Anniversary Musings

16 years ago, I finally became a Mrs.

It was a beautiful day, albeit a little cold, being November!

A year of frantic planning, which had followed a beautiful four-year romance, during which we made the choice to be together forever ♥

We did the whole shebang, full on traditional craziness, from all the colourful customs, like the Maaiyaan (turmeric ceremony) and the Chura (Bangle ceremony), to some more modern, personal ones like a fancy dress night – well my family did anyway!

And the day itself was magical.

The beautician turned me into a princess, and my prince was there waiting for me at the Gurdwara, ready to take our vows in front of the Guru Granth Sahib Ji, and our loved ones.

We had a beautiful ceremony, followed by a fun-filled reception (I even had a bubble machine for the kids – and me!)

The Doli (leaving ceremony) was emotional, where it really hit home that I was leaving my parents, but after a heart-wrenching set of goodbyes, we finally set off on the journey that would take me to my new home.

And here we sit, 16 years on.

Happily together, with our own home, two crazed tweens, a furbaby and two feathered ones too!!

My Hubby Dearest has been my rock for the last 20 years, to be honest, and every day my love and respect grows for him a little more. He’s put up with my craziness over the years – and there is still plenty of that to come! He lovingly calls me ‘#Hashtag-Valiye’ – Hashtag Girl, basically, having had to share me with this blog, and all the social media that comes with it for the last few years.

I can truly say that I would not want to spend my life with anyone else but him.

Hubby Dearest- Happy Anniversary my darling, I love you more each day, thank you for being who you are, and for accepting me for who I am. Thank you for gifting me with our two children. Thank you for your never-ending support, and belief in me and my capabilities. My wish is that we are together forever, writing new chapters of our life together as we gain wrinkles and memories ♥

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Our First Dance

And so today we are off to celebrate our 16th Wedding Anniversary – sans children or pets – with a weekend away!

Beneath The Apple Blossom – Kate Frost #BookReview

Another week of the holidays done, another book read.

A while back (possibly even a year back), I read an interview with an author called Kate Frost. Her then newly released book, Beneath The Apple Blossom, looked to be something that would be of interest to me.

The Blurb:

Four women, linked by blood ties, friendship, betrayal, loss and hope, struggle with the choices they’ve made and the hand that life’s dealt them.

All Pippa’s ever wanted is marriage and kids, but at thirty-four and about to embark on IVF, her dream of having a family is far from certain. Her younger sister Georgie has the opposite problem, juggling her career, her lover, a young daughter and a husband who wants baby number two.

Pippa’s best friend Sienna has a successful career in the film world, and despite her boyfriend pressurising her to settle down, a baby is the last thing she wants. Happily married Connie shares the trauma of fertility treatment with Pippa, but underestimates the impact being unable to conceive will have on her and her marriage.

As their lives collide in a way they could never have predicted, will any of them get to see their hopes realised?

As I read it I was amazed at how emotional it made me feel. I remembered the time when we were struggling. The anacronyms like 2ww and BFN and BFP flooded back, as I remembered the wonderful forum I had joined when we were struggling with conceiving, and after, for the support of others in the same situation.

It’s true though, not every woman wants to be a mother. And not everyone can make a good one either.

But the pain that accidental pregnancies can cause to others, I’ve experienced that too, while we were in the midst of our own journey. Hearing about someone talking about a baby that wasn’t expected or wanted, was like a knife being plunged into my womb, and twisted. Yes


It felt that extreme.

Yet when there were others who were expecting, and it was a much longed for baby, I was overjoyed for the parents-to-be.

Deep down I knew that one day, our turn would come. And it did, twice, with two angel babies in between.

Beneath the Apple Blossom: The Hopeful Years Book 1 by [Frost, Kate]

My rating: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

My reviews on Amazon and Goodreads:

What a great book!
Having been through fertility struggles of my own, it was amazing how I related to a lot of the issues faced by 2 of the main characters in this book.
It’s very true, that as much as some women crave to be mothers, there are those that really don’t feel it’s for them, and this book explored both sides of the same coin.
The realistic writing brought back some painful memories for me, but also that sense of camaraderie that I too felt in a very special online forum that I had also joined while trying to conceive.

Buy it on Amazon here.

Thoughtful Tuesday


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Always remember to be as much of a support to those who have been your crutch at some point or another… 

Stand By Me – Thoughtful Thursday


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We all need that support, that backbone behind us… For some it’s your family. For some your friends.

It may be one individual, it might be a group, a mixture of people, creating the support network you require.

Always try and be there for people you love too. Even though they might seem to have everything, and be happy, you never know when they might need a crutch… Just that little bit of support. And they might be the support you need one day in the future.

I’m not in any major need of support, as such, but knowing I have my Husband, parents and family right there, is all the reassurance I need to carry on every day, and on top of that, I have lots of aquaintances, but the friends who I hold close to my heart, are always there, at the end of the phone, or available for me to speak with them, if I needed it.

Just knowing that I have them all there, any time I need it, is enough for me to lead a fulfilled, happy life, 

Oh, and the children’s hugs and smiles always help too!

Know that you have people behind you, (I’m one of them!) and be someone’s invisible support too, it’ll make you feel good. 😊

Acquaintance vs friend

“So called friends are like the leaves of a tree;
Scattered all around.
But true friendship is like a diamond;
Very rare.”

If you ask someone how many friends they have, numbers really vary. What? Are you talking about the Facebook ‘friends’, or Twitter ‘followers? The friends from years ago who you see once in a while, if ever, at gatherings, or bump into in town? Those school, or university chums who meant everything to you at the time but then you all drifted apart. There was nothing that disintegrated your contact, no fight or argument. Just distance and/or and situation.

Or those people you see regularly, who know the ins and outs of your present life?

It also depends on the age of the person you are asking. If you ask a 5 year old, they’ll tell you the number of children in their class, or sit and count everyone they have ever met. A teenager might have ‘none’ because they are going through that difficult stage where “no one understands me!”. Or they will have 798, because that’s their social media count. Then, as you get older, well, those of you that are older will understand…

I’m talking about those friends who know you inside out, know your heart and soul, those people who you might not see all the time, but who you have a connection with. That person who you can call or visit, after months, or even years, and fall straight back into that relaxed relationship with. You don’t necessarily have to have known them all your life, these diamonds can appear at any time in your life, when you least expect it. And these people are the ones you find you can share everything with, knowing you’ll get honesty back, and support.

Not counting some very close family members, if I think very hard, I would say 2. Two people, one who I posted about before, my gorgeous best friend, and one more recent. (I say recent but we met over 9 years ago.)

That sounds crap really, doesn’t it? After over 40 years on this earth, I feel like I have 2 really close, good friends. Not to offend any of my other friends, I have many people who I count as friends, from different times in my life, childhood, school friends, university friends, friends from various places of work, mum friends. All people who are special to me in some way or another, but they know one facet of me. They know the me of that time, not the evolved me, and the whys and wherefores of who I am. All these people are my leaves…

But I thank my 2 diamonds, they are always there. Sometimes they might not know, or realise it, but they are the tonic I need to carry on, at times.


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