31 Mar 2016
by Ritu
in Family, Thoughts Opinions & Memories
Tags: Blog, Blog Post, Blogger, Blogging, good cop bad cop, Morning or Night Person, Parenting
A morning person.
That’s me, most definitely. I’m the annoying one, bouncing around (without coffee, I’ll have you know!) first thing in the morning!

And it’s a good thing too, as my Hubby Dearest is definitely the opposite… A true Night Person.
He’s not great with alarms.
So it’s a good thing I am. Because we have kids. And they seem to think that 6am is the right time to wake, every morning, or Lil Man at least! (And Lil Princess, in the holidays… really?! The struggles to get her to wake in the term time are unreal, yet in the holidays, 6.15am… why?!)
So breakfast is done, they are settled, and any bickering is dealt with by calm, rested mummy. If Daddy is roused, there is not a particularly patient parent there…
However, come 7pm, and mummy is getting tired. Mummy can’t quite cope with the constant bickering. Mummy, shock horror, shouts! And in steps angel Daddy, to sort the problems out calmly, with no raised voices.
Hang on a minute, I was meant to be the Good Cop! When did the Baddie change places with me?

It got me thinking though.
This whole Good Cop/Bad Cop parenting thing.
We aren’t ever really just one of them, are we? Well in our household, there is definitely a personality change in Hubby Dearest and me, partway through the day!
And it directly correlates with our sleep patterns.
I sleep early because I am shattered from a busy day. I wake early, and refreshed, so I can be patient. Hubby Dearest sleeps late, and rouses himself later than me too, so he is at his prime, later in the day.
So I get Good Cop duty in the morning, and he is most definitely Bad Cop if he is woken up, and I morph into Bad cop by the evening, when my patience has worn very thin, but because he has had no kids to deal with in the day, and has woken later than us, Hubby Dearest switches to Good Cop!
So, which are you? Morning/Night Person? Good Cop/Bad Cop?
Images from Google.
30 Mar 2016
by Ritu
in Challenges, Children
Tags: Blog, Blog Post, Blogger, Blogging, Gap, Haiku, Hugh's Photo Challenge, Photography
It’s Hugh’s weekly photo challenge. Check out the prompt here.
(Funny story alert. .. I’m trying to post this at my parents home and their WiFi filter deems Hugh’s blog as far too risqué! So I’m having to do this via my mobile so I can get all the links up, then edit via my Surface!

The prompt word?
GAP
Want to join the fun? Here’s what you need to do.
1. Take or choose a photo that you’ve taken which shows a gap in it.
2. Create a new post on your blog entitled “Hugh’s Weekly Photo Challenge: Week 19 – “Gap”
3. Add the photo(s) you have taken to the post and tell us a little about what you are showing.
4. Create a pingback to this post or leave a link to your post in the comments section below so that other participants can view the post.
So here’s mine, taken at Conkers Nature Park last summer, when Lil Princess was very nervously completing a rope adventure course… she was finally at the end and this great big gap appeared in the wooden slats! There were tears, and possible tantrums, had she not been too worried of falling through the slats, but she got there in the end!

Leap Of Faith
Nearly there
Just one more big step…
Mind the gap!!!
Ritu 2016

30 Mar 2016
by Ritu
in Kids Logic Series
Tags: Blog, Blog Post, Blogging, Children, Cray Cray, Humour, Kids Logic
Well, you know, if you read my blog, that I am a Nursery teacher, and that I have a rather interesting set of children in my afternoon session. Special needs, English as an additional language, behaviour… all sorts goes on in the afternoon over here!
Well, Lil Princess came into my classroom one afternoon, as she was coming home with me, rather than being picked up by her grandparents. She had heard about the kids from me, but not actually met them.
She sat, watching in bewilderment, as kids launched themselves at each other, and just did whatever they pleased, rather than listen to the adults in the room.
This was her comment to Hubby Dearest that evening…
“Everyone listens to mum… Except her afternoon class! Oh My God, those kids are cray cray!”
From the mouths of babes, eh!

30 Mar 2016
by Ritu
in Challenges, Fiction, My Writing
Tags: #Snippets of You, Blog, Blog Post, Blogger, Blogging, Sacha Black, Venus on Earth, Writespiration #Writespiration
Sacha has asked us to do this for this week’s Writespiration challenge.
1 – The title of your current WIP – if you’re working on more than one, just choose the one you like the title of best. Or if you like, make a title up.
2 – A 150 word snippet from your current WIP. If it is part of a series, feel free to post links to amazon for the first book (only) in the series and I will add it for people to have a look.

So here goes… one of my WIP’s, a new one, could be a collection of short stories, could be a stand alone long story…
Venus on Earth
That’s the supposed titles… the working title as it is called.
And the 150 (151!) word snippet…
All pretty usual for this place.
Then you get Venus House.
Intriguing name, isn’t it?
It’s one of the townhouses on my road, right opposite my own rented space. A beautifully kept house, and as far as I knew, it was owned by the lady who lived there. There had been no converting, but I think she rented rooms out to students. Well, I had seen a number of young women who had stayed there for a while, before moving on, and a little time went by before another face became a familiar one.
Thing is, there were also quite a lot of visitors to this place. They could be family or friends, I know, but it seemed strange that they only came most evenings…
Oh, I wondered plenty about this house. It was intriguing. And one day I got to find out a lot more about the tenants and owner…
29 Mar 2016
by Ritu
in Children, Thoughts Opinions & Memories
Tags: Blog, Blog Post, Blogger, Blogging, Children, Education, Fixed Mindset, Growth Mindset, Positivity
The other month we had a staff training session.
You know the feeling right?
A whole day sitting, listening to someone chit chatting away about things that are totally irrelevant.
Techniques that will probably be forgotten by 95% of the people attending the course, as soon as they walk out.
But this time, there was something pretty major that I took away with me.
The training was all about Differentiation in the Classroom. In layman’s terms, that means how we can teach the same to all different levels of pupils. How we can cater for all within one lesson, and have each pupil leaving the classroom, feeling like they learned something.
It’s not an easy thing to do, from the Early Years through to the older children, but it is so important to actually present learning in a way that a child understands.
The speaker talked about mindsets, and specifically Fixed mindsets Vs. Growth mindsets.

Now, I found some images on Google that give you a bit of an idea about what these mindsets are.

In a nutshell, we have to, as educators, allow our pupils to have a Growth mindset. They need to feel that they can do it. They can learn something. They just have to keep on trying.
And in order for them to be able to develop this mindset, we need to have the same too.
Literally, the next day, I was talking to my own children, and Lil Man, who finds maths pretty tough, was chatting to me. I have never been much of a mathematician myself, and I was ready to sympathise with him, saying I was never great at maths too, but then I remembered what the lady said the day before. So I altered my own words to say that, yes, I was never the best at maths, but I hadn’t stopped learning, even to this day. In fact, I am ashamed to say, I don’t know my times tables by heart… thought with my own children learning them, I am getting better every day!
These statements below are a great way of altering your wording, so you can make any possible negative statement into a positive!

Since the training, I have been very mindful (We had to train on that, mindfulness, too once!) of the things I say, and how I say them.
Yes I hate sports, and I used to say I was never any good at them, but the fact of the matter is, I was pretty good at hockey, and netball. Discus and javelin, I loved. Badminton and tennis, again more physical pursuits that I enjoyed. I just enjoyed other things more, so I never developed the skills. Who knows, I may have been another Fatima Whitbread if I’d kept up the throwing!
Lil Princess loathes going to Punjabi school on a Saturday for 4 hours ( I would too!) but my in-laws were adamant that she should. I was always saying I wasn’t bothered about sending her, as I never learned how to read and write my mother tongue. I speak it well and understand it better than many Punjabi GCSE holders. But then I realised that I should be positive, for her sake. She may not be great at it, but if she carries on, it’s another feather in her bow. And If she really hates it still by July, we can stop it, but she won’t have been a quitter, she will have given it her all for this academic year.
The whole mindset thing, it’s really what I am about, actually. I have always been a glass half full kinda gal, seeing the silver lining, and I think that is really key to having that growth mindset. Positivity. Knowing that something can happen, and that things can change. It’s just sometimes it’s you that has to embrace change first and try your hardest!
So, the moral of Ritu’s latest ramblings?
Don’t think “I can’t!” think “ I’ll try!”.
Images courtesy of Google.
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