Spidey’s Serene Sunday – Part 92

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“You don’t need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.” – Anon

Seeing as it’s our anniversary weekend this weekend, Spidey found something that kinda ties in with that.

A true thought.

Why do we spend so much time trying to find that missing piece? That one person who will make us feel whole?

It is really a wild goose chase, as we are already whole. Each of us is different, and we’re made up differently physically, as well as emotionally. As much as we look different, we act differently too.

That’s what makes us unique, who we are.

Something I always like to say is that “We are all imperfectly perfect, in our own way.”

Within each of us there is something amazing.

But there is often something not quite so nice lurking in there too.

Love, be it romantic, familial, or friendship, is all about acceptance. If you love someone, you love them for all their flaws, as well as their perfections.

And if they truly love you back, they are accepting you, just as you are.

I am by no means perfect. Heck, ask my Hubby Dearest! But then neither is he!

We have our arguments and bickering sessions, as well as sickening displays of full-on love and affection.

He loves my curly hair, and hates it when I want to get it cut.

He isn’t a big fan of social media, yet he knows it is something that helps me, with my blog and writing, and keeping up with my countless family members!

He’d rather rush in and out of the shops, and can’t understand when I chatter away to people.

But these are just things that are part of me. And he totally accepts them, just like I accept him for who he is, and what he is.

I was me before, I am still me now. Complete. But with an amazing extension attached, that is ‘him’! (And vice versa!)

Have a happy Sunday Peeps!

Enjoy your day, and be complete!!

15 Years Married

Fifteen years ago today, I woke extra early.

I was primped and preened to perfection and dressed as a bride… your bride.

Five years, we had been waiting, to make this official, and finally the day was here.

It flew.

A magical day where I felt like a Princess, finally swept off her feet by her Prince Charming.

And the last fifteen years have flown equally fast.

Two beautiful children, one fur baby, our own home, and each other.

What more could I want?

Nothing more.

Just many more years, like the ones we have already spent together.

Wishing a Happy 15th Anniversary to my darling Hubby Dearest. I love you soooooo much, and feel blessed to have you by my side 💖

 

My Love Of Reading…

Another little blast from the archive past! Excuse me while I dive into my kindle…!

 

Reading a recent reblog by my favourite ape, Chris, made me think… (Yes, really! I do tend to think sometimes😜!)

The original post, from the blog Kawanee’s Korner, can be found here.

It was a quote about why I love to read…

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It made me think of a few occasions when I wasn’t sure whether my love of books was normal…

From when I can recall, in my childhood, books were always an integral part of my upbringing. Whether it was stories that my mother read to us, or the books that I loved to read, to the piles of books by my mother’s bedside, and the shelves chock full of various titles, from fiction to non fiction, in the study.

I hated to be without a book. We would embark on many long car journeys, to and from the South, visiting various family members, and attending functions, and I would more or less always have a book with me, to read in the car.

It was devastating when I started to suffer headaches whilst reading on the move… all those wasted hours where I could be submerged in the latest story of choice! Trains were ok, so were planes, but car or bus journeys, a total no-no. My mum subscribed to some story magazines where you got the audio version on tape alongside a magazine with the stories. So at least I was able to listen to stories as we travelled.  But it wasn’t the same as reading whatever book I was consuming at the time.

Still, I carried on reading, whenever I could. From the favourite childhood authors, to the soft romances by Danielle Steele, as that was what my mum had at home. She also loves to read wartime family sagas, so I devoured them too.  As I hit my teens, I wanted something more meaty.  I am not a crime or thriller fan, and neither is my mother, so there was nothing like that for me to read, but the Flowers In The Attic series were sat on a high up shelf.

The series, by Virginia Andrews, got me hooked.  I read them all, and probably several times over.  Mum had other books by the author too, and so I slowly devoured them all, and as new ones were published, we would buy them, and I would read and read and read…

As I grew older, I still had a social life, but it wasn’t the be all and end all for me, not being in a pub or club on a Friday or Saturday, at 16, like it as for my classmates.  I was either with family, or happily tucked up with my favourite book. I didn’t know many others my age who loved to read like I did… perhaps I was the bookwormy geek that deserved to be the School Librarian!

Oh I loved that title!  I used to spend lunchtimes in the library, sorting out books, recommending titles for the younger girls in the school. The actual school librarian was a tiny, and I mean tiny, little Chinese lady, and I feel awful that I have forgotten her name! She was a little 4 foot book whirlwind, and she was the gentlest of souls, not like the stuffy librarians you see portrayed in films and programmes generally.

Anyway, I am letting myself get carried away with my memories!

Now, when you finish your exams, say your A-levels, that is something to celebrate! What do you do? Go out for a meal, drinks, that sort of thing, right?

Not for me! The year I was doing my A-Levels, there was a new book being released. A Suitable Boy, by Vikram Seth.

vikram sethIt was a huge tomb of a book, the longest book to be written in the English language, in one volume, at the time. It was nearly 1500 pages long! A very involved family saga based around an Indian family. I was desperate to read it! My mum bought the book, and held it like a carrot, dangling it in front of me, telling me that it would be my treat once my exams were over. I was so motivated! Seriously! Sad am I?

There are probably those who would actually think so, but for me it was such a great thing to work towards!  The exams finished, and I was given the book to read… and boy did I read!!

My Pops actually got a little worried. I was holed up in my room, in my bed for about a week, not wanting to go anywhere. He, being the concerned father, asked my mum if I was ill. “No dear, your daughter is just reading…”

And I was. I finished that 1500 pages over a week. I was determined to do this.  For me it was a like a week away, getting right into the story. My mum had said that she would wait for me to finish before she read it, she could take months to read a book compared to me and the lengthy sittings of reading that I could undertake, being a single, young girl, with no other responsibilities! (I’m pretty sure she still hasn’t read it! It’s only 22 years later!)

Can I just slip in here, as I read some facts about A Suitable Boy on Wikipedia, I found out there is a sequel coming next year! Called A Suitable Girl… I know what I will have on pre order!

Anyway, as I went to university, books, of the reading for pleasure variety, took a took a backseat, as I got involved with student life properly.  See, I wasn’t the geek that I had always thought I was!  But you know, they were never far away. It might have taken me a tad longer to finish a book, but I still read, intermittently.

And over the years, I’ve carried on reading, sometimes I finish books within a week, sometimes it takes longer, but there is always a book near by, be it a physical book, or my Kindle, or even the Kindle app on my phone, I know I can read almost anywhere.

As the original quote that inspired this post said, I love that feeling of getting swept away into this ‘other’ world, this whole parallel universe where the story I am reading, is taking place. I almost feel a sense of loss when a book I have particularly enjoyed finishes.

So, be it chick lit or biographies, historical romances or family sagas, I love to read them, I always shall, and I don’t care if I am a nerd for loving books!

Reflection – #writephoto

When Sue posted her prompt this week, I was overwhelmed by ideas. But the biggest one was the fact that to me, the photo showed the shape of an eye, and the reflections you see within one.

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So, with that in mind…

Love’s Reflection

In me I see you
In you I see me
Is that not what love’s
Reflection should be?
Two bodies one soul
You make me feel whole
With you by my side
We’ll achieve every goal
I search deep in your eyes
Every thought do I feel
Lucky to have
A love that is real

Ritu 2016

A little romantic poem for you this week!

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Roses #writephoto

Sue’s photo prompt today reminded me of the first bunch of roses Hubby Dearest gave to me when we were dating. He was a student, so they were never going to be the full-headed, huge, deep red blooms that you need to take a loan out to afford.

But they were roses, there was a dozen, they were red, and they were mine!

I was so touched, I wanted to keep them forever!

Remembering the advice of a friend, instead of trimming them, and sticking them in a vase, I used twine to secure the bunch and then hung them to dry, upside down.  They dried beautifully, with their little heads held high.  The colour faded. What aroma they had, disappeared. But they never failed to raise a smile, when I looked at them. I kept them for a few years, but they got to a state where they started to disintegrate, so I had to say goodbye to them…

Then, two weeks ago, at my parents, I found myself giving my mum the same upside down drying advice! Pops and mum had been away from each other for 5 weeks, as my brother sustained an injury, falling on ice in Finland, where he lives.  Mum went over to him to help out a bit, and Pops was left, home alone.  He keeps busy, but I know how much he missed mum! And when she arrived back, he bought her a beautiful bunch of roses, romantic old fool, my darling Pops!

When I went to visit, they had been sat there for 2 weeks in a vase and were still in amazing condition. Only one bloom was starting to droop. Mum proudly showed her flowers off, and as they were in such good nick, I suggested she dry them upside down, as a wonderful memory!

The photo immediately brought a thought of a haiku to mind, and here it is…

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Withering away
Yet showing ageless beauty
Sparking memories

Ritu 2016

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