Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 215 – Mother’s Day UK


“I got to grow up with a mother who taught me to believe in me.”

Antonio Villaraigosa

Thank you Spidey, for a beautiful quote that resonates with me profoundly.

Yes, it is Mother’s Day here in the UK, and a day to really celebrate our wonderful mothers.

Well, as I tell the kids at school too, we should appreciate them every day, but today is the day you can go all out and show them just how much you love them, not necessarily by material things, but by how you behave.

Breakfast in bed, giving her a break, not arguing (my kids, are you listening?), tidying up, a surprise cup of tea, a handmade card.

Seriously, these things are what make a Mother’s Day special for me at least.

And I have a true legend to celebrate.

My mum.

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Mum ❤

My mum is just amazing. She has been a nurturer, a friend, a support, a discipliner, an inspiration, a teacher, a taxi driver, a cook, a housekeeper, a most amazing Nanny, and just all round wonderful Mum.

I don’t have the words to tell her exactly how much she means to me, but she knows.

We aren’t always able to be together for Mother’s Day, due to distance, but our hearts are forever connected.

Happy Mother’s Day, Mum!

If I am only half the mother you have been, I’ll be bloody excellent!

I love you ❤

So… tell me, what do you have planned for Mother’s Day if you are celebrating?

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 160 #MothersDay


“A mother is a woman who shows you the light when you just see the dark.” –  Grimaldos Robin 

Never a truer word spoken.  I know my mother is one who helps me see the light and positivity in all situations.

She is my rock, a beacon of light in the darkness, keeps me grounded, and loves me for me.

I am so happy that she is here with me to celebrate Mothers Day today, so I am off to wish her a Happy Mother’s Day.

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But remember, today may be a day to celebrate, but appreciate your mothers everyday. You wouldn’t be here without them! ❤

Go spoil your mums! And if you are Mum, enjoy you day!

Stay positive 🙂

Happy Sunday Peeps!

My ‘Other’ Mothers #MothersDay

Other Mothers


Yes, really!

My mum, my biological mother, will always be my idol. A woman I respect to the utmost, someone I aspire to be like, but over the years there have been others that have given  me the love of a mother for various reasons, and I want to celebrate them also.



The first ‘other’ mother I have to mention is, of course my Mother-In-Law (MIL).  Now, contrary to popular belief, my MIL and I have an amazing relationship.  I am so lucky to have her as my MIL.  She is a lovely lady, and has been a huge support to us, and me, as a woman, first and foremost.  She knows what its like to leave your home, and all you know, to live in another totally alien family.  I am 3 hours away from mine, she is a 10 hour plane ride away from hers!  She has taught me the ropes of being a daughter-in-law in my new family, helped me hugely with my journey to become  mum, and when I finally was one!  She looks after the kids for us, still cooks us meals, and nothing is too much for her… but the biggest thing, she gave me the love of a mum, when my own was far away. She treated me like the daughter she never had, and for that I will always be grateful. Love you MIL mum! ❤

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The second ‘other’ mother who is so important in my life is one of my aunts. I have to say here that all of my aunts are pretty special to me, they have all loved me, and treated me like a daughter, but this one I hold a special candle for… She has been in my life for many years, married my uncle.  They were unfortunately not blessed with a child of their own, despite many attempts to become parents.  Still, she had a smile on her face all the time, and through many important periods of my life she has been there, supportive, as a mother would be, and I have always wanted to give her the love and respect a mum deserves, as she would have made such an amazing mother. In fact, even though she couldn’t biologically do it, she has been ‘mum’ to many, helping her own other nieces and nephews to settle down in new countries, and new lives, and their children call her grandma, as they would to a ‘real’ grandma.  She is not well nowadays, fighting diabetes and epilepsy, and constantly giving us a scare, but she does it all with this most precious smile.  Last year she was ill, in hospital, and it was touch and go.  In fact my parents rushed overseas to be by her bedside, and I was on standby to go, if things took a turn for the worse… but she slowly turned a corner, and fought, and Pops would send me pictures of her in hospital, wearing the God – awful gowns, and hats, but with the biggest smile ever!   I love that smile, what I wouldn’t do to see it regularly.  Love you Mamiji mum! ❤



The third ‘other’ mother I have is not someone in my family, or even from our community or religion. She is my ‘Ammi’, my best friend’s mum.  The day we became best buds, our families became extensions of each others.  My mum is called ‘mum’ by her, and her mum ‘ammi’ by me out of respect, and love.  See, a Sikh and Muslim family can have such a bond.  Ammi is such a wonderful person, funny, caring, loving.  I don’t get to see her often nowadays, but she is still someone, who, when she knows her daughter is seeing me, will make up my favourite dish of hers, and send it in a Tupperware pot, like any mum would do, and who would lament with me over the phone about my bezzie not getting married, and where she would find a suitable boy! (she did folks, and he is lovely!) s looks at my children as another set of grand children, and loves to see her ‘other’ son-in-law (Hubby Dearest), when he deems it right to pay a visit too! Love you Ammi mum! ❤

So you see, Mothers are not just those who give birth to you, but those that nurture you, and help you become the person you are. There are many such women out there who take the place of a ‘real’ mother for various reasons, be it as a step parent, a foster mum, an adoptive parent, or, like I have, those who you feel in your heart, deserve the love and respect a mother naturally should garner. My Mum will always be my mum, and she has taught me that my heart is big enough to have this type of love for many. She knows she is the most important lade in my life, but I believe she would be proud to know that I recognise these other women, the way I do above.

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Another set of thoughts pre Mother's Day.

“You’re just like your mum.” The biggest compliment in the world! #MothersDay #SundayBlogShare


Mothers day, or Mothering Sunday, is here in the UK, on March 11th this year.

It’s a time to show your appreciation for that wonderful woman who put you here on this earth.

But like Valentine’s Day, why should there be just one day when we show our love, and gratitude to these fantastic females?

I would like to celebrate my mum every day. She has been a rock throughout my life, and I’m sure will continue to be one for many years to come.

Recently I have had many people comment on how much I am looking like my mum. I don’t just want to look like her, I want to be like her too!

There is usually a bit of a thing from hubby to wife isn’t it? “Your getting like your mother!” Well Hello!!! If I am anything like my mother, you are one lucky man!!

  • She is the calmest person in all situations, she’s handled some crazy ones, and always carries herself with great aplomb.
  • She is a most amazing cook! I feel privileged to have grown up with her cuisine, she has encouraged my brother and I to try and learn from her too.
  • She taught me simplicity is best. I credit my good skin to her not smothering herself in makeup when I was little, and so not being too fussed about it myself, on a day to day basis.
  • She brought us up with fairness, and though there was the chance, she didn’t spoil us. Instead both her and my Pops made sure we had all we need to life a comfortable life.
  • Her patience is never ending!
  • She’s kinda cuckoo, in a good way, she knows how to laugh at herself!
  • She is a marvellous grandma to our children too!
  • Her way of talking to people means that almost everyone is at ease with her, and she is a confidante to many.
  • She knows how to handle family!
  • She is a wonderful Mother-in-Law, ask my Sister-In-Law!
  • She has an infinite amount of love for us all.

When I was younger, I’d look at her and be kinda mad, jealous, even. Her eyes are this beautiful light brown, and mine, that plain old dark brown of your average Indian. Instead of me inheriting them, her niece got them!

She had the long straight hair which my brother got, I got the wild frizzy curls courtesy of my Pops.

She got the naturally amazing shaped eyebrows, I got caterpillars. And she had non existent hair in legs… Me… The opposite!

But I did get her curves. And for that I am grateful!

And, even without certain physical features of hers, I really do look like her! In fact I was looking at old pictures from her school and college days, and had to do a double take. What was my picture doing in her old album?! She laughed and said ” No beta (child), that was me!”

Now I’m a wife, daughter-in-law and mother myself, I fully appreciate how much my mum has given of herself, how much of herself she has devoted to her children and family. I don’t think I am capable of doing all she has done but if I am half the mum she was and is, I know I’ll be amazing!
So thank you Mum,
For all you’ve done.
For all you’ve helped me through.
I couldn’t find
Another kind
Of mum, like you, it’s true.
Ritu 2015

Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 117 – Mums…


“A mother understands what a child does not say.” Proverb

Seeing as it’s Mother’s Day in many other parts of the world, including the US of A where Spidey hails from, we thought why not celebrate it again!

I think there aren’t enough days in the year to truly celebrate what a mother is to us all.

The proverb above couldn’t ring more true for me anyway.

No matter where I am, what I am doing or how old I am, my mum always knows.

Whether I am feeling high as a kite, but haven’t said anything, or so low that I feel the ground will just rise above me, she knows.

It’s that mother’s intuition.

And she wont go rushing in hammer and tongs, asking me “What’s up? Why? Who? What? When?”

She just has that knack of saying the right thing to either allow me to open up, or to soothe my feelings.

She knows there are things I can’t tell her sometimes, or that I won’t, yet she still won’t push for information.

No interrogation.

Just that silent support.

She’s there for me. She always is.

And just as she can read my silence, I can feel her silent support.

Thank you Mum! ❤

Happy Mother’s Day!

Enjoy your Sunday Peeps! If you’re a mum, I hope you get appreciated for all you do! If your mum is still with you , make sure you show her how much she is loved. If your mum is being your silent support from above, look up, and thank her for still caring, even though she isn’t here.

For mums everywhere 🙂

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