in-law who is such a gem. From birthing my perfect husband to being the most wonderful grandma to my children. I know that even though mum own mum is far away, I can get a motherly hug whenever I need one, from her.

I have aunts and the mums of my friends, who are mother figures to me, too.

Then there are the two who call me mum.

My children, who blessed me with the title of Mother. A name I, at one time, never thought would be uttered in my direction.

Sure, they are teenagers, so the only time I hear “Muuuum!” at the moment, is usually when they’ve lost something, need something or are hungry, but, the times when we sit and spend quality time, together, that is equally as wonderful.

It is a blessing to be a mother to these two, and my fur baby too, and for the first time, I am also a work mum, myself (so I am obviously one of the more mature members of staff, now!) My nursery teacher is officially my work son, and he calls me his work mum!

My heart always goes out to those who have lost their mothers, who have had difficult relationships with their mums. And to those ladies who wish to be a mother, but cannot, or who have lost a child. 💜 It is a hard day for those people. Huge hugs to you all. 🤗

So far, today, I have been woken by my furry son, for food, ironed two loads of clothing and written two blog posts. It is just past 9am. No one else is awake yet, and the clocks also changed today!

I have a huge fresh cream Victoria Sponge cake to tuck into at some point, (maybe a decadent breakfast?) made with love by my Lil Princess, there are sweet gifts sitting on the coffee table which I will wait to open when they awake. We have a little visit to my mother in law, planned, and my own beautiful mum, who is a little far away, received two special hampers from us.

So, enjoy Mother’s day in the way it suits you, my Peeps! 💜

namaste

Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 367 – Confession

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“So, I have something to tell you…”

Ritu Bhathal

Thanks, Spidey, for letting me use your post as a kind of confessional, to my readers.

So, a couple of you already know, but I have been rather unwell the last couple of weeks. I didn’t make a big deal of it on here, because, well, I didn’t want anyone to worry, but now I am on the mend, I thought I’d share with you about my experience of ending up catching that horrible virus, that I have managed to avoid for the last two years.

Yup. Covid got me.

My Covid Diary

Dearest Peeps,

You know I have been complaining of being a little unwell, and, well, that’s one way of describing it.

You see, I finally succumbed to that monster, Covid-19, possibly the Deltacrom mutation, who knows, but it hasn’t been pleasant.

I have been so careful the last two years, yet still, it got me.

Monday 7th March

Oh, I am feeling so tired, and it is only Monday. School hasn’t even started yet!

Tuesday 8th March

Another day of waking up fatigued, even though I slept early.

Wednesday 9th March

Yup, still tired. I’ll do a test. After all, it is Wednesday, one of our Bi-Weekly days for testing in school. Negative. Another early night for me. I do feel a little breathless, though… It’s been building the last few days. Out of breath just walking a few steps, or up a flight of stairs.

Thursday 10th March

Wow, now that is a sore throat to wake up to. Better test. Negative. Dose up on the Paracetamol and make sure I have my throat sweets with me. Just found out one of my school colleagues has tested positive. Poor thing. She was feeling rough yesterday.

Friday 11th March

Ouch, that throat is still bad. A message to say another colleague has tested positive. Let me just test again. Nope. Negative. Only one day until the weekend. I can get through. By lunchtime, my nose is streaming, and I can’t stop sneezing. The pressure around my sinuses is building fast. I leave school as quickly as I can and tell my in-laws I won’t be popping in as I feel unwell but collect the kids to take them home. As I drive, the pressure from my sinuses causes a headache that I cannot deal with, but I must get home. Quicky, do a test. It takes milliseconds to appear. That line that I haven’t had appear before. The second one proves it. Yes, I have a positive test. Funny, 18 years ago, all I wanted was a BFP (Big Fat Positive) when we were trying desperately for a baby. Now, I really didn’t want to see this. But it all makes sense. I message Hubby Dearest to tell him and get the kids to test. Negative, thankfully, but that means nothing. It could hit them at any time. I dose up on more painkillers, make a warm drink to soothe my aching throat, and climb into bed.

Oh, this is not nice. Not nice at all. I speak to NHS Direct, because, let’s be honest, there is no clarity in the Government guidelines about what you can and can’t do, or should and shouldn’t do, that makes sense. They confirm that since I started symptoms the day before, even though the test was negative, that was my Day 0. So, today is my official Day 1, and if I get to Day 5 (Tuesday), and test negative that morning, and the next, I am okay to go to school. (Obviously, if I feel better, that is.) Messaged the school to let them know. Oh, man this is going to be fun… I am losing another member of staff, a couple of weeks early, too, so how will this pan out? Oh, and been pinged about another colleague testing positive… That’s four…

Saturday 12th March

Day 2 – Yup, I am definitely ill. I have used a box of tissues so far with the way my nose is streaming. Cough, cough. That hurts. I even need the inhaler as I feel that weight of breathlessness crushing my chest. But, no temperature and I can still taste and smell. Small mercies. A day in bed, watching mindless TV, reading, and snoozing. It is strange having to walk through my own house wearing a mask, and when I must, and spraying disinfectant everywhere. Thank goodness the kids are teens and love to be holed up in their rooms, instead of mixing with us! Get them tested again. Still Negative.

Sunday 13th March

Day 3 – I wake with a slightly less runny nose, but the cough… and the pressure on my chest… not going anywhere. I can feel a little pressure on the sinuses, and a niggle of a headache but nothing like Friday. The test is still a very strong Positive. I know. It’s not Day 5, yet, but I was hoping for it to become feint, or at least a little feinter… Another ‘take it easy’ day. It’s a good thing I like my room, isn’t it? Kids are still negative, though, so that is a relief. Get a message from school. I have a supply teacher to cover my class, thank goodness. But now we are up to eight members of staff positive. Thankfully not in my team, but still, that is a lot of adults down… Think positive, test negative, Ritu!

Monday 14th March

Day 4 – Wake early. Feel a bit better. It’s just the cough, sore throat and the breathlessness left, I think. Tested. Still very dark positive. Meh! I manage to do a little work, not because I am expected to, but because I want to. It makes me feel useful, at least. Kids aren’t in school as they have an inset. They still test negative. By lunchtime, I am flagging. The pressure on my sinuses is building, and I can feel a dull headache coming. I sleep. Then wake again. I feel exhausted. Losing hope that tomorrow will give me a negative, but you never know. Another staff member unwell, but no Covid… yet. Got a Dr calling me on Wednesday. Will be talking about the breathlessness. It is worrying me.

Tuesday 15th March

Day 5 – I hope, beyond hope, that I get the first of those two negatives, so I can be in school tomorrow. I’ve been up since 4 am, as my body clock is doing silly things. I hate being off, away from my class and team, and despite being thankful for a supply teacher, I really don’t like leaving my kids with one… No such luck. It’s positive again. Still got that breathlessness and every time I eat, I feel nauseous after. Test the kids as it is back to school for them, negative, thankfully. However, as I get a little work done, in the morning, a message comes from Lil Princess. She’s feeling sick. Then, she’s been sick. I have no choice but to mask up and tear down the road, windows open, to pick her and her brother up. It is a bit of a trek, from where we live now, to school, so when someone is not well, it isn’t that simple. Plus, I don’t want to ask the in-laws as they are still vulnerable, and I will not risk them getting ill because of us. By 12 pm we are back home. I am exhausted again. Hubby Dearest comes back from work a little earlier to finish his day at home, but he was too far to go and pick them up, so we just have to work with things as they are. I rest up again. By the evening, I start to feel warm. For the first time, I have a slight temperature. That was one of the ‘main symptoms I hadn’t experienced, yet. Sore throat, yes, but so far, my smell and taste is intact. Hopefully, an early night will help me out, and that negative… Fingers crossed for tomorrow…

Wednesday, 16th March

Day 6 – I woke, I tested. I got a negative! Still not feeling bright though. Checked on kids and one is still not right, so spoke to the school about absence, and whether it was okay for Lil Man to work from home, as he only had one lesson. Done. Then walked past my test, which now said Positive! Now, I know not to read them after 30 mins, but it had been a bit dark when I did it. So did another. This time a feint line, within the 30 mins. Obviously, the viral load has gone down, hence the feint line, but it is still there. Today I had calls with doctors, and a Zoom course to attend. Nothing too taxing, and something I could do from my bed. However, just talking to someone for more than a few moments still causes me to get breathless. Me, not able to talk is not a good Ritu to be. Also, any food makes me nauseous, half an hour after eating. And the tiredness. Morning is fine, then lunch comes, and I need a proper nap! Contacted a couple of my other positive gang and they all have varying lingering symptoms, still positive, but better in many ways. Everyone has the tiredness, though. Meh. Off to bed, again.

Thursday 17th March

Day 7 – the feintest of positives, but still there. Oh, well, that’s me off school until Monday. I feel much better in most ways, but the breathlessness and heaviness on my chest is still playing havoc. A couple of minutes of chat on the phone causes me to lose my puff. Kids are still negative, which is a weight off my mind. Work during the morning. At least I have been able to be practical with the time I have off and have done a lot of admin that will just sit there, otherwise. Afternoon rest, then today, I had to go, masked up with windows down to pick up the kids as Hubby Dearest is in London, and I still don’t want them going over to the in-laws, yet. Back home, I rest up, again. Try to arrange an appointment with my new best friend, the receptionist in the doctor’s surgery, as I am a little worried about the whole chest situation. Hope I get to speak to someone tomorrow, but tentatively booked in for a phone consultation on Monday, anyway. The team have been messaging me all evening with lovely supportive messages. As have certain members of my management team, too. It means a lot that they care. I am blessed to work where I do. It is stressful, as a job, but we are in it all, together, and that’s what counts. Right. Off to try and get another decent night’s sleep!

Friday 18th March

Day 8 – Guess what? My first negative test! Finally! I feel a lot better, compared to last week, but I know I am not right, yet. I manage to speak to the doctor’s surgery, and they have told me to continue with my inhaler for now, as this particular symptom of Covid, the breathlessness, and tightening of the chest when I cough, could be with me for a few months. Oh, joy! She didn’t want to keep me on my phone for long because she was aware that too much talking would cause more breathlessness… A little more work done, and rested, again. Still get tired. I don’t know how I will cope without afternoon catnaps next week! Still, I am grateful that I have the rest of my health and that my family are healthy, too. Managed to eat without feeling nauseous, too. In a way, I wanted that to stick for a while… It might have helped me shift a few lbs! Never mind. Off to watch Comic Relief.

Saturday 19th March

Day 9 – Negative, again, yay! And even though I am still in need of the inhaler, things are looking up for me. I pottered, enjoyed the beautiful spring weather, too, and hoovered a little (but needed a proper rest after!) then tonight, for the first time in over a week, I cooked. I am still thankful that I haven’t lost my taste or smell, but it’s also good to have the appetite back a bit more. And, just to add to things, this turn of good weather has also decided to activate the year’s hay fever! Wonderful!

Sunday 20th March

Day 10 – officially, after today, I should not be contagious in any way, but I’ll still be taking it carefully. It will be a day of getting things ready for school, for tomorrow, and ensuring I have medications packed in my bag, for anything untoward. Covid has not been fun, at all. I wasn’t so severely affected that I needed hospitalisation, but I didn’t get off mildly either. A solid week of feeling rough, a lingering little cough and fatigue, and this breathlessness which is promising to be a close friend of mine for a while yet. But I am thankful I am okay, and that the rest of the family stayed negative all that time.

Wish me luck for school, tomorrow!

So, have you stayed safe, or have you succumbed to Covid at all?

namaste

Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 366 – Zzzzzzz

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“Sleep is the best meditation.”

The Dalai Lama

Thanks, Spidey, you know I have been tired and worn down, recently…

I’m keeping it short and sweet, today, because I shall be partaking of a lot of the aforementioned ‘meditation’ this weekend!

My bed is my best friend right now… And my body knows it, too.

So, can you recognise when you need to rest?

namaste

Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 365 – Rain

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“The nicest thing about the rain is that it always stops,. Eventually.”

Eeyore

Thanks, Spidey! Since it hasn’t stopped raining much, here the last few days, it’s a good thing to get positive about it, since we can’t change it!

The weather, as is expected here in the UK, is extremely changeable, especially right now during that Spring cusp. Not so much April showers, rather showers as and when the clouds decide to empty their load, and sometimes their loads are rather full!

Rain on school days is a bit of a pain, because the kids need to get out and run around, but if it’s tipping it down, wet play means they are like caged animals, craving the feel of fresh air, and it doesn’t make for an easy class to teach, either!

But, as my friend Eeyore says, it will stop, eventually, and usually the sun decides to pop out after.

Yes, it can be a pain when rain stops events happening, but to be perfectly frank, for me it is a great excuse to be sat at home with my book!

So, what do you think of the rain?

namaste

Wishing you a wonderfully peaceful Sunday, Peeps!

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